Take a moment and think about the people(or person) you go to for everything. Who are they? Many people go to their friends for just about everything. Something included in that everything is opinions on the person they are interested in.
If a person you are seeing is honestly interested in you for more than the physical, they will usually take you around their friends.They will want to know their friend's opinion about you, see how you interact with other important people in their life, how you fit into that setting, and they will be eager to show off just how great you are.
I find this conclusion to be most true with males. I find more males find it to be more important to take their possible SO around their friends, than females. From my past experience, any good relationship I was in began with the guy taking me around their friends before things became more serious (if we didn't already have mutual friends).
What do you all think? Is this true? Do you rely on your friends for opinions on your new interest? Do you enjoy showing off how great your new love is? Ladies, has your SO or ex SOs done this with you? Men, is it true men do this when they really like a woman? What about you woman, do you take your new man around your friends for these reasons or different ones? Men, have women ever taken you around their friends before fully committing to you?
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This has never happened to me. Men definitely want their mates to find their girl attractive - but I'm not sure it'd matter to me what my mates thought of a girl's personality.
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I'm the kind of person that'll bring someone I'm interested in around my friends almost immediately for feedback purposes and to see just how interested he is in me.
I actually highly dislike it when a guy refuses to bring me around his friends. My last ex never wanted to do anything other than cook and have sex, therefore I never met any of his friends or even his family. The boyfriend before him always brought me around his friends though, and we always had a good time.
@PMFoutofwater - Haha yeah my last boyfriend was absolutely giddy when his brother finally got to see me because he wanted to show off how good I looked so badly. and when he went home for winter break, he showed all his friends pictures of me.
I'm pretty sure he did not rave about my amazing personality...
My boyfriend takes me around his friends all the time, ha.
I rarely take him around my friends, Though I love my friends... There's no way I'd be comfortable with it.
& That could be because one of my best friends lied to us so we'd break up, (we didn't)
I just think girls are jealous if any of their friends have a man. Or, most girls that is.
My boyfriend is crazy excited for his brother to meet me, we haven't had the chance though.
It's true. My boyfriend took me around his friends, a couple at a time, and mentioned that he wanted me to meet them. That's how I figured out he was interested in me. It helps that they said they like me, and I get along with all of them too. I took him around my friends later on. It's relieving that everyone gets along and that my friends like him. I value what my friends have to say because they know me well. Now, on to family..
Totally, I met one of my man's friends the same week that I first met my man himself! I get along with some of the guys pretty alright, but I've been trying and seemingly failing at getting to know his best friends better. Seriously, it's been a "one hand on its own cannot clap" situation. I'm already naturally an introvert and it's been hard finding the courage to get out of the shell and get to know these people.
It doesn't help either that once when the subject was brought up, my man told me off for being 'standoffish'. For f**k's sake, I'm the one who's been reaching out asking open questions like "Snowboarding seems a bit dangerous sometimes, have you ever gotten injured from the sport? What got you interested in the first place?" and getting very single off-hand answers like "No. It seemed fun."
My friends never really try to talk me out of liking somebody. They just support me all the way and warn me if that person is an asshole but yeah.. My boyfriend has introduced me to his friends and a shitload of his family. For some reason, I can't get used to the whole "This is my girlfriend" introduction just like how using the label 'boyfriend' is strange for me. I don't know why but I just use his name and hope that people know who I'm talking about. XD It's not that I'm ashamed of it, it's just too conventional and weird for me..
i like my SO and friends to get along because i don't want to feel like i have to choose between him and them on a Saturday night. it's not really because i want anyone's opinion.
100% true. That's a sure shot sign of interest. I would prefer knowing my friends' views 'cuz sometimes we fail to see certain things which our friends do...