Monday, 01 March 2010
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Women Who Cheat
A lot of times we think that the guy is more likely to cheat in a relationship or marriage. Of course that is not always the case, as I do hear about women who cheat on their SO, usually women who are married.
What do you guys think-how do you feel about a married woman who cheats on her husband? Why do you think married women cheat on their husband?
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Cheating knows no gender.
People who cheat, in my opinion, are grimy and selfish. I think people cheat in general because they are unsatisfied with what they have.
There's a recent Xanga discussion going on about this: http://www.revelife.com/722479197/why-women-leave-their-marriages/
Sorry, all you women -- who always point the finger to men since men are villanized in society -- are wrong oh wrong. It's true that women cheat the same as men; it's just that societal social circumstances make it so that men are likely to admit it. The statistics are there too.
Married women can cheat for same reasons why men cheat. Common studies HUGELY link "boredom" in commited relationships -- once marriages get to the boring state of stale wherein the everyday life of kids and work takes it toll on married women. Those married women want some excitement still in their relationship life and thus... cheat.
Why do women cheat? That's a very broad question, but I suspect it's often boredom. A lack of excitement. That or the fact their hubby has a penis like Diego Maradona.
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It's wrong no matter who does it, male or female.
However, I'm pretty sure men more commonly cheat than women do.
I think women cheat out of fear of just breaking up with someone, i guess.
Or maybe they're in the relationship because of kids.
Either way, it's pathetic.
People in general who cheat are gross.
You could give a disease to someone who doesn't deserve it.
@phan__tom@xanga - "More commonly cheat"
Men don't cheat that much more than women (not like Men 50% are cheaters Women 5% are cheaters -- as exaggerated or so). The link above references statistics too.
cheating is wrong, regardless of gender... the only time it's forgiven if the individual had a brain trauma and lost all memory...
@TheRealMelanie@xanga - I totally agree with you !
I dont condone cheating from either sex & this is NOT an excuse for it, but from what I read, men cheat for the sex & women cheat for the emotional connection. Many times they usually want companionship they miss/lack in their marriage. Stepping out with someone else is cheating to me also. Just because there's no bedroom action doesnt mean anything. If you're giving something to someone else, emotional or physical, that should be in your marriage, it's cheating.
@xXDC_luyouXx - I don't buy into that statistic bullshit. Out of the cheaters I've known, about 90% of them were male.. and I know more females in the first place.. How many times does an older man cheat of their wife with a hot piece of tail? A lot. You don't really hear about it much the other way around. I know you'll disagree with me, but this is my opinion and no matter how many comments you comment back with, it's not going to change.
@phan__tom@xanga - You DO realise the inaccuracies involved when you say, "Out of the cheaters I've known, about 90% of them were male.. and I know more females in the first place.. "
How many people do you know in comparison to those statistics? On top of that -- as mentioned in my first post -- due to societal social circumstances, men are likely to admit to it.
No, I don't care about your opinion especially since whether men cheat more or not is not about opinions; it's about statistics -- whether it's true or false. Also, facts > you. Please don't be bias and especially don't make an opinion without straight facts.
I am amazed by how many people are suggesting boredom. I would think it would be a lack of emotional interest on one or both sides leading to a state of apathy which is often misunderstood to be boredom. I mean, boredom is easy to fix, apathy... is an entirely different state of mind.
I think they're bitches. They cheat for all the same reasons that men do.
@Shinbi_Belldandy@xanga - That's the typical generalization which ties in with "Men are a bunch of dogs. Just looking for their next bone" mentality. The truth is, it's about equal on both sides. Usually, the emotional disconnect is felt on both sides, so whoever cheats could be doing it for the same reason. Therapists have been seeing more and more men in their offices dealing with the effects of this stuff.
@Lady_Kelacy@xanga - I think they used the term as a broad overview of what you described.
