An epiphany I had...
The brain and the heart have two separate functions in our daily lives. One deals with
Logic and the other deals with
Love. It is funny how
love and
logic almost contradict each other even though they begin with the same two letters and nearly have the same amount of letters.
Ones who have been in love know that
love defies all
logic. We see an imperfect person oh so perfectly. We fall head over heels for someone who may not even have the slightest interest. We can't seem to find the reason why we're in
love with him/her even though there's so much fighting and disagreements. We climb so high to reach
love when we know how much it hurts on the way down. How can that be?
Love simply defies
logic and we fail to realize that it is our brain's job to deal with
logic and our heart's job to deal with
love. We tend to forget which has what role and when we overthink about
love, it only leads to complications.
Love is not
logical and the brain is not supposed to play the role of the heart as a lion is not supposed to play the role of a butterfly.
By letting our brain decide on the matters of
love, it only leads to the wrong direction. Instead of using our brains for our hearts and
logic for
love, let us remember to follow our hearts for the sake of this illogical thing we call “
love.”
Because it is the one and only way to
true love in today's world...
Have you been swapping your brain for your heart or vice versa? Are you overthinking love?
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I think my boyfriend does this; he replaces his heart with his head, when it comes to love.
I wish he wouldn't. :)I'm to the point where my heart has been crushed so many times that I find it useless to overthink on love.
Love who you can as much as you can, and never try to turn your feelings into more than they are or more than they're worth. Love is felt the instant two souls connect; just let your feelings come natrually and care for the other person natrually.
That's all any of us can really do, and with the right person, that's all any of us should have to do to make a relationship work.
Some of the time I follow my brain, some of the time I follow my heart - but most of the time I follow my penis.
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Yes I am! :(
I always try to use logic, even when it comes to love. I just can't seem to trust my feelings, thinking that I'm going to get hurt, if I don't try to logically explain what's going on....man that must not make sense :/
Love and logic work well together when any effort at all is put into balancing the two. It is utter nonsense to believe otherwise. Unless you think it makes sense for a scrooge to jump off a cliff to follow a suitcase full of money that someone else threw over. The key isn't in ignoring logic to go after a love interest, it's in focusing on those who think compassionately and logically at the same time.
i over think because last time i led with my heart i landed face first... it wasnt fun
i followed my heart and it just lead me in the wrong direction. where i got fucked over. so im done with that, my brain is all i listen to now. id rather be alone and smart then stupid and with someone who hurts me. but then thats me...
I think it's a flaw to separate the two to this degree; I think that emotions always have a logical explanation, it's simply that sometimes the explanation is so hidden in the subconscious that we can't figure it out.
To answer the question, then... no. I don't swap my head for my heart or my heart for my head; I make decisions taking both into account, because choosing one over the other isn't making the best decision. Both emotions and cold hard 'logic' are incredibly important. It's a judgement of how much you'll be hurt if you do what you want to do.
Thanks for the article, it spawned a lot of fabulous thought processes. =)
On a side note, I referred to, quoted, and linked back to this article here: http://unabridgedtales.xanga.com/723364808/emotions-are-not-entirely-illogical/People always talk about being screwed over by love.
Here's my thing, TRUE love does not have heartbreak.
True love does not screw people over, leave people in the dust, and true love should never, ever leave someone behind with a broken heart. Sure people can love, but true love takes two people to love unconditionally.
You ever see those old couples sitting somewhere together, holding hands, smiling, and looking oh so content, and you know that they have been together for years and years. Those people will probably spend the rest of their years together. That's true love. My grandparents were lucky enough to have that true love and they still have the same feelings for each other when they met in their teenage years.
I've had my heart torn out and stepped upon, from abusive boyfriends, to cheaters and liars, to druggies, and so on. I've seen just about it all. I do believe that you have to use your head in some cases because if you don't you're going to continue to get torn apart if you don't use your head to get out of those relationships. It took me to realize that if these people truley did love me, they wouldn't be doing the things that they are doing.
I haven't given up on love itself though. I found a guy who I'm now completely in love with, and for once it's perfect to me. Sure no fairy tale story, but it's amazing, and different then those other relationships because there is the returned love there.
So please people, no matter how many times you get your heart stepped on, don't close it's doors. If you do, you might miss your chance to get swept off your feet. Don't give up on love.
I feel that certain people (supposedly stereotypically women) are simply "more in love with love itself than with another person".
I'm a realistic type of a person which means I believe that people should replace their hearts with minds -- always. When someone asks me why I love he or she, I am able to explain -- in words -- why I do.
Yes I am, thoughts of love literally consume me. But I decided to not let it take over and just let it be. There are certain things I cannot change, I just have to accept that. Love will find me and I'm patient.
lol not so much epihany as a "duh" moment xD
That's a very idealistic, fairy-tale way to view love. Unfortunately, we live in a realistic, real-life world where love is simply just a chemical phenomenon. There is logic to love, love can be explained (eventually...question mark?), and so you can apply logic to it however you wish: to nurture it, to ponder about it, or to examine it, to destroy it.
Besides that, thanks for the fairy tale post.
This is interesting, because I think people are more likely to fuck something up when they follow their heart blindly without using their brain. After all, what about all those people that keep going back to the ex that's bad for them, stay in abusive relationships, and do all sorts of things that everyone knows they shouldn't do out of love? Yes, overthinking in love can harm the relationship, but I always think that it's better to overthink than to underthink. You really have to see your situation objectively sometimes, or else you tend to do really stupid things.
@xXDC_luyouXx - I like your take on this. It's a good way to go about it.
I don't (anymore). He did.
The end.
well maybe. so far it's the end. again.
@Liquid_Pain_523@xanga - I get what you're saying about overthinking versus underthinking.. but the abusive thing is just so obvious, that should take regular thinking... not everything needs an excess or lack of thought. I think we need to learn how to work this out in our own heads, balance.
i love this.
its SO frkin true.
i seem to overthink love too.
so its definitely an eye opener
to just let love BE.
But too a certain degree, love is suppose to defy logic. I think we the gooey feelings wear off we see clearly, but the nature of those first few moments make us stupid. Sometimes, if we think too much we end up not finding love at all.
I had, actually. But I think, I'm starting to learn to use logic and love equally.
i always overthink everything because i'm a control freak and i want things to go perfect because i never want to fail.
I do. Don't know waht else to do. Love is an enigma that cause me to lose all senses of sanity and confuse fantasy with reality. Love confuses me and beats me down when I walk away from it.
O, well, that's love I guess. But God is love so I think I have human love confused with what love really is.
did you know that the bible says that the heart is the most decietful thing? and that it lies to you.....
maybe we should start loving with our heads, rather then our hearts. so we wont be lied to anymore....
hahahaha jk. im weird aren't i?
BUAHAHAHA xD nice post man! =D
I think that in my past "relationship" if we had gone by our hearts and not our minds, we would still be in whatever kind of relationship it was. but we decided with our minds that it wasn't the best thing for us, considering I'm in CA and he's in NY and that I'm Hindu and he's Christian, so we sort of let it go. it seems like a pretty good decision to me, so I guess I should actually be grateful for his mind which was strong enough to go against his heart. it must have been hard on him, and I was pretty difficult and mean, in a sense, about it when he's the one who had the strength to do what's right, I guess. then again, we never know what's right and what isn't until later in life.
but yes, I do overthink love. I honestly don't think it's always as simple as just going by 'what your heart says'. it's really not.