We're getting married in November, but it's doing nothing for our wedding cost. Honestly, if this wedding was up to me, we would have thrown a $300 bash in someone's backyard, but EVERYBODY ELSE wants to impress their friends, so we're having a sit down reception in some expensive ass place. Haha, it'll be nice. 

Think of all the brandy and lemonades you could buy with that money.

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I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half (anniversary this saturday!) and we will be getting engaged after I graduate high school this June..Im turning 19 this summer and him 20, and he's in his first year of college.The main reason we are getting engaged now is because I'm going to Brazil for college in January of 2012 so we want to be engaged by the time I go.. And because we both know we are going to get married so why not get engaged already? My parents are okay with it though my mom would like me to wait til I'm in Brazil - but she has always been one to take the safe road, which isn't necessary because we all know he is going to be my husband.

All of that wedding stuff gets me excited too even though I won't be getting married for like 4 years lol but I know I want a big wedding - doesn't have to be expensive, I just want a really classy wedding and he will be out of college by the time we do so it can happen

Good luck girl and I can't imagine how excited you must be! Only a few months down .

No way I'm getting married before I have an established career (and before I turn 21 or finish college) and home so I won't have to budget my wedding so much.. Good luck to you guys though.

I'm 17, and I live with my 22 year old boyfriend.
I met him when I was 14 and he was 19 via myspace (I'm not kidding you) exactly 3 years to the date. March 1st is our unofficial anniversary. So today!<3 We didn't physically meet until October 19th, 2008, and have been dating and physically seeing eachother ever since. From October to June it was an LDR and I took the Greyhound bus across two states to see him whenever I could. I moved in with him and his family (five people in an apartment now) in June. I've lived with him ever since. We've officially been together for almost a year and a half, and I've lived with him for eight and a half months. We have an amazing relationship, and I couldn't love him more. He's my first. ;) I've gradauted from High School and we'll be moving out when I get a job. He's a computer specialist, apple expert, and connectivity expert at Best Buy (quite the busy guy). I plan on starting college in the fall to become a nurse.
We aren't engaged but when we're more steady on our feet I'm sure that we will be. We fit together so perfectly. His parents always ask us if we plan on getting married. :P We talk about it a lot, but it's one of those things that we're not worried about at the moment.
We just take loving eachother one day at a time.

:)

Meticulous planning leads you to big savings. I was going to get married this year too and had everything just ready, but sadly sometimes tragedies just happen.
Wedding colors were black and chocolate and honeymoon was going to be at Los Cabos, Mexico
My best friend's mother-in-law was going to make my dress and charge almost nothing
Lots of my friends are musicians so they offered to play for free
My boss was to make the wedding cake as a gift
My friend's boyfriend is a photographer and he was to put the pictures
Make-up and hair was going to be done by a very dear and old friend
Invitations were made by my college roommate who is an art major
and so on and so on . . .

Congrats & good luck.  Personally, I think you should have a long engagement and take things slow.

My husband and I are 23, we will both be turning 24 in the next 2 months.  We started dating @ 15 and have now been together 8.5 yrs.  During highschool we lived back and forth with my parents and his.  At 18 we got an apartment together, and then at 20 we bought our house, Oct 13, 2006.  That Nov for our anniversary he asked me to marry him, and 2 yrs later we got married on 08/23/2008.  Our budget was also 5,000 but we ended up spending somewhere between 7 & 9,000 when it was all said and done, we actually lost count and got really discusted at how much we spent by the end just didnt want to tally it up anymore...  We honeymooned in Disney for 10 days, we stayed in a villa apartment and went to all the parks, the honeymoon alone cost us somewhere around 3,000.  We were gifted some from our parents & paid the rest on our own.

My husband and I dont have any children yet & please, I hope you have no intentions on rushing into that.  We have noticed a trend among all of our ex-highschool peers who have also gotten married since we graduated, who rushed into having children & most are now divorced.  Please dont take this the wrong way but, once you have been with your husband for a few more years, and if you have a strong enough relationship to one day understand this, you will both mutually agree and understand what I am about to say, as my husband and I both do. 

