Tuesday, 02 March 2010
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The Extremely Short Distance Relationship
With my past boyfriends, I have always had to drive 25 to 30 minutes away any time I wanted to see them because they lived clear across town in another school district than me. Some might say it's not too bad, but for the amount of times in a day I've had to drive there could eat up the gas quick.
Now, my latest fling, possibly potential relationship lives just only two blocks away from me aka, literally a 30 second drive. I have never ever dated or hooked up with anyone who lives this close. I told him oh thank God he lives nearby so we wouldn't even have to drive when it becomes good weather.The funny thing is, we've both went to the same school, rode the same bus, have mutual friends, and have lived in the same neighborhood for the past at least 20 years, yet we're only starting to hang out now. Fate or not? Just kidding.Would you say this is a blessing, or could be potential disaster?Have you ever lived so close to your SO/hook-up before, if so, how did that go for you?
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Yes. It was a successful relationship. She lived a 7 minute drive away from me. We lasted a year before it didn't work out, but I loved her so much it made it all worth it.
I view this as a very good thing for you!
i used to live in a town with the population of 100. 90 of them were old people. so i didnt have much of a variety and i was forced to go about 20 or 30 miles to the next town. i never had a "super short distance relationship" i guess. it all depends on how you treat relationships. it could be a problem if you let it be, but it could also be something great!
Fate i guess!
my cousin is marrying his gf.They used to study in same high school but different class and different floor.they were completely strangers 10 years ago.
then 2 years ago they met and fell in love.
It's a good thing.
My mom and dad lived down the street from each other [he moved here from another country though]. And my uncle and his first wife also lived down the street from each other.
Me and my next door neighbor tried dating, and then being f buddies, but I didn't feel a connection, so it didn't work.
That's not an extremely short distance relationship. An example of an extremely short distance relationship is when I lived NEXT DOOR to my then-boyfriend in the same college dorm. Every night was spent sleeping literally ten feet away from him.
This turned out to be a pain in the ass when we broke up up until I finally got over him and he stopped being a cold, insensitive douche.
my boyfriend lives approximately 100 feet away from me, in the guys wing of our dorm. every morning, i do a very short walk of shame, and i don't even have to leave the building. it's fantastic :D
my bf's ex lived 5 minutes down his road....it didnt really end well [like really badly] when it ended 3 years down the road. and he had confided that he was over her within the first year or so. i live an hour away. i'm the furthest distance relationship he's had, our relationship's pretty fantastic.
but honestly, i don't really think it has so much to do with the physical distance so much as emotional compatibility. lol, just realized, i didnt mean to put a damper on anything, but thats the little story i thought of.
@my_horizon@xanga - haha I am on the same boat as you. But me and my ex-bf are still friends so I guess that makes it less awkward.
heh, same exact thing. years of living within walking distance of each other (rode the bus, went to the same schools, same neighborhood) and nothing.
he graduates high school and is about to head off to college and oh wait, we go out on a date.good news is we're still together 20 months later.
and only 15 minutes apart at our separate colleges.
6 minutes away from each other at home (his family moved down the road)
I've lived within 6 miles of two of my boyfriends. Both relationships lasted more than a year (one was just over a year and then 2 years of refusing to cut ties, the second one lasted over 2 years), so it's definitely not a bad thing.
Would you say this is a blessing, or could be potential disaster?
Wtf? Are you trying to make it something it isn't or simply more complicated? Does it matter if he 2 minutes away or 30 minutes, the SAME problems are going to be there! Quit trying to make distance the major factor in your relationships.
Are you thinking that your relationships are more likely to work out because of distance?
My gf lives in the dorm building right next to mine. She actually moved further away. She used to live in the same building on the floor below me. It's a good thing. Wastes no time when the room mate leaves. Hooray!
Shorter distances actually moves the relationship faster than those of long distances,
be a little careful about moving too fast.
I am in a short distance relationship, and everything is much easier,
we share drives, meet at places very close, and when fights arise we never have to wait until the next day to fix them.
