Thursday, 18 February 2010
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Being a Virgin is Hard
Being a virgin is hard. I now understand why people are so shocked when I tell them that I am in my early twenties and I have never had sex. It is hard! I always assumed that if you have never had sex, you don’t know what you are missing so you don’t really want it. SO WRONG!
First there’s the evil that is mother nature. Mother nature makes girls outrageously horny during the time of the month when guys actually don’t want to have sex with you. And to make it worse, some women crave sexy foods like chocolate, which further enhances the horniness. EVIL! And then if that is not bad enough, you are even hornier after that time of the month, and boys actually want to rock the bed with you then. I think they smell it! They smell the hormones raging in you and they know if they push the right button or brush past the right nipple, all self control goes out the window! EVIL!
I only say this because today, I too was tempted! The virgin was tempted! One of my super hot class group mates keeps flirting with me. And when I say hot, I mean hot like, I can’t sit next to him because my fingers try to reach up and get into his mouth. So hot, I don’t even do the normal girl of fantasizing about a relationship with him; I fantasize about everyone in the classroom suddenly leaving and him bending me over the desk, and having his way with me, the entire time I am yelling “I am such a naughty girl, I am such a naughty girl!”. When he laughs, and flashes those pearly whites, I don’t even think about the class room emptying, I just want to slip out of my chair, onto the ground, and put my head in his lap!
He smelled it on me! When I am getting over the feeling, he does something like try to hug me or say something funny and sweet to me and then my fingers start its trip to his delicious cherry lips again.
The point is being a virgin is hard. Its like walking through the desert for 2 decades and then suddenly finding a huge plate of those Mexican beans; you want to eat it because you are hungry and want real food but you know those beans are going to clean your colon dry in a few hours! OK OK very bad analogy, but I’m a horny virgin so my brain is not working. Off to the cold shower…
How do you deal with attraction when having sex is not an option, like if you are in a relationship or in my case, "the v word"?
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Oh girl! Believe me, I am sympathetic! Haha. The bad part is it's gotten worse for me not better as I've gotten over it. When I have those issues, I just write... A lot. Keep your head about you and you'll be fine. :0)
hahah awwww you sound like you're having a rough time with it... i'm 18 and still a virgin and funnily enough i've been feeling a ton of pressure from third parties and myself to have sex with my boyfriend, even though i feel no pressure from him... weird stuff. what is your 'reason' for not having sex? or are you trying to explain that you're just never horny at the right times?
You might want to try masturbation. It takes you off the edge :)
@mystic_sapphire@xanga - Agreed haha.
Ha! That made me laugh. It's funny to hear a story like this coming from a woman who isn't SerenaDante.
Me? I'm still a virgin at 20, but I have yet to be sexually attracted to anyone. It may be odd for a guy, but it's just not something I think about.
lol. I'm in a sexual relationship and I still masturbate ;)
or, it seems he's interested... you could always try to strike up a relationship with him :p
and good for you, being a virgin. be proud that you're taking care of yourself and not selling yourself short just to get it over with...
I'm 19 and still a virgin. I feel for you. Last month was really bad, I went as far as looking up the cost of different hotels since I still live with my parents and the person I had in mind to do the deed with also lives with his. I just fantasize and it usually suffices. My way to tackle it this month is buying lingerie - okay I don't really know if that'd help you but it makes me feel better - the mentality of "just because I'm not doing it doesn't mean I can't still look ravishing."
Good luck!
Thank you for confirming that women have urges too and that if we have sex it may be because we want to and not necessarily because we're weak and "giving in".. and for also confirming that women should be able to be as sexual as men w/o there being a stigma attached.
it sounds to me like you don't really want to be a virgin. why is sex not an option?
I'm still a virgin at 23, but I value my "v-card" so I am not about to sell myself short just to do the deed. It is quite hard to suppress the urge, but that is what I use anime/manga/video games for. The fact that not too many people have their "v-card" at my age does make me proud that I am not giving in to peer pressure or etc... so don't feel so bad!!!
