Monday, 01 March 2010
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First Kiss In A Relationship
The First Kiss in a relationship is a nerve-racking experience for both parties. The First Kiss is not the peck on the cheek / forehead / hand kiss, but the First Kiss is the mouth-to-mouth kiss with intimate exchange of saliva.
Being traditional and conservative, I wait for guys to make the first move. I am too shy.
To all the girls who made the first move and got their guy, good on you!
To all the guys who are too scared to make the first move and lost the girl, grow some balls will you!The First Kiss is a turning point in the relationship, so it is vital to get it spot on with the right type of kiss.
Types Of Mouth-To-Mouth Kisses
1. Soft and gentle - tame and almost suitable for children's viewing
2. Wet and sloppy - the surrounding area of your mouth will be covered in a wet coating of saliva
3. Tonsil Tennis - someone's tongue wants to play with someone else's tonsil - bad for people with a strong gag reflex
4. Lip-Oh-Suck-tion - strong sucking kiss that you think your lip is going to be sucked off
5. Dr Tongue - this is when your tongue is a dentist and explores and examines the other person's teeth
6. Others - please specifyFor the First Kiss, it doesn't matter which type of kiss you go for but it's about the delivery. The First Kiss may be a deciding factor about the relationship - (in geek-speak) - to continue vs game over - so it's important to master the delivery.
To Continue
Pleasant kiss which makes both parties want more
Breath smells fresh and enticing
Saliva tastes clean and sweet
Heart beats faster and really loud
Followed by a soft moan of pleasure and eyes are twinkling
Feel all warm and fuzzy inside
Kiss is a success and executed with perfect timing
Always remembered as the breath-taking first kissGame Over
Unpleasant kissing experience for one / both parties
Breath vulgar and foul
Saliva tastes like toilet water
Heart was beating faster till the bad kiss - it has now slowed down to illustrate disappointment
Followed by a grimace and a subtle look of disgust and a "you-can-stop-right-now!" look in the eyes
Shudder - you cannot believe you just had such a bad kiss!
Kiss is a big FAIL!
Always remembered as the worst kiss ever!The best advice on making the First Kiss a success is BE PREPARED!
Advice on how to prepare for the first kiss
Go to the Dentist - get your teeth checked and gums cleaned. A healthy mouth means a healthy environment for kissing. An unhealthy mouth means bad breath, rotting teeth which means turn-off!
If you are really paranoid about your breath, then bring a toothbrush and toothpaste and dental floss. Sneak off to the toilet after dinner. If not, chew gum.
If you are extremely nervous because you have never kissed anyone before, practise on a slice of orange. and gently tease it with your lips and tongue - no biting!
If you are allergic or detest a certain type of food, make sure you have told the other person and vice versa. E.g. I detest "burger breath" so the boyfriend makes sure he never eats that around me. And also, he has a true allergy to prawns - if I didn't know, I would have been giving him the Kiss of Death!!!
Try and plan it so that the First Kiss is executed in a romantic setting and not at the back row of a cinema!
Please be smart and gauge whether it is appropriate timing to kiss. Guys - Don't ask "Is it okay if I kiss you?" How is a girl supposed to answer that? Yes - may show desperation. No - would kill the guys ego! Just look for the signals. Girls - please be obvious with those signals!!
If all else fails, Keep It Simple Stupid!
What was your experience with the First Kiss? What turns you on or turns you off about the First Kiss? How do you decide whether to continue or game over?
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I've only had one first kiss. It was awkward. All I could think was, "it's wet." And it was the first kind, even. I didn't understand why people liked it. The relationship lasted 8 months after that, though. I never got used to being kissed. I liked being touched, and I was excited about eventually having sex (we never did. we didn't stay together long enough for me to feel comfortable having sex). But I never learned to enjoy being kissed. I just tolerated it because I know he liked it and I wanted to fool around in other ways and I thought if he gave me what I wanted, I should give him what he wanted.
"practise on a slice of orange" LOL. Oranges are too sweet for me ~_~.
Personally, I finally caught onto the signal of wanting to be kissed after she kept taking out her chapstick -- a few times.
The "look at her lips then look her in the eyes" is always a great move, guys. Use it.
How about the leaving your teeth unguarded and having them almost knocked out by your partner's teeth kiss? Or the dry, stale breath kiss. Uggghh.
Hehe, I just had my first for-reals kiss on Saturday. We've only been together for a couple weeks but we've been friends for two years, liked each other the entire time, and were just too shy. I made the move! I never thought I would.
We were snuggling in my bed and I just went for it. It wasn't as horrific as I thought it would be. Not picture perfect or anything, but it wasn't bad. We laughed a little because it was both our first kiss and were obviously both overwhelmed. But we went to sleep all cozy.
The first kiss I ever had was with Amy Thomas aged 15 in a tent in my garden. So soft - and still the best kiss I ever had. I had a boner for the next three weeks.
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I think it's stupid to try to practice on anything. There's nothing that's remotely similar to the human mouth when it's kissing you.
Heh heh yeahh I don't even remember my first kiss really. But my last first kiss with someone was actually really nice & he told me I was good lolz. But the last first kiss that I had in a relationship (the last one wasn't a relationship), was rather kind of awkward because he couldn't kiss worth crap & wouldn't try otherwise, so I just had to get used to it & it wasn't as passionate as it could've been, but it still did the job somehow.
