Monday, 08 March 2010
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Datingish Advice: Should a New Couple be having Sex Every Time They See Each Other?
Or is it okay if you're tired and would rather just snuggle and kiss sometimes? Or does that signal (particularly in a guy's mind) that the honeymoon stage is dwindling?
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SEX ALL THE TIME. In the begginning of the relationship, or anytime! Sex should always happen
Personally, I don't believe in pre-marrital sex.
I don't think anyone really has a standard set for how much couples at various stages should be having sex. If you're both feeling into it, go for it.
I'd say if a guy or girl gets frustrated because you don't have sex every time you see each other then that may be a sign that they're a little too focused on just the sex... but all people and couples are different.
Before my boyfriend and I were living together... we'd probably have sex 4 times a week (seeing each other nearly every day) and it went well. Neither of us were sitting around feeling unsatisfied but we also didn't have sex so much that it seemed more like a required chore than a pleasure. He's younger than me.. so people commented that he'd be disappointed that we weren't active enough, but if he was unhappy he never mentioned it or acted on it. We have sex more now, but we also live together, so we have more time to interact in all ways. A relationship probably can't survive too long without sex (unless both are committed to waiting for marriage and it's a while away) but at the same time, it's hard to have a relationship that's just sex too (that's an entirely different thing).
There's nothing wrong with just laying down together and snuggling. It all depends on your comfort level, both with yourself and each other.
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This isn't obvious? Of course you don't need to have sex every single time you see each other, but if the "I'm tired" thing happens frequently, we stop believing it.
whatever floats your boat.
It's up to you guys as a couple to decide that. More or less sex just means a fluctuation in your activities not so much how you feel about each other. I mean it's been 2 years some odd for my boyfriend and I and we don't "do it" as frequently as we used to, but our free time is taken up most of the time and we're often tired from work. It happens, doesn't mean we're out of the honeymoon stage or that we like each other less or any of that crap.
I personally believe sex shouldn't happen until the couple is in love, for real, not that infatuation shit. For those people who don't want to wait for love, at least three months. Studies have proven the three month wait is the best way to go.
If the guy is an asshole who just wants sex, he will most likely leave, or he may cheat. Seriously, there's no real way of knowing if the other person really likes you for who you are if you're having sex with them that early.
As long as both of them are cool with it, the lack of sex doesn't signify the "honeymoon stage" ending at all.
NOOOO! thatll end up being the basis of the relationship. talk only in text or over the phone when not together and when you get together you must have sex doesn't leave much for anything else that lets you bond. Besides itll get boring quick.. or at least for me, yea it will
This really should be up to the people in the relationship. Some people's sexual habits are obviously not going to be exactly the same; so, enforcing a dating rule etiquette in line with this would be too restraining and awkward.
If they only see each other once a week, yes.
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@Utoppia - agreed, people tend to cherish things that they work hard to get. but that's not to say that they won't cherish things that come easily. it really depends on the individual. so if you both want it, sure, whatever floats your boat. yupz, took one from @MissPixieGlitter@xanga's book of wisdom.
Since when does snuggling and kissing signal the end of the honeymoon phase? It's romantic, and sometimes a much better idea than having sex. I wouldn't want it all the damn time, and I've got an extremely high sex drive
Um..I don't think a 'new' couple should be having sex at all, to be honest. That's just me, though.
Whenever you want, if you're tired or don't feel like it you're tired and don't feel like it. The other person shouldn't expect sex every time you see one another anyway.
well im a guy and id rather not have sex.
im more then happy with just a snuggle <3
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there's no should honestly, but if you wanna, do it.
i don't really think any couple should have sex every time they see each other, but thats just me. you need more than just sex to have a good relationship
isnt it really upto the couple in question? if their comfortable with it then i dont think there should be a problem
i only get to see my bf about once a week cus we're both busy with our schedules, and we don't have sex everytime we get to see each other. it's nice when we can just talk or watch tv and snuggle
It depends on the relationship... if you can be satisfied in the relationship without a lot of sex, no matter what stage you're in, than that's probably a good thing... If you can't be satisfied in the relationship without a lot of sex, that's probably not so good... It's just in the beginning, it's all new, so it's more natural to want it more often.... I'm happy that my current bf and I don't have sex all the time (we pretty much have to stay in a hotel to do that, which restricts us to a couple of weekends a month, usually) because we have to spend more time talking, finding other stuff to do, and we still really enjoy our time together. It's only been about 6.5 months, and I don't think the honeymoon phase is over at all.