Sunday, 28 February 2010
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Should I Put Love on Hold?
I tend to think it really amazing what can run through your mind, I was just doing some chores and then it hit me. I have had a lame ass love life. I am about to be 20 here in April, and through my whole life I have only had two serious relationships and they both ended in the worst ways. My first love ended up cheating on me and leaving me for someone he worked with after a year and a half, my second love stole from me. He stole $1600, what an eye opener for me after a year of thinking I know him inside and out.It just seems that no matter what either the relationship will end horribly wrong or they are afraid to commit! I must be cursed or something, so now I have basically put my love life on hold. Maybe after basic training I will have some better luck in whatever town I end up in, and maybe someone will be worth my time there. After all, even though it does not sound like much, just these two relationships have put me through a lot of different emotions, and has caused me to close myself off from people.
But is this a good idea? Put love on hold? And try and stay away from relationships until I am somewhere else? Or should I just leave things and let them happen?
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- From: snwbrdrcutie@xanga
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- About Me: As my life has not been so great, I hope this choice I made will turn it around, I love my man and all though him being active navy will be difficult, we will see where the adventure takes me. =] I love to ride dirt bikes, snowboard, and run. I own a Honda 250x and I try to get out to the desert every weekend to ride. I am a easy person to get along with and as most say fun and interesting. I really am a one of a kind girl and i don't know or have heard of anyone like me.
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I know it sucks when your previous relationship leaves you scarred and traumatized, but you should just leave it up to fate and destiny. If you're meant to meet someone, you will.
If I were u, I would let love come as it does, however, pay damn good attention to who I am dating. I had my ex steal 1400 from me before... not a good day, then he hitailed to mississippi where he know I wouldnt follow. (to get my money back) I would definately take it slow and not give out personal information unless you are pretty much married - if thats what you are looking for long term >.
Dont let two assholes ruin your love life
well, the problem isn't you. if it were, it's not a bad idea to do some soul searching. i'd probably suggest hanging with the right crowd to find that trustworthy guy. they're out there.
well we all get bad luck.
"Even though you aren't looking for love, love will always be looking for you."
No. Don't hold back on love. It's more like someone like me who needs to do so.. As long as you're stable..are independent..then you can jump right into a serious relationship. Keep on eliminating those douchebags until you find the right man!!
I wouldn't hold out on love b/c it will come when you least expect it. If you do want to hold out for a little while, it wouldn't hurt, either. I mean, you are only turning 20 so you have plenty of time for some fun.
Don't rebound, but don't go in the cloister, either. It is never wrong to build a strong network of fun people-then real love seems to more naturally appear.
Take some time for yourself. I wouldn't purposely try to avoid being in a relationship unless you're not ready for one. Don't go looking for him. Let him find you. Meanwhile, enjoy yourself :]
Frigging hell, you are only 20 - you have plenty more trauma left yet. Man up, woman. You're most likely going to have your heart broken many times before Mr Right comes along.
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I'm the same age as you, and believe me when I say I have had my fair share of crappy relationships. But being still young, it's important to stay optimistic and positive, try not to turn cynic just because of two jerks. Your love life is as much a journey as your life in general, you're gonna be kissing frogs along the way, some nasty, some poisonous, some dang fugly but in the end there's gotta be one that will turn out to be the One. Don't give up yet!
Do you have possible relationships standing in front of you? If not, don't worry about it. There's so much more to worry about than men. It's not "holding off" if you're focusing on other aspects of your life. Hell, if you're only 20, you probably should focus on other stuff anyway.
im putting love on hold til im in my last year of college. i dont see the need to anything roantic until my responsibilities become easier you know?
hey dont worry. theyr are some jerks out there, but there are also some really cool guys =] just wait to meet one of them =]
Love is never on hold if you consider it in a different form: ie love for yourself, your family and friends, etc. The other kind of love can be saved for someone special when you are ready again to discover its changing form.
I know this is off topic, but i find it interesting that you said "through my whole life i have only had two serious relationships." You are 19 years old....that's actually a lot!! You will have many more, so just move on and try to be happy. Dating in your early 20's is going to be tough and you're going to have to weed out a lot of toads....but you'll find your prince.
@PMFoutofwater - no doubt.
people tend to think of relationships on an x-y axis not an x-y-z axis. If you give up after two you definitely have a lot to learn about relationships/love. As hard as it may be to think - it only gets better from there.
love is always around.you cant hide from love...
Don't fret too much about it. Just enjoy life and whatever happens, happens. :)
you're only 20 LOL
assuming you're american, u will live to be around 76. that's 56 more years of chances for a great relationship! really, don't fret over it and pick up some hobbies now because SO's take up a lot of time so you will have less for yourself whenever you end up (stuck!) with one LOL
I can't say I've had things as bad as you, but I definitely can relate.
Personally, I don't think it's best to put love on hold. I think it's best to not actively look for relationships, but if something happens to come up then go for it. But like other people have said, it may be good to have a break from relationships for a while.
Live and learn, but don't close your heart.
I don't think it's a bad idea, if you can live up to it. That's the true question. I did something similar. It's tough, but worth it if you know where to adequately draw boundaries and can handle making them know to your friends. You know? :)
Best wishes,
~*Akarui Mitsukai*~
One of my girlfriends did that and she's never been happier. She took the time out to work on herself and love herself and now is more open to those new opportunities. I think maybe you should take time for yourself to reflect on what you really want in a relationship and not just jump into a relationship with the next guy that asks, but I don't think you should close yourself off completely because you may meet an amazing guy. However, if those guys are sincere, a couple of months is nothing to them. If a guy just wanted to get into your pants, it'd be now or never. I'd say that considering you're going to be joining the military, that waiting until after basic training and after you get stationed is a good plan. I heard the ratio of men to women in the armed forces is in your favor. :)
Love like you never been hurt before.
I do experience 3 bad relationship last time too.I thought im not going to find a guy or love a guy again.
Then,darn it,i met a guy last month and the love just comes naturally.
You dont search for love.GIve your time some spaces.Maybe when the time comes,you wil meet a guy you like and he likes you:)
Everything happen for a reason.It just a matter of time
@PMFoutofwater - Ha i'm a tough girl! hell im a US AIRMAN! lolz. yes it is very hard to find a great guy, now its even harder cuz i am being pushed around from place to place