As I was telling my friend about my latest post about the
number of sexual partners and how someone commented that she ended up getting HPV because her SO lied about his number, the conversation took a sudden left turn.
My friend just found out she has HPV, given to her by her ex. A little background: Her ex cheated on her with her best friend. They broke up and now her ex is with her ex-BFF. I asked her if she planned on telling him or her about it and she said "Hell to the NO! Those lying cheating sack of shits deserves whatever is coming to them."
Now, I get that my friend is pissed as all hell and deserves to unleash her wrath. Not only did she get cheated on, she also got a STD from it. In case you don't know what HPV is, unlike the common STD such as SYPHILIS, CHLAMYDIA or GONORRHEA, you can't get rid of HPV by taking antibiotics. There is no cure for it. So my friend is left with a reminder for the rest of her life of the tragedy that has happened to her. But is it okay for her to not say anything?
Is she right? Do those "cheating-bastards" deserve to get HPV?
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I see both sides and it's hard to decide what is the right move. Maybe she just needs to remind everyone who knows of him that he has HPV, that he's a cheater and that he's a no good piece of scum. Slowly ruin his reputation. But still, it won't take away the HPV. This one is a toughie. Next time, wear a condom, I guess is all I can say. *shrugs*
Karma will get them .. So she should tell them.. Even though I probably wouldn't hahaha.
shes right. they deserve that and worse. if my best friend ever got with my boyfriend behind my back i would kick her ass. theres no excuse for that.
To be fair, most women under 30 will contract HPV and their bodies will rid themselves of it on their own with no interference. [Unless you're talking the wart-causing kind, which I have no idea about.]
I mean...men can't be tested for HPV, and women should be going to the gynecologist yearly if they are having sex. So should she tell them? Well...morally, yeah. But if nothing else I'd send an anonymous note that said, "Hey, you and the bitch, get yo selves TESTED!"
Also, HPV is easily spread, even without actually having sex, even with condom use. It's not that shocking that she contracted it, assuming she's a twenty something female having sex. I believe it's 80% of all women will contract HPV in their lifetime. Is she SURE she got it from him? No way to tell, unless they both have warts.
Well HPV - is a virus a non-living infectious
particle that why antibiotics don't work. O_O... there many common
viral infections that aren't cured. Such as HIV, Hepatitis A,B,C,D,
Herpes, Viral infections usually can't be cured if your body doesn't
know how to deal with them. But now since your friend has HPV she
should get checked every year now for cervical cancer. Because really
all HPV does is causes warts and increases the chances of cancer. She
needs to tell her future partners that she has it because it can
transmitted to him. Because of this I also assume she wasn't one of the
girls that decided to be vaccinated for it.
There are 40+ strains of HPV. Some DO disappear. Some are permanent. Some cause warts and some cause cancer. Even worse some give you warts & cancer. The warts and infections can be where ever contact was made. Hence throat (that's what you get for giving oral), anus, vagina, cervix, penis and etc. It can also be transmitted to the child during childbirth hence MUST be mentioned to a medical doctor when baring the child and during child birth. If not the child might have permanent defects/problems for the rest of your child's life.
almost all your posts are about sexual matters, jeez.
STDs, cheating, lying. Why aren't these considered early as reason enough for sexless courting?
maybe her best friend is a closet whore and got the std from the other guys that she messed around with. if she is willing to sabotage a friendship with her best friend's boyfriend, then other scandalous things aren't out of the question. or her ex-bff and bf are both sluts. they deserve each other and everything else along with it. I wouldn't tell.
@jasonwl@xanga - The younger generation would only say we are old fashioned, but I preferred if I didn't have to worry about my mate killing me because she had sex with someone else and
"forgot to tell me".
@chanchina@xanga - @jasonwl@xanga - Agreed.
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Well, even if she did inform them, wouldn't it be pointless? Both of them probably have it by now.
@CrimsonxIllusion@xanga - Well I did note informing FUTURE partners. Sometimes strains don't become active in one person but active in another but that inactive person can still transmit.
@laytexduckie@xanga - Condoms don't fully protect against HPV.
@chanchina@xanga - Well, I wouldn't know. I haven't been abstinent but I've always been careful. Plus, I'm extremely careful of who I get close too. So that's a contributing factor. Anyway, even if he/she does tell the other people involved, it'll probably backfire with senseless fighting. Anyone who can cheat so easily reeks of malicious intent and unnecessary conflict in my opinion.
@CrimsonxIllusion@xanga - Well I thought everyone in most developed worlds have some decent sexual education classes. I guess not because I been having to correct many people recently. This is only because I have to learn about it and treat it, so it's like a constant reminder that the people you see everyday at work are sick, whether they look it or not.
@la_faerie_joyeuse@xanga - that is completely true. I forgot to mention that. Condoms don't protect against all STI's. Pubic Lice, Herpes and etc can be transmitted because condoms don't cover all of the genitals for both male and female.
This is why STD's are running rampant. People are being retarded and not warning people of STD's/STI's they get and just letting their ex partners continue to be outbreak monkeys.
Even though she's mad and thinks these two people deserve what's coming to them, that doesn't mean the people each of them will see after their relationship ends deserve it too.
scary shit, but i say she should tell them, not so much for their benefit, but hopefully at least one of them will be adult enough to share that information with future sexual partners and stop the potential spread... although if we're talking about such admirable people as cheaters then they're not likely to be honest to future partners anyway.
@chanchina@xanga - I went to a Christian High School where such classes were taboo. There was also a no prom or anything of the sort, because dancing was considered evil. Girls couldn't wear makeup, they'd get a demerit for being a Jesabelle. So, I had to learn on my own. Heh. I have since left highschool 3-ish years ago. As I mentioned before, I keep to myself mostly.
@CrimsonxIllusion@xanga - one reason I wouldn't send my future kids to a religious school.
I understand where she's coming from. However, a lot of innocent people like her can get hurt [after doing it with her ex and ex-BFF] that also don't deserve it.
Didn't your friend get the Gardasil shot which prevents [some] types of HPV?
@CrimsonxIllusion@xanga - Yeah, they probably have it - but if they know about it, then there's that slight hope at least that they'll inform their partners...
A lot of people don't tell their exes out of anger and their current partners out of fear, and it's stupid - that's how these things keep spreading - because either people don't know they have it or they do and they don't tell the other person.
@whitetrashpoet@xanga - I find it hard to believe that 80% of women actually get it. Now they have the preventive shots, and I'd like to hope that people do have the common sense to use condoms and get checked frequently.
I dunno about deserving to get HPV, but she got it from him, which means he's got it. And he's fucking the ex-bff, so she probably has it. If they don't know they have it, that's they're problem. They should be smart enough to get checked.Why is it her place to tell them that they're infected with something she didn't give them?
@whitetrashpoet@xanga - yeah pretty sure. She screened a clean bill of health 6 months prior to sleeping with him. If it weren't because she went in because of some other womenly issues, she would have never known she had it until her next physical. Since she didn't sleep with anyone else since the douche left her, I'm pretty sure it was him because it popped up like a daisy for the first time in her whole life. It's just a sad situation all around and you're right. They used protection but it is very contagious...
thats so gross, and not right, and whered she get it form if not from her former partner?