Friday, 19 February 2010
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Benefits of a Long Distance Relationship
There is much speculation that LDR's do not work in general. I would have to completely disagree. Granted, I'm in one now, and she and I have both communicated for 2 years to be exact. We have both expressed that we are going to give everything to this relationship so that we can stay close. The strongest part of our relationship is actually our communication; we talk about everything (just about) and we know where we stand in regards to the direction of our relationship.
The benefits to a Long Distance Relationship? Plenty.
The first benefit is that being apart over a long distance causes our feelings to grow as well as our desire for each other. This will help us treasure our time together and spend it wisely so that we may form a solid relationship built on communication, patience, and dependence on God.
The second benefit is that it causes us to surrender our will and relationship over to the Lord for His guidance and direction. We know that there is plenty we cannot change, but for what we can and are able to, we use and build up each other and encourage one another to persevere.
Thirdly, it puts our relationship to the test and determines the true value and strength of our commitment. Some people get together and over time they are no longer together. The main reason is that many are not willing to patiently commit themselves to one another. If two people really "dig" each other and are willing to pursue each other, then nothing can stop them from working together as a team to keep things going over the long-distance. This shows us that we are serious about each other and our relationship.
Fourthly, it motivates us to work more diligently and sincerely in taking care of our affairs in life.
The end result: we get to be together for a while longer! So, if I'm focused on my work and making the money necessary for me to get through what's necessary, then I can work knowing that I get to see her after all the hard work is done. I could go on to list more, but the benefits themselves have to do more with building character and trust in each other over time; that way, when we finally do get to the end our dating to the final stage in our relationship (hopefully marriage) then we will definitely know that we are for each other and that coming together was by the hand of God. What God joins together, no man can separate
What are some benefits of LDR's that you have found?
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I'm in one as well and I agree with everything you said!
"What God joins together, no man can seperate."- That is GREAT.
I like this and I will be in a long distance relationship in a year or two .
Thanks for the insight
My long distance relationship was nice. I appreciated it more than a relationship where I saw the person everyday, because I could have my space and you really didn't take for granted the time spent together. However, I'm in a long distance marriage now (I see him Friday Saturday and Sunday) and I don't recommend it.
I'm in a long distance relationship and I'm happier than ever. Like you said, if makes you love the other person more and assures you that your feelings for them aren't just lust.
Another thing I've found is that you don't hold grudges about petty things like "You didn't text me back last night! You hate me!" or "Are you seriously making me go to this movie?" It makes you treasure every kiss, every touch and every moment.
Of course there are time when it's very tough but it's worth it for that feeling of incredible bliss when I see him for the first time in months and get to be in his arms again. Incredibly worth it.
Agreed! Three years strong, and only a few months left before we're finally together. I honestly couldn't be happier (until, of course, that day when we're no longer apart). :3
i agree with"What God joins together, no man can separate"
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Regardless, I'm happy that it works for you guys.
Best of luck. =)
I would definitely agree with the wanting each other more since you don't see each other that often. also, it makes you miss them a lot and be really attached, so there's always constant communication without getting sick of each other. and since you talk about anything and everything, they become a best friend as well, and you guys appreciate each other for everything that's on the inside, as deep as you can go.
however, I sometimes envy people who blindly trust in God. I believe in God, but don't blindly trust in him/her the way some people do. that's really neat, and I'm sure it takes much stress off your shoulders (:
LDRs are hard.
it is possible. but for most personality types there is too much agony to make it work.
i have been in far too many LDRs and ive vowed not to have anymore. unless for some reason it was my wife, of course. i wouldnt divorce if i wasnt gonna see her for a few monthsI'm in one right now. It's the first time (for both me and her) and both of us came from a "LDRs never work" background. However, we got together and we've been communicating everyday via phone, IM and/or vidcam (We are on opposite coasts and slightly different countries). One of the things that keeps us going is our perseverance, our effort to work things out and because we truly care for each other. I do admit that sometimes, I can get very lonely because she isn't here physically, but I know that I always have someone to go to at the end of the day that can put a smile on my face. I'll be seeing her in less than 3 weeks for the first time and I know it will be one of the happiest days of my life.
This trully gave me to courage to get everything together so I can visit my girlfriend this summer, and it is trully appreciated because LDRs get so much bad rap it's not even funny.
I've been dating my bf for almost 4 years, and a good chunk of 3 years was in LDR. I think LDR makes the relationship more mature--you don't squabble over trivial things, and you work things out in a responsible manner. LDR definitely improved our communication with each other, taught us to trust each other, and to learn to work out difficulties. I feel closer to him.
I always think that ALL couples should spend some time doing LDR. It really teaches you how to handle a relationship.
I was in one for a while, and in the end I moved home to marry him. I was away at school, and we saw each other every weekend.
My first relationship was an LDR. We got to know each other's personalities first instead of having looks distract us from each other. I learned how important it is to trust someone. We were completely honest with each other and when I was with him I was the happiest I felt in my whole life, and haven't felt that happy with anyone since.
I used to have a LDR...and it really lasted a while. 3 years, it didn't pass some of the tests of an LDR. In the last year we had some problems with communication so from there, our relationship went downhill.
So yes, I agree with you it was built on communication and patience.
Your points are all correct and I'm sincerly happy for you! I'm in an LDR as well (my boyfriend is in CA and I'm in PA). I can not wait until we can finally be together in the SAME state, which will be next year. I hope next year we can take the next step in our relationship, as mentioned inyour post. LDRs put your relationships to the test! You will find out how strong your relationship actually is :)
All of your benefits are so true!
My Boyfriend lives in New Hampshire and I in PA...we've been together for almost a year now. We saw eachother once a month, sometimes more than once a month...the eight hour drive going to see him would go fast because I was so anxious and excited to see him! We valued our time together so much, and never took, even just talking on the phone or texting for granted...when I left, or he left to go home, I cried...Now, he is deployed with the Army, and will be gone a year...I thought Long Distance was hard at times...now this is going to be the real test...but I feel that we found eachother because we were meant to be...and nothing can break us apart. When he comes home we plan on moving together, getting married and starting a life together...I can't wait!
I wish you the best of luck with everything! :)
less of a struggle with the physical...
try 7 years of LDR and then tell me if u still see "benefits"
my boyfriend is in the navy and i completely agree on everything you said! :)
Im not in a long distance relationship usally, but I've been in England for the last two months and will be for one more. Meanwhile my boyfriend is in Canada. Its definately hard and I miss him a lot, but its definately do-able. I thought that I would feel really seperated and disconnected from him, but I don't at all, we still communicate every day either through chat or video chat. I know how wonderful it will be when i finally get to see him again at the end of March!!! <3
so true especially the first benefit
I'm kindasortamaybe in one as well and I say "none"
Except maybe you get to hold on to the illusion longer....