Thursday, 25 February 2010
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She Stabbed Her Ex... That's a Dealbreaker
In a relationship, there are elements we all face that will test our devotion to each other. Some will be relationship builders that draw you closer together. Others will be breakers that will weaken or destroy our relationships.
Relationship builders are ways to develop a loving and caring relationship through our actions and attitudes in our daily lives. For example, a simple text saying 'I love you' really brightens my day because it shows that I am on someone's mind. At least that's what my SO does for me:). Anyway, this could mean dropping old habits and beliefs while finding new ways to communicate. It also means gaining new insights on how to better communicate with each other while based on your personalities.
Relationship breakers are behaviors that make it impossible for a relationship to survive. They are character traits that are so serious that they can be considered detrimental to your relationship that one person can't change simply because they don't want to. I remember one time this girl I was kicking it with told me she got arrested because she stabbed her ex boyfriend with a sharp object. That to me was a deal breaker because God knows if we were to get into an argument and she would try to do the same thing to me. In conclusion, relationship builders and breakers are what separate the long-lasting relationships from the short-lived ones.
What are others you feel you can build your relationship on? What are your deal breakers?
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BAHAHAHAHA!
That's AWESOME~
holy crap that would DEFIANTLY be a deal break for me! other deal breakers would be cheating and lying. if i found out someone had a past of that it would be hard for me to overlook it. even though i know some people change... its just.. not my thing.
a deal breaker for me is cheating. i don't tolerate it at all.
At least you know she's handy with a knife. So obviously she knows how to cook. That doesn't balance it out a little?
Anything physical that can lead to destruction is a deal breaker (IE: the stabbing for instance). I believe cheating would be that as well, I don't tolerate myself...but I have friends who would gladly take their cheating exes back (which is depressing...) so maybe it's a deal breaker for some.
I think fighting and arguing (if it's not constant) can improve the relationship. In fact, it's healthy if that is what happens. A relationship will always run into bumps, but that is part of it and we all have to go through it.
jeez.
A history of emotionally or physically abusing a person is definitely a dealbreaker for me, although I can't help to feel sorry for these people. Even if they get therapy and become healthy, would anyone accept them?
I used to know a guy who told me that he got into a knife fight with another guy(the other man that his gf was cheating with) and was in jail briefly for that. it sounded scary and quite a turn off yet kind of understandable because his ex-cheated but it was still creepy that he'd react violently. he was and still is so hot, too, but he scares me. bummer lol
when he keep showing me over and over and over and over again that he can't be trusted and is unreliable.
hahaha. I love the pic. I love knives.
@JupitersDays@xanga - i agree!!!
and im sure he deserved it.
..is that Katy Perry?
hahahaha.
Anyhow. Good god, what is that serious to bring a knife into it?
You'd think that girl invented crazy.
omg SCARY! haha i thought it was hyperbole. didn't know you actually know a girl who seriously stabbed her ex. holy crap!!
yeah, any type of physical or emotional abuse (ie, embarrassing me in front of friends) is a dealbreaker. also, a really lax attitude toward sex. and haha i know i'm a bad person for this one, but low intelligence is a dealbreaker for me, too. a guy needs to be able to spell at least as well as me. haha like i said...i know that's dumb
builders? being honest! being open about your feelings, both good and bad. i think that's the biggest one. people who hide their disappointments and people who hide their excitement so as not to scare someone else away are both not being entirely honest. i think being open about everything improves relationships dramatically
CHILDREN ARE DEALBREAKERS!
holy crap! she STABBED him!? WTF!?!?!?
@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - heeeyyy!! i like kids!! xD
Things that don't help: Stabbing an ex would be bad. Hitting me. Being physically abusive to my animals, or the ultimatum: "It's me or the animals." Hey, they are like my babies after all. Huge lies that are kept because they would hurt me (Not: I'm adopted! or Your food is bad but I say it's good. More like: I'm married!) Cheating, especially emotional of course. Continuously showing disrespect toward me and/or my family/friends. Any of those is a major deal breaker.
Things that help: he says I love you like a billion times a day, he gets me junk food when I'm menstrual, he holds me when I have a vicious migraine, he listens to me when I talk too much.
Killing puppies and tossing cats out the window.
@Cambios@xanga - I have to agree with what you said. I'm married and I got a husband with the qualities you listed on the things that help.
Definitely cheating. I would also say any mention of violence towards a former S/O would be too. Why should I think I'm special enough for a guy not to hit me if he beat his former gfs?
Bitches be crazyyy
@jumpthenfly@xanga - I think you'd get along well with my friend Karina =D
Cheating, Tying to KILL ME, Lying at things I needed 100% truth on (the important things)
I'm not sure if your tone is serious or dry
either way it's hilarious :'D
White lies when we first meet. A lot of people do this, I think. But when someone I'm just starting to date tells me a little lie about how their father has a lint collection or something, it means that they never planned to be with me long enough for me to figure out that they lied.
Lying (about little or big things that eventually come to become a problem), selfishness, and cheating (which is probably the biggest deal breaker for me). I like simple things in life, simple hugs and kisses and appreciation is pretty much a go on the relationship for me.
Yeah, I would have to say that stabbing an ex is a deal breaker. So is shooting him. (yes, I knew someone like that too.) Hitting is a deal breaker. threats and other forms of violence is a HUGE warning sign, if not an out and out deal breaker.
Back when I was still male, I was at the bar with this guy and he got into a fist fight with his ex-lover. The fight was pretty mutual, but still it was a deal breaker.