Wednesday, 24 February 2010
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Hacker's Anonymous: Was I Wrong?
I suspected my girlfriend was lying to me recently, but every time I confronted her, she found a way to get around my questions. Finally, I couldn't take it any more. I knew her password from a long time ago, so I hacked into her account.
After hacking, I found proof that she had cheated on me. I found conversations detailing her feelings for another guy she's liked for the past month. Now my head is reeling and my heart is shattering.
What should I do? I can't confront her with what I know, since I'd first have to fess up to hacking her account. I know some of you might say it's my fault for snooping, but what else could I do? She wouldn't have admitted it and I would have continued to be strung along for who knows how long...
Have you ever hacked into your s/o's account to see if they were lying to you? If they were, did you confront them about it?
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Hell yes you should confront her for hoin' around and break up with her. And that's not really hacking...
even if you didnt hack into her account and she told you, your heart wouldve been shattered anyways and you would still feel the same. and hacking is nothing compared to cheating so she should feel worse. so either way, im pretty sure the relationship is over. sorry.
Similiar situation has happened recently. I did confront him and he broke up with me for invading his privacy (i did it once before and told him i'd never do it again). He wasnt cheating, or at least I didnt find proof on there. I did however find something else that was proof he was lying to me about something else. Its a lose lose situation.
Be honest.
Dishonesty is her game, it shouldn't be yours, too.
Welll. You should confront her, but I'm not a fan of invading privacy. You need to confess about snooping first, and then confront her. It's gonna get ugly, but that's how it goes.
@Pisces_Girl@xanga - done and done. she has more to be ashamed about, but nevertheless, confess first, then confront.
Hacking. Lol.
While you hacking was wrong - and she will emphasize that it was wrong - the point here is not your mistake, but hers - which is way bigger. Emphasize that and then do whatever you think is appropriate.
On the other hand, if you hacked her and you would've found nothing, then I would've said you have trust issues. But obviously there was a reason for them.
Good luck.
it seems like you had good reasons to be suspicious... i dont think you really even have to tell her you hacked. just be like 'i know everything. we're over.'
if they were only talking/interacting over the internet (like they didn't meet in person or anything) then she might automatically know that you hacked... but still, it's over, she was cheating.
Get back on her account and as her, send a msg to this guy stating "he was going down on me when he saw the warts...nevertheless he told me he had to pick his sister up from school. why does this keep happening to me???". If he writes back, send an awkward msg back that she swears it was her "friend" using her account.
Then dump her.
KNOWING SOMEONES PASSWORD AND USING IT TO LOG IN TO THEIR ACCOUNT IS NOT HACKING
it's called logging in.
For the love of god it's not hacking if you KNOW THEIR PASSWORD.
@TheRealMelanie@xanga - Exactly.
@Viserys@xanga - I hack your Facebook account all the time, dear. ;)
Tell her you think things just aren't like they used to be and you know she has feelings for another guy. Use some line like "It's written all over your face". Some people just eat that shit up.
Basically, just break up with her. Any means necessary. As Shimmer said, she's been ho'in around.
If you don't talk to her or break it off then it will only hurt you more having to stay in a relationship like that.
Just break up with her and move on. Put whatever kind of closure on it as you feel is needed, but I would recommend not telling her you hacked her account. Is that even legal? You might go to jail.
The situation sucks, but I don't see how you can stay with her and pretend you are okay.
Sorry dude.
i did it once. and i'll never do it again. i found out something i didn't like and that i didn't want to know. i don't think it's wrong but i would have asked her and be very stern with her first even if she was dodging the questions you've asked her.
Without trust, you are lost. I hope you can find it again.
slap her across the face and then say in a serious voice, I know what you did!
game over.
"Sorry I went onto your facebook account without telling you. I hope you forgive me... Oh by the way, we're over. Peace."
Break up with her. She's cheating on you! If she loved you, she wouldn't cheat on you.
You can tell her you "hacked" if it makes you feel better. But regardless, break up with her.
break up with the cheating ho. You did get sneak into her account, but she is the one who has done worse. She will keep on cheating on you and the pain will get worse and worse. I do hope you can find trust in someone else in the future.
Ok... the right thing to do would be to tell her. It's best not to stoop to her level and lie. the thought of just not telling her and leaving her did cross my mind lol. But no, tell her, it's going to be nasty but I say confess.