@Murphy_Rants@xanga - Awwwh that is so cute =]
I've had three first kisses. The first-first kiss, wasn't that great...his lips were chapped and we were in the backseat of a car on the way home with one of my other friends on the other side of me. lame. The second first kiss was good [but also in a car?!], of course..he was always a good kisser. just a jerk.
My first kiss with my current boyfriend was like a movie. It was after work [we work together], and he pulled me into a really close hug before we left. and when i pulled back to look at him, he kissed me and it was amazing and perfect. <3
i like the dr tounge hahahaaha it feels weird, but nice! xD
anyway, i wanted my first kiss to be really good, so i took my gf ( now my ex ='[ ) to the top of a lighthouse. it was short, closed mouth, but it was really nice for a first =]
aren't i romaaannticc? xD hahaha
but omg, you people have no idea how nervous i was! i thought i was going to die! hahaha xD
the whole "planning first kiss" thing is silly. No one plans their first kiss far enough in advance to go to the dentist.
*Raises hand* Uhm....I have a hard time believing in "heart fluttering" kisses
=,[ HELP!?
My first-first one was in Nov. 2007. A month before I turned 16, and I did get fluttery after, but during it was all over the place, sloppy, and un romantic in my opinion lol and I didn't know what I was doing =/ He didn't either lol. I was on vacation in my home town and I just met him for 2 weeks. Ugh.
After him was my REAL boyfriend. We were together from Jan '09-April '09. I didn't feel connected with him, or with the other 2 guys I kissed months after we broke up.
I hate that =/ It's like I feel like I'm being used as an object. Idk why I feel like that. It sucks! So I end up thinking WAY too much during it, and I haven't learned how to kiss haha, and now there's no options around. *SIgh*
Pointers anyone?
First kiss i ever had was with some guy who was just a player tbh. i was nervous and so didnt really want to, i gave him a peck and he said 'no, i want a real kiss'. I didnt really want his tounge in my mouth at all :|
First nice kiss was at back of a bus, very nice but was very toungish tooo!
First kiss with my current boyf was so sweet, its like little kisses and he smiles inbetween. he's so gentle it feels awsome. :)
I remember my first kiss with my bf. It was soft and sweet. Neither of us wanted to scare the other. But it was cute. Actually, our real first kiss was a "half-assed" (as we call it anyway) one because we were both trying to kiss each other on the cheek and both moved at the same time. Funny as anything now, but awkward at that time since we weren't dating or really even thinking about dating.
i liked this post :D
@EccentricSiren@xanga - you're not alone--i think kissing is pretty gross too.
@Andrea_Vengeance@xanga - my current boyf booked a dentist appointment!! LOL...but that's cos I AM a dentist!! haha
@christina_believe@xanga - thats sad that you feel like a used object! remember you deserve the best so wait for the right guy to come along and treat you right =)
I always believed the first kiss should be held back until people are further into the relationship.I don't think like that anymore but I did when I was like 14.. I guess I've always been kind of old fashioned.
My first kiss with my current was rushed in a sense, and on the first date. We both had different kissing styles but we've compromised and now we're a mix of both our styles.
"Don't ask "Is it okay if I kiss you?" How is a girl supposed to answer that? Yes - may show desperation."
My current crush (it's complicated) did this for our first kiss. We were laying on the floor in his apartment (he hadn't gotten all his furniture yet) watching tv. He looked at me and goes "I really want to kiss you. Is that ok?" It wasn't really desperate or awkward it was kind of cute and almost a little chilvarous - like he didn't want to if it wasn't what I wanted.
Maybe it depends on the guy? Some guys when they say things like that are awkward and the whole situation is wierd but for some reason it wasn't with him. I like that more than the guy who just goes for it and you have to swerve because you have no clue what's going on.
I agree that a first kiss is very crucial. However, if you truly connect with that person, the little faults such as bad breath and too much tongue will be put behind. When buttoning down a first kiss the focus should be on the emotions it pulls up during and afterwards.
My first kiss with my current boyfriend was just.. okay. I didn't really feel anything, it was kind of like kissing a friend. Most girls would probably end it right there and just say that they aren't feeling anything, because movies tell us that we're supposed to "just know they're the one" from the first kiss. Well, not feeling anything at all was actually a step up from my previous boyfriend before this guy, because after my first kiss with my previous boyfriend I just felt completely disgusted and yet I ended being with him for a year and a half. So, since I didn't feel disgusted (or anything) with my current boyfriend, I figured it was a good thing. And well, him and I have been together for seven months, and every time he kisses me now I feel like the luckiest girl in the world. :) So, to me, first kisses don't mean a dang thing.
i love first kisses, awesome shit right there. sometimes you just connect with the other person and it's totally in tune. that's the best.
i venture so far as to say exciting new makeouts > sex.
@harrisal2 - Aw I had pretty much the same experience with my now ex. He knew that before I had been jumped by someone who kept saying "CAN WE KISS CAN WE KISS CAN WE KISS?!" and I hadn't wanted to, so he was a little nervous. But he asked, in a dorky adorable way, and we kissed and I had honestly not believed in the whole "take my breath away" kiss until that moment. It honestly made me stop breathing, and always did. Gentle is nice ^_^
unfortunately, i party a lot, and i can't remember my first kiss with my current or ex boyfriend. sad.