Monday, 22 February 2010
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A "Breach of Trust" Offense
Student-Teacher Relationships - Should they be allowed?
Every so often in classrooms around the globe, there'll be an attraction between a Student and a Teacher that goes beyond a mutual desire to deepen understanding of simultaneous equations.
In Britain, a sexual relationship between a teacher and a student under 18 is illegal, as it's classed as a "breach of trust" offense, and could lead to a range of consequences, such as loss of job, name being entered onto the sex offenders register and even jail, depending on the situation.
I am currently in my last year of compulsory education at a highschool in the UK. At my school there is a teacher, who is in a relationship with an ex-student of his. In fact, I think they may be engaged. As far as I know, the relationship did not being until she left education at 18, (She stayed onto Sixth Form, which over here is an alternative to college), where she was taught by him from age 16-18, maybe before that. What are your opinions on this? They waited until she left education to start the relationship, and although there maybe an age gap, they are legally doing nothing wrong.However, my question to you is:
Do you believe student-teacher relationships are acceptable over the age of 18, providing the teacher does not teach the student anymore, and both parties agree to it?
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yeah i guess that's (legally) fine... sounds kinda weird though, in a creepy sorta way
As long as there is no student-teacher relationship between them anymore, then fine. It's just that it really does breach trust and fairness and laws and everything, but so long as the relationship starts a good while after the student has left the education provider where the teacher works, then I don't have an issue with it.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a teacher-former student relationship as long as the former student is over 18. It'll be weird for the families involved, though.
Yes, it's legal, and I see nothing wrong with it. My teacher asked me out when I was 18 - classes had just ended.
if it is legal and mutual, I think it is okay. however, I personally wouldn't accept the advances of a former teacher even if I was legal. they just creep me out. doctors/lawyers are hotter
This happened with my old band director; when he was teaching fresh out of college, him and a senior girl really hit it off, but they did everything appropriately and waited until she graduated. They were meant to be together, and they've been happily married for about 40 years. It can work.
What everyone else said.
Who cares the age 12 boy with 45 lady, 13 girl with 40 gentleman...loves love... Now if your talking about sex ...thats differ... Call me a perv. you don't know me.
its irresponsible because it leads to favoritism and so forth. but i don't think it matters that when they aren't taking the class. Still creepy on account that most teachers aren't cute and the age difference and you aren't sure when it started
Well... let me give you one teacher's point-of-veiw.... if the ages are legal and it isn't taking place while they are actually teacher/student... then I think it's fine.
i feel like this needs to be handled on a case-by-case basis. i'm a trained therapist, and you can't date your clients because of the power differential in therapy; the same applies to teacher-student relationships to an extent. one person is in such a position of power that they could (even unintentionally) influence the other person's feelings. because of this, therapists have to wait several years before they could ever date a former client.
i think that in ideal situations, a teacher-former student relationship would only begin after the student had been graduated for several years. that way, you know you're starting a new adult relationship, and it has nothing to do with the student's (possibly unrealistic or even worshipful) feelings for their teacher as a teacher. but i've also seen relationships succeed where they got together shortly after the student left high school. so i guess you never know!
Should be fine, yeah. Looked down upon, perhaps, but nothing too scandalous, I don't think.
it depends if you're going to cross the line or not. i'm a person who i know my place and where i stand and i would never cross that line between a student and teacher relationship but i've seen instances where the line has been crossed.
I think some of you aren't reading this correctly. The relationship didn't start until AFTER the girl had graduated and was no longer his student.
I don't see what the problem is. In reality, the two could be 8-10 years apart, or even less than that. When I was in high school, one of our teachers was just 21.
of course! if the student is over 18, and no longer that teacher's student, then they are just consenting adults.
i think it's wrong. it's like dating your nanny, after your nanny stopped being your nanny. teachers are kinda like caretakers (not exactly but similar). they develop a different kind of relationship. not like employee-client relations nor like manager-employee relations either! your job is to care about them, discipline them, etc. maybe it wouldn't be so bad if people would just stop doing teacher-student roleplays in the bedroom. they obviously find it thrilling, so when there's a real teacher-student relationship, even ex-teacher-students can redo their roles, we can't help think that it stems from the roleplay/thrill. i'm a teacher & i've never felt anything for any of my students. i think it should always be like that, even if my student was a really hot singer or athlete. i think if i was in the right mindset as a teacher, i will not fall for them, even after they are not my student. cuz i will always remember they were my students.
if the student is over 18 everythings fine :)
Well there's nothing legally wrong with it when the student has graduated and is of age. It just seems like a typical porn film plot, and that just seems a bit off?
I think it is fine. Love is love right? :)
I don't see anything wrong with it at all.
I think the teacher-student relationship is much different when comparing high school to college.
Personally, it doesn't bother me either way as long as it is after the person isn't your teacher anymore. But it is much more difficult for people to grasp when you are talking about a high school teacher and a student over a college student and professor.
Agh. I've always had a thing for teachers.
But I also think it would be really weird to actually date one of them...haha...