I'm sure my SO would be completely embarrassed if he knew I was divulging this information, but I found it thoroughly entertaining and couldn't resist sharing this humiliating story.
The other day when I came home from class, I walked through the house - everything seemed pretty normal - but I heard a strange noise coming from our bedroom, I walked through the door and guess what? I caught him doing the one handed nasty on our bed...and with my Victoria's Secret catalog of all things!
Was I mad? Of course not, did I laugh? You bet your life on it! Poor guy didn't even know I had walked into the house! Thank god we are comfortable with each other and I didn't really give him a hard time, I might have hurt his pride for laughing, but well, if anything he deserved it - I can't even read the catalog now (I guess I'll have to make sure to check the mail first from now own).
Some might refer to this as "cheating" of some sorts, but I think it was more humorous than detrimental to the health of our relationship... This does bring up a good question though:
If your SO watches porn or reads dirty magazines for "pleasure," should that concern whoever he's with? Does that mean you don't "turn him on" enough?
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haha that's actually kind of cute. For a minute I thought you were going to say that he was wearing the merchandise!
that's funny and definitely not considered cheating lol
No I wouldn't worry I would be like "hey wanna share?".
all boyfriends do this, we just don't usually find out. lol. i also had an ex who uh, enjoyed victoria secret catologues, haha! it's all good. it doesn't *usually* mean anything regarding the relationship. it's just normal guy behaviour.
Nah porn & masturbating is natural...wouldn't consider it cheating unless there was another physical being around.
hahaha! at first when i read the subject, I was like "oh no...cheating! damn!!!" hahaha but after reading the post, its actually quite funny. Poor guy. hahahahaha
Honestly, I live with my SO. I don't have a job so I'm pretty much with him 24/7 when he's home. He doesn't watch porn. Even when I lived two states away he had me on webcam every night rather than him watching porn. I have personal reasons NOT involving jealousy for believing that porn doesn't belong in a relationship (or, well, at least mine, but to each their own!). My SO respects that. In turn, when he wants some, he gets some. We have a compromise like that.
lol. I know my boyfriend watches porn, and I don't care. I'm not there to pleasure him all the time and hey, he's a dude- he's allowed to watch porn and get himself off, I do it too. I'm not fantasising about the guy in the porn touching me... I'm imagining my boyfriend doing the same things to me that the guy in the porn is doing. it works! humans are capable of vivid imaginations...
We watch porn together. Shrugs*
Porn is a pretty natural thing in many relationships. I think some people are bothered by it in a jealous way, and I think maybe others are bothered by it because it makes them feel like they're not good enough. So... it get's kinda fuzzy in some situations.
If everyone's happy, and there is no actual cheating going on, then I don't see any harm.
No, it's natural. In fact, I would watch porn and read the mags with my bf.
wow.. this is just so crazy. becasue my boyfriend does it all the time. He brings his laptop into the bathroom everytime hes gotta take a crap. usually is work based stuff, but i know he looks at porn. Well he literally came down like 15 min ago. when he takes a shower he usually leaves his shirt in the bathroom, and after awhile i figured out why, its dirty, so its ok to dirty it some more. I guess?!?! Well i went up to the bathroom, and was looking for a pair of socks i had taken off like an hour ago they were still clean, so i was looking for them, and came across the shirt that had been in there. Unfortunatly i didnt realize it had been in there this whole time, and while moving things around, i came across his shirt. Gross, it was still wet.
I personally, am on both sides of the fence on this situation. (the whole porn thing) I know its not cheating, becasue there has to be something physical going on, other then him touching himself. Its normal to masturbate. And believe me, i do it, and i even look at porn. But its honesty, usually girls. Os im not getting off to other guys, and im def. NOT A LESBIAN. I guess its something different and something i didnt try. I dunno.
But i think my problem lies in the fact that he lies about it, if it gets brought up. Hell say something about me doing it, and if i switch it, he gets defensive a lil bit. Maybe hes embarassed??? But he knows i dont like it, and i dont becasue i was molested by uncle when i was younger, and since then ive had major trust issues, and self esteem and confidence problems, so when he looks at it, i feel hes not as in to me. All the girls have perfect bodies, and im nowhere near perfect. Im not fat, but i hold lil more weight around my stomach then the rest of my body. I have always been really thin, and since living with him ive put on some weight. I was so much thinner that i have stretch marks on my sides and stomach and ive never been pregnant. So not only my past makes me unconfortable, but my appearance does to. And he knows i feel about that. But it doesnt do anything for him. he has pictures of me. Quite a bit to, some recent, but some when i looked better, but he never looks at them. its always the porn. and like i said in the beginning, it was like 15 min before i went to the bathroom, meaning I WAS HOME. which makes me even more mad. Im a nympho, im not going to lie, so if hes horny i can please him, yet while i sit downstairs watching tv, hes upstairs getting off to other chicks.
am i over exadurating the situation?? becasue soemtimes i feel i am, others i feel like im in the right. Can you give me some advise??
ive even considered watching it with him, but i know that would lead to sex, and im almost afraid hed have that in his head, and not thinking about me. im lost with words.
Well, I'm sure other guys get off on nominally non-sexual catalogs and magazines. I wouldn't be surprised if there are men who masturbate to, say, a Home Depot catalog.
Masturbation or watching porn IS NOT cheating. Pretty much everyone masturbates. I've watched porn with my boyfriend, I let him masturbate, and sometimes I do. Cheating is when there is ANOTHER person involved, not just another hand.
guys watches porn just to keep things interesting, not recessarily means that they want to be in a relationship with someone else, afterall, it's most likely that they won't be able to to date a porn star, but i could be wrong abut that....
I would not feel comfortable with that, honestly.
my boyfriend does it all the time i think its funny because its just habit for him but i really dont care i always ask what he watches and stuff and give him crap about it but i think porns harmless.
I wouldn't care if my bf does it. I masturbate, but if I could watch porn, I would.
I did catch my SO doing something like that once... but it was over some pictures of me.
Well If you have a problem with it which you don't. Don't worry about it. If he was cheating on you with another person then... it becomes a problem.
@KittySolntsova@xanga - Oh god lol at least he's thinking about you.
@PeriwinkleAdonis@xanga - Yeah, same here. I don't reject his love for porn, I embrace it xD
I'm not sure how I'd feel about it honestly. On one hand I'm insecure, so I'm sure I'd end up blaming myself somehow. On the other hand, I know that masturbating is healthy and if porn is what gets him off then why complain. I mean I know I wouldn't always be there or in the mood to have sex, so I guess I'd just have to work through my insecurities.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - Well, we both love it, lol. So it works out lovely.
@KittySolntsova@xanga - like.