@phan__tom@xanga - That's fine, an opinion isn't right or wrong, so I can't tell you that you're wrong. I will say that you're committing a huge failure in logic and basic understanding. What you're doing is a combination of anecdotal evidence, VERY small sample size, and generalization. You obviously don't like statistics very much, so I won't even bother telling you to look those terms up. Basically, the little group of people you know doesn't count for shit when talking about the big picture. Plus, with the whole anecdotal thing, you may know more men who are cheaters, but I know more women. Does this mean more women cheat? No, statistics say men do, but they also say that women are catching up and do it almost as much.
If you'd like, I can cite several pieces I've found to support this, but you're obviously not interested in reason and proof, so I won't bother you with them. Keep on man-hating.
Interesting coincidence that you bring this topic up, because just last night I was watching an old episode of the series House called "Fidelity." In this episode, a woman falls ill and the doctors cannot figure out what is wrong with her, except that whatever disease it is, it's very serious. Ultimately, they think that she has African Sleeping Sickness, but the only way that she could have gotten this is if either she or her husband cheated (the disease can be transmitted through sex). Neither of them fess up to cheating, but once the doctors treat her for African sleeping sickness, she gets better. Then the woman ends up fessing up to her husband about having an affair. The husband wishes she had not gotten better, because that means that she was loyal to him. Cameron (one of the doctors, a woman) tells him that he is a terrible person for thinking that. Ultimately, the husband leaves his wife. The show seems to give more sympathy to the woman, but I ended up feeling for the man--he was a loyal husband, staying with his wife 24 hours a day, days on end, at the hospital, and then he finds out his wife had an affair--with his best friend. If I were him, I would have walked out on her too.
You know, I'm just not going to buy it that women cheat as much as men do... Men usually have higher sex drives. That's a proven fact. I just don't see how it could be a perfectly equal statistic when men should be more likely to want more sex...
@thedommediaries@xanga - You know, the more I experience life, and talk to people, and experience my own sex drive, I'm almost certain that this "high sex drive" that men have is entirely conditioned. Men might say all day long that they want to fuck everything that moves, but at the end of the day, who's sitting on the couch drinking a beer? Women's sexuality was condemned way back in the middle ages, with people even going so far as to publish in actualy books that "women's carnal lust is insatiable", and I think that women have been so stifled, they don't like to admit how horny they really are. Time will tell.
I think people all cheat for the same reasons, whether they're male or female. They might be trying to get back at their partner, maybe they're mad, maybe they're unhappy with their sex life, and sure, maybe they're bored. Although that seems awfully sexist to just say that women could only cheat because they're *bored*. Like they're not capable of feeling or lacking any other emotion that a man might in a relationship.
i hatre it when someone cheats. it pisses me off. dont chat people. just break up with the person. and if your married....wtf....
@Shy___Away@xanga - I don't know. I don't agree. It could be because I'm still young and most of the guys I know are still young guys, but all the guys I know really would fuck anything that moved. They never say no to any girl... no matter how slutty or unattractive she is or if they have a gf.
The same reasons men do. Sometimes, it's because their husbands are abusive and they've found comfort and love in another man.. and sometimes they're just bored. Maybe they settled for someone of lower standards and began regretting it.
people cheat because they are lame...no really, only the person cheating knows why they do it, but for the record, if you aren't happy in a relationship, or you feel just as lonely in the relationship as out of it...why not just remove yourself from said relationship and find someone else you are happier with? in the end it's a whole lot better than cheating
Cheating doesn't discriminate.
No self control.
@xXDC_luyouXx - true, cheating happens with both men and women all the time. another reason is low self-esteem... they feel like they constantly need to know that they're desired, which may cause them to cheat.
FEmale status is tantamount to male's status nowadays.
A majority of them are career women and they expose to lots new people and surrounded by them almost 5 days in a week.
Last time,there were only a drop in the ocean of women work.Most of them stayed at home,doing house chores and so on so on.They spend most of their time at home instead of knowing and exposing to new people.
That's what i read in newspaper that why women cheat.