Meeting someone so young and staying together for the rest of your lives is going to hold you back in life.  You will make different decisions because of this other person, and one day you may resent them for it, and it is up to you to do everything you can to not let that happen.  Regardless of how blissful your love is now, believe it or not, you are still in the honeymoon phase.  Eventually, you will see your relationship go through stages, and you will settle into the comfort that a long term relationship brings.  Hopefully you will some day feel what we feel, which is an unconditional love that you can count on.  And, regardless of how happy you will still be, you will understand what I am saying right now and how different it is from what you two currently feel for eachother.  

My husband and I love eachother more then any two people I have ever met.  We rarely fight, we mostly always agree, and we still romance eachother every day.  My heart still skips a beat when I think of him or hear his name, and every time I see his beautiful face, I feel warm inside and my face lights up while I smile from ear to ear.  All this after 8.5 yrs, yes! 

But... no matter how much I love him, I can never get back what I have lost, and still am missing & neither can he.  There will always be the what if of the life that we both missed out on.  Going away to college, dating, girlfriends/boyfriends, one night stands & parties neither one of us will ever see.  And, although his amazing presence in my life is reminder enough that it was all worth it, I am telling you right now, you will always wonder, and my husband and I are in mutual agreement of that. 

Because, no matter how wonderful your relationship is, it can never replace the life events you are going to be giving up.  It is similar to being a teenage mother- no matter how much they always say, it was worth it because I love my son/daughter they are the best thing that ever happened to me.. it still doesnt erase all the important life events they are missing out on, because you are only young once, and even though you may be in a rush to grow up now, no matter how much you say, I will never want to be young again, you will.  One day you will long for a childhood again, for the freedom to not be bogged down by the responsibilities of bills and mortgages, a husband to take care of, yards, pets, groceries and kids.  Just the mere thought of waking up in the morning with no responsibilities to me seems like a freedom so far far away.

So, long story short & sorry this is sooooo long..

My husband and I are best friends and met when we were 11.  We both had shitty childhoods and leaned on eachother, hell we raised eachother & we needed eachother to survive.  So, although we fully realized everything we were missing out on by staying together and marrying so young, we felt for us, there was no other choice.  We knew a relationship like ours only comes around once.  And, we knew the pain we would feel, walking away from what we have, would be far greater than the childhood we gave up.  Besides the eternal gratitude we have for one another for the sacrifices and direction we have given in eachothers lives. 

Just know- you are only young once and just because your getting married doesnt mean you need to age yourself 10 yrs.  Enjoy eachother, take 5-10 yrs for yourself, get established, buy a house, go to parties together, go to college, get good jobs, go on a spending spree, travel, make stupid decisions & laugh about together, BE YOUNG!!!!!!!!!  Dont ever hold eachother back with anything, no matter how little or how big that something is.  Dont rush into kids just because you think its the next big step.  You can never get this time back. 

Thats what we are doing, and we have never been happier. 

GOOD LUCK!  best wishes.  any wedding/ honeymoon advice, just ask.  I did a lot myself, made my own invites, etc.  Dont skimp on a photographer, ours was gifted & the asshole should up with a fucking digital camera, I still cry every time I look through the sorry album we ended up with.  It was a shame, broke my heart. 

Awww everyone's stories are so cuteeeeee

@echarles@xanga - SO what happened... the wedding never went on?

@nimbusthedragon@xanga - hahah!

--Aw you met your man a day after i started dating mine!
I started dating my boyfriend when I was 15, back on November 06, 2007. He actually asked me out once before and planned to ask me out again, but I said no, and the last time he did it, I finally said yes :) We've had alot of bumps and hills to overcome, and I know there are more to come, but we still stick together. We were LDR for three months back in 2009 and on just a few months ago (December 20th) we became LDR again. I graduate highschool in June, so he intends to fly down here with his step mom and his dad to celebrate with me :)

Oh. And before he left to another state, the night before when we were at my house just hugging each other and talking, he got down on one knee and held my hand, and asked me to marry him! Haha. I said yes, and he said he'll save up for a ring and the next time he sees me, (should be this June), he'll give me a ring. Hmm.. we'll see how that goes :)

Congrats to you and your guy though !!

@music_of_the_heart08@xanga - Thanks!  That is why I wrote it, because if it helps even one person, then it was worth the time. 

*rolls eyes* Why do girls always like to pretend their love lives are like Twilight? I am eighteen but I am a sophmore in college with my focus on school, job, boyfriend, and friends. I think getting married in your teens is pretty foolish in today's world, still I wish you the best of luck.