Ive only kissed 3 people. first tasted like beer,told me i was a good kisser and before i knew it his tongue was in my ear,2nd was nice and told me i was a good kisser,and 3rd...really wet and sloppy and forceful and loved my kisses but i didnt care for his.. Didnt feel a spark with anyone but i dont really know what this 'spark' is supposed to feel like anyways. I dont want to be lonely forever but..Noones been my type of 'perfect'. I know looking for that is killing my chances but fuck settling for less. Its either perfection or none. Im perfectly capable of being alone and pretending not to care but bad kisses are worst than none.

Kissing is like anything else, practice makes perfect. There can still be chemistry even if the kissing sucks... though I'd find it hard to be with someone that I couldn't kiss, I mean, making out is basically a hobby.

A bad kiss is a deal breaker. Kissing is a part of that spark, a tangible part of expressing that feeling. I've had some bad kisses and I've probably given one or two myself; there's probably a related reason as to why we never saw each other again.

no thats wrong.  a kiss is a kiss. well of course you cant be sloppy and slobber the persons face but,

a kiss means to me : a simple sing of "i love you" and of course i make sure its great!

i keep it small, innocent, and ..... idk i take it as a sign of trust.

but i guess im just a weirdo hahahaa

You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh. 
The fundamental things apply as time goes by.
And when two lovers woo, they still say I love you. On that you can rely,
No matter what the future brings as time goes by.

Kissing can make or break it for me. I think it plays a huge part in identifying whether or not you have great enough chemistry or not. Kissing is so important to me, that I just don't understand how some people can simply shrug it off as, just "okay." Thats when I assume, they've never been kissed the way they should.

@PMFoutofwater - Amen to this. I'm shocked at people who think you can't kiss without it!

i'm not really a kissing type person, in fact i try to avoid it.. but if i'm with a guy that likes to kiss alot he better be good at it, yeah. otherwise it just becomes awkward and annoying.

kissing is important, but they can learn, even if they suck, after a long time of "learning" and they still suck... well, then its time to question. if they already are "experienced" and theres no spark... then youre kinda screwed.

My first kisses with my current (and first) boyfriend weren't that great and there weren't sparks. Sure I was nervous as hell but it wasn't expected and I didn't get the feel-good butterflies and head spinning or anything that people think you're "supposed" to feel. Im glad its not a deal breaker for me because as time went on, our chemistry began to develop more. He was a really good kisser from the start.. it just took time for my feelings for him to develop, which made the kissing a million times more enjoyable and passionate. From day one he told me I was a great kisser too, so sometimes it's not just about the person's kissing ability, but your feelings for eachother. Strangely, even though I really, really liked him.. it took me time to enjoy the kisses. I enjoyed it more once I got to know him better and once I became more comfortable around him. It's a sign of affection, and trust. I needed to develop that before the kissing chemistry could really develop. Now I could kiss him for hours at a time and enjoy every second of it, even after all this time together I still feel much chemistry and passion in it.

@PMFoutofwater - I'm not too fond of the aggressive tongue either :P

I don't like kissing. I do it at the start of relationships because it's part of the expected dance. It's not like, early on, I'm going to say "hey, let's just bypass the whole good night kiss thing and get to the real deal.." I mean, kissing has an important role if the courtship ritual in my culture. Since it doesn't actually make me gag, etc. I do it. but I find it boring.

I've had a few good kissers, and a few awesome kisses, but mostly I'm hoping it will be over soon. Sometimes there is all sorts of chemistry and electricity between me and the other...so I don't let the kiss be a big deal to me. It's one of those niceties I need to participate in, but I don't let it hold all that much weight.
Still, I pay attention to the other things my partner does before, during and after our first kiss...they can tell me some things about him.

@tykazowsky@xanga - And in your opinion, what are those "fireworks" cause people, like me alike, have a hard time feeling those sparks or even being able to define them. I've kissed 4 guys and they were all "just kisses". I didn't feel my "heart flutter" or beat a thousand times per second, or felt my breath being taken away, even if I was attracted to them.