Friday, 05 March 2010

  • 5 Types of Inappropriate Men that Women Invariably Fall For



    Considering some of my own experiences, my friends experiences, and the vast amount of (bad) romantic comedies I have indulged in over the years, I feel like I've got a pretty good grasp on some of the different types of men women fall for that they shouldn't.  Let's start off the list with the most obvious one:

    1. The Asshole

    This is the guy that entertains everyone else (including himself) at the expense of someone else.  He's fun to be around, he keeps you guessing, he's got an overabundance of other friends and his, shall we say, charisma let's him get away with just about everything.  He doesn't return your calls.  He blows hot and cold.  He flirts with other girls.  He drives you insane.  He disrespects you.  He takes what he wants from you without giving you all that you desire.  Nevertheless, he strings you along with sudden bursts of sweetness and attention.  Admit it.  Getting mistreated makes it just that much better.

    I have a friend that likes the Asshole A LOT.  She readily acknowledges that this is the type of guy that she likes even though it wrecks a good amount of damage on her emotional psyche.  Why, you ask, would she go for this sort of chauvinistic filth?  Well, because he's entertaining!  And we humans are rather flawed in the sense that we seem to want exactly what we cannot have.  Food tastes so much better after we have been starved; much the same can be said for the exclusive attentions of an Asshole.  I also believe that we like to think that we can reform them, and I would say that it's true to a certain extent.  My friend found her asshole and they were quite happy together for a number of years...but now he's back to being an Asshole.  Beware: don't think that you can reform them.  They're called an Asshole for a reason.

    2.  The Unattainable

    This is essentially my tribute to high school movies.  The nerdy geek gets the girl; the weirdo art student gets the basketball star, the dorky valedictorian gets crowned prom queen, etc etc.  For the most part, this isn't going to happen.  Especially in high school.  When there are still school cliques in existence, it is really hard for you to cross over that line.  When I was in high school, I was the hopeless nerd girl in love with the star basketball player, then the swimmer, then the soccer player, etc etc...I mean, I knew none of them would ever want me, but *sigh* a girl can dream.

    This is probably the last destructive out of this grouping.  Because they will never go for you, you'll never get hurt/damaged enough by them.  It's a bit like staring at the sun, I suppose.  Blinding, but extremely difficult to reach unless equipped with heavy machinery and trillions of dollars :p  And I also think that another reason why we find them attractive is that they're safe!  Easy to worship from afar ^^  They don't really don't factor in as much out of college though.

    3.  The Already Attached

    Ahh, the perfect boy...who has already found the perfect girl.  Who isn't you.  I truly truly dislike this one, mostly because you can't really blame your sadness on the guy.  There is probably nothing worse than being in love with someone that is in love with someone else.  All you can think of when they're talking about their girlfriends to you is how much better you would treat them, how lucky you would feel in that girl's position, how your life would be wondrous if you had them, etc.

    This is basically screwing yourself over.  If they leave their SO for you, then their quality is automatically decreased (would you want someone so capricious?).  If you try to lure them away, then you are kind of a slut and if he rejects you, then ALL IS LOST (keke), including your pride, your self-respect, and the respect of those around you.  So basically, you must resign yourself to unrequited longing :( 

    4. The Moocher (aka Need-er)

    I would probably have a week spot for this one.  My sociology teacher in high school once told me that I was a mother, and it's true.  I am a mother.  I like to mother people.  I like to help them plan out their lives.  I like to cook for them, tell them to wear more clothes in the winter, tell them to find a girlfriend/boyfriend, etc.  It's unfortunate.

    Now, the Moocher can be emotional or fiscal.  Either way, he makes you feel as if you are needed, that without you, their life would be impossible.  Getting involved with a Moocher is basically life suicide.  And they're rather difficult to resist to, especially if they're charming and/or attractive(ly boyish).  How can you say no?  How can you not love some one that you are so vital to?  In the end, they will drain you.

    5. The Ex (you thought was "The One")

    Aka, the Mr. Big.  You hate him, and he's probably a #1 or a #4, but you just can't seem to stop loving him.  I do not blame you.  These are rather difficult to let go of.  With all that history, all that drama, all those impassioned vows of love and commitment...how can you ever with someone else?  This one was *perfect* for you.  If only things hadn't gone south.  Perhaps they can still be salvaged?  Perhaps you should try again?

    DON'T DO IT.  It will lead to eventual heartbreak that only gets worse every time.  There is a reason it didn't work the first, second, third times.  You can tell yourself to stick it out with them however much you want, and you can pray that things will improve with time, but when they don't, you've got to know when to jump ship.  Rose didn't sink with the Titanic after Jack turned into a human popsicle, and you shouldn't have to sacrifice yourself just to keep misery company (ok, I admit that I have gone on a bit of a personal tangent...but you get the idea).

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    All right.  That is my list.  Thoughts? Which ones have you (unfortunately) fallen for? Do you have more to add?

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