There is constant physical contact and we nearly see each other everyday.
Although the good part about living close together is the amount you two see each other
the downside could be seeing too much of each other and sooner or later getting tired of each other's presence,
like I said, be careful about going too fast.
Remember the Queen song 'To Much Love will Kill You'? Well in this instance I don't think it will kill you, but you need to be careful not to smother one another. A man likes his wank days.
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I think it's a cool little situation. I say dive right in!
The man that I am dating, we been friends for 6-7 years. We didn't start dating till this year. We live litterly 30 seconds away too! It's more convienient, we see each other everyday. We walk to each other's houses or meet half way lol
My boyfriend's brother's girlfriend lives only a block away from them. Of course it slightly deviates from your story but it will be interesting to see how it will work out for them, since they've only just started to date.
Meanwhile, I'm in college and although most of my taken friends have off-campus-boyfriends (mostly-girl-school), one of my friends has a boyfriend on campus. As our group of friends watches them, we see how much more distant they are getting with each other. They even nearly broke up when my friend's roommate was kicked out, so she has the room to herself and invited her boyfriend to come over all the time. They ended up giving space to each other (which is hard with so mutual friends) but we don't know how much longer it will last, because we can all see it boiling over again soon.
I like being closer. My boyfriend and soon to be finance lived over an hour away from me when we first met and started to date. We'd see eachother once or twice a week, and every day in between was agony for us to be so far apart. It was a killer for gas money, and one of us really missed the other it wasn't as simple as seeing him for a few minutes or hours. Whenever we would hang out, it'd would have to be a time that allowed for the hour drive, the hour back, and a sufficient amount of time in between. Between us both working, errands, and gas money, it was difficult to find those perfect times more than twice a week for the first 7 months of our relationship.
He now has a new job in MY town, and moved here to be with me. We're only minutes apart and love every second of it because we know what it's like to be in both situations. Appreciate the close distance of your current SO, it's definitely a good thing - being someone who has been on both sides. My relationship has been extrememly successful and we're talking marriage within a year to be even CLOSER.. same house and not just same town. It's a beautiful thing so enjoy the close distance. ♥
I actually went to the same junior school as my current bf but he was in a different year, we lived in the same area and had the same friends and i never even knew him until about 4 years ago. It does make you wonder if fate really does exist. I feel like if i hadnt met him then i would have somewhere along the line. and yes it is working out and its great we just moved into our 1st place together :). In my experience long distance relationships dont usually work out. My ex lived an hours drive away... we lasted 2 months need i say more.
Hmm. To be honest, from my experience, I think that longer distances are better, but there's definitely a limit.
Having said that, now that I'm at uni and most of the people I know here (except about 3 or 4) live within a 2 to 10 minute walk away from me. I haven't had any sort of relationship with those people though, it's always been the people who I have to drive to get to (still only a 10 minute drive though) that I've been involved in.I think distance is a good thing, but it has to be just enough - to me a 30 minute drive is a fair bit of distance, but I wouldn't rule someone out for that reason.
potential disaster, i live literally across the hall from my boyfriend, we're going through some tough stuff right now and its impossible to get our space.
I hope that with your past relationships you weren't the only one having to drive. Anyways, in some cases, it's nice to be in a relationship with someone who lives close to you because you can see them whenever you want but at the same time, it could also be a big pain. For instance, there's no excuse to say you can't see them or you have other plans (when you really don't because you don't want to hang out that day) and it could also lead to rumors that aren't necessarily true. Say you were hanging out with a guy friend and one of his friends happens to see you, he might go back to your bf and say you were cheating on him. To prove my point, if you live in the same town, everyone knows everyone and word gets around. Sometimes it's just easier to be in a relationship where you're not so close all the time.
Why are you driving 2 blocks?!?
I think that more distance in the beginning and less distance once its gets really serious. I loved the fact that my SO didn't go to my high school or college. It sucks that we have a two and a half hour distance when we're at school and a forty-five minute distance at home but we are definitely stronger because of it and I never get tired of him. :) Good luck though.