My saying is "Once you are a serious musician, music will never leave your soul"
We all love music... and hopefully we all like our SOs, but what if they like music you HATE? What do you do then?
I have quite an eclectic mix of music. From Motorhead, Nickelback, Kittie, Moby, then to Stellamara (An Arabian band and the vocalist has the purest, most beautiful voice I have ever heard), Delain, Nightwish. I also grace myself with violinsts such as Johann Sebastian Bach, Leopold Mozart, Antionio Vivaldi, Giovanni Battista Somis, Guiseppe Tartini, and of course Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. I also like the occasional pianist (Beethoven, Frederic Chopin, and a new age Katherine Gislburg [not well known]). We cannot forget the talented Alan Stivell as a Celtic harpist. There is also the occasional techno, like LTJ Bukem, and Japanese Pop/Rock. Then mainstream like Lady Gaga, P!nk, and Timbaland, The Fray, and Snow Patrol.
So, my music as I've told you, is very eclectic, and it depends on my mood. However, one genre I cannot stand.... country. I despise country music, and boy do I mean despise.. It would be hard for me to date someone that adored country music.
It is also hard for me when a song or music I love is not what my SO likes.
So, if you and your SO's taste in music differ, how do you cope with it?
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Why do you hate country music so much? I used to be like you and then I actually LISTENED to it instead of just going off what everyone's perception was. And you know what, I love it. Its really witty most of the time, funny, and overall very sincere whether its describing love or anger. Also, they musicians are for the most part actually talented. I have grown to love the sound of it as well. The twang in the voice goes to my soul sometimes and I find it invigorating.
It sounds like as "open" and eclectic as you are, you haven't given country a chance. Do so before you just write it off.
And no, I don't live in the south. I'm from DC and most people are like you. Sadly.
Agreed with the person before me, & I don't live down south either. So what if they adore the music you hate, no one is going to want to be with you if you judge them on their type of music. & since you think of it that way, they're going to forget you because you like the music they hate. there's no need to "cope" with it. I've been with my SO for over a year & a half. i hate half the music he listens to, it doesn't make a difference. + it's not like the people who like country don't listen to anything BUT country, you know? no, I guess you don't. you should give it a chance.
I'm of the opposite opinion: my SO must like country music. lol
What sort of country? The stuff played on country radio now? That I can agree with as it sounds like middling 70s rock. The old stuff is pretty great. Floyd Cramer, Johnny Cash, Hank Williams, Buck Owens, and others. If you like Buddy Holly or Carl Perkins then you do like a certain aspect of country music. Hell, if you like The Beatles or The Stones then you like some country music. George Harrison plays leads very much like Carl Perkins and The Stones did many country inflected songs.
I recommend keeping an open mind towards it. I used to hate it until I realized how much The Beatles liked country music and listening to country rock really helped. I recommend checking out The Flying Burrito Brothers, Uncle Tupelo, and Wilco.
I've never had a problem with it. As long as my gf can handle rock(AC/DC, Pink Floyd, etc) it's all good. Of course if they enjoy some doom, death, progessive or power metal all the better.
I just tune it out. I dislike alot of rap and hiphop because it doesn't appeal to me. My ex listened to it ALL the time. I just learned to tune it out when I'm sitting in her car. But when I drive, she has to deal with my metal.
Country music really isn't all that bad. I used to despise it...then my roommate got me in the habit of listening to it by playing it as loud as possible while she was doing work. Sure, I still occasionally make fun of the cheesier lyrics, but I actually don't mind it much now. If you want to give it a try, I always recommend Rascal Flatts, as they're the band that made me not despise the entire genre anymore.
As far as the actual question goes, I guess I'm lucky since none of my SOs have never really had a different music preference than myself.
Let them listen while I disappear into another room.
Ex gf used to loveeeee country. I despise it. Early on in the relationship I convinced her my car wouldn't work if the country station was on so I lucked out ;)
My fiance and I listen to the same EVERYTHING. If one of us likes it, you can bet the other does too.
I guess that rules me out. I like some country. Only since the '90s though. But not even all of that. Actually, I can listen to any music, as long as the lyrics aren't materialistic or vulgar, the music/lyrics don't sound like something only a preschooler could enjoy and the voice(s) do(es)n't rattle my eardrums.
I'm with you on country. My ex was into it - and wanted to integrate our CD collections. One time I got home and she'd done it. One month later we were over.
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why does different music taste matter all that much? lol
I used to despise country music too. When I met my fiance, I found out he LOOOOVED country music. Him and I would joke around about me hating it with a passion, but he got me to listen to a few songs and I was surprised that I liked them. No, I don't like every country song I hear, but there are a few that I like.
my SO actually gave me an ultimatum about a band i used to like that he absolutely hates. i chose him, because no stupid band or genre of music is worth more to me than a relationship.
well music isn't the MAIN thing I worry about. It's more if have feelings for each other. Music I would take my time to listen to hers and hopefully she does the same for me.
You're not the only one in the world with an eclectic mix of music. I highly doubt you'll run into people who exclusively listen to one genre, such as country only. So there is no problem.
It would depend on the genre. I'm not into heavy metal, but it's not too likely that I'll date someone who does. I think the other person is more likely to not like my taste in music.
Don't listen to music you don't enjoy together and don't do dates to music concerts if your musical tastes are that different because it's pointless.
Well if you dont like their music, chances are they don't like yours either. =0
And I LOVE country music. That's neither here nor there though. But it's not like I'm going to not date someone based on their music preference. That's insanity. Get over it and just find something you both like while you're in the car together or what not. You are dating them because you like them. you're not dating them based on their music preference and if you are you shouldnt be with them anyway.. and if you ARE together maybe you should put up with their music, especially if they put up with yours. You do like them afterall. =]
Like in Definitely, Maybe (which is one of my all time favorite movies by the way), if it's meant to be, your love will come back to you even many years later after the initial separation.
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My friends and I have varying tastes, we've got a little in common, but not much. It's the consideration that factors in and keeps us alive. Friend A) big into rap, punk, techno, but likes some contemp/Christian, dislikes country and Southern rock. Friend B) Hard rock, metal, but likes Southern rock (which I consider to include modern country) and 70's rock, dislikes contemp/Christian. Me) Southern rock, 50's, 60's, and 70's rock, old country, contemp/Christian, but NO rap, punk, techno, hard rock, or metal.
We just think before we put a CD in. And fortunately A and B never hangout.
I LOVE country music... Lady Antebellum is the best!!! My bf doesn't really care for country, though.. he's more into rock and "classic" rock like Hendrix. I will go crazy if you trap me in a car listening to Hendrix.. I just hate it. He feels the same way about Lady GaGa, though.. so I guess that evens out. The Beatles' music is pretty awesome, though. ;)
We make road trips and such work out by listening to music we both can appreciate, like Nickelback, Paramore, Skillet, Breaking Benjamin, and Shinedown.
Compromise is what it's all about. Although, I can't express the disappointment I felt when he said he didn't see the attraction to Lady Antebellum. I did get him into liking some Miranda Lambert, though. :)
@cal_islander@xanga - OMG yes! That is one of my favorite movies!!! :D
I know most people think that anyone who dislikes country has an unfounded hate. I've actually listened to quite a bit of country (I'm in Alabama. Seriously, I don't even get the option.) I think the stories are cute and I will admit that the artists can be talented. I just don't like the music style. "/
I tune it out... he listens to the more annoying stuff only when he goes for a run. So it's not that big of a deal because I don't typically go running with him.
i hate that word eclectic. But to me it doesn't matter i like most stuff as long as i can tap my feet or sing to it