I know what you mean. there have been moments where I want to pounce on a random hot guy but I stop myself from it and just silently drool over his sexy shoulder, arms, and entire body lol I just try to distract myself from sexual thoughts by being occupied with other things. there is masturbation and I can easily find a guy who'll want to have sex but I don't because once I get started on that, my horniness isn't relieved, it gets hungrier.
Haha. This made me laugh. It's even harder when you're not a virgin, and you DO know what you're missing, but you're going through a dry spell. Yeah, that'd be me.
True. It's difficult being one. (:
Hmm, you could always try what the girl in The Rules of Attraction did: buy a book on Venereal Diseases. Make sure it has pictures.
I'm 21 and still a virgin... I seriously agree with this post. Sometimes, its just really difficult... especially when you're just really goddamn horny and want some... badly. ahahaha. For me, if I hadn't made out in a while, it drives me up the wall.
Don't get me wrong though, this is my choice, so I shouldn't really be complaining.... I've thought about the virginity topic a lot, and there are times when I've been insanely tempted to the point I wanted to just do it. But my policy is, no matter how much I may like the guy... if he can't deal with no sex.... well, no relationship, because I don't want to be pressured.
@mystic_sapphire@xanga - True, oh so true. =D
Keep holding the fort!!!
If you are going to complain just do it, sheesh.
Dang I hear ya. Being a virgin is hard but it should be reserved for someone special. You only lose it once.
You must overcome the temptations my child.
OMG that is me RIGHT NOW AS WE SPEAK!!!!
I think it's something in Japans' water that's making me SUPER aroused and I'm like on the prowl for a victim...but wait..I'm 21 and also a virgin..we don't victimize do we?
I talked to my best friend about it..and she says to make sure that u don't drop your values because of a temporary physical state..eventually the horniness will wear off, the arousal will decrease..and you'll gather urself..and finally be back within yourself and think wtf just happened?
this sounds nice and frou frou..but right now i'm sitting in a computer lab with about 10 guys...all of em hot....all of em giving me second glances......all of em contaminating my brain with new porn flick plots.
Nihon eh Youkoso!!!!
stay strong girl.......or not...let those knees go weak and tap into those desires!!
Well I am 21 a guy. I am a virgin. Just learn to distract yourself. Go do something with that time. I usually go work out.
@destinyshorizon - i totally agree with you
Why is sex out of the option?
I'm about to be 24 and I have yet to have sex. It makes it very hard for me to even find a relationship because most guys are simply not willing even get on the track to see if they would like a relationship with me because they can't have sex with me. Or they think I will get all weird and clingy if they were to take my virginity or whatever.
Because I've waited so long it is very important that I do not simply squander my virginity just for the sake of being bent over and called a naughty girl (believe me hun, I've had those fantasies too. And with my perverted mind they were probably twice and graphic :P).
What keeps me is remembering why I'm waiting. I just want to be as secure as possible in my decision when I do actually end up having sex. I may not have the best luck with guys, but neither do the girl who are having sex really. Many girls our of age group have sex with guy to get them to like them or to keep them around, what have you and it doesn't work. And I'd personally prefer to keep my peace of mind and my self respect over a couple minutes grunting and grinding.
That and masturbation. Lots. Of masturbation.
The kind that makes you wonder if that old saying that you'll go blind is true.
I have 20/40 vision O_o
Besides. Most people say the first couple times aren't that great any way. I would personally prefer to experience those times with someone I care about and then build up to the good stuff as opposed to with some random loser who will end up ditching me and what's there to say, I have him my virginity and the sex wasn't even that good.
Nope. I'll wait.
i dont understand. why isnt sex an option? i guess im was considered the slut in my high school. i did whomever i wanted. i dont understand why your desire should be repressed. this kind of thing needs to be released before you find your special person or else youll drive your special person crazy with your oversexness.
I was a virgin until I was married, so I can SYMPATHIZE!!! LOL... I remember when I would just be like in HEAT... lol, a guy would LOOK at me and I'd be thinking about him for MONTHS... GAH! And I'd have those SAME experiences like what you're talking about...It'd be the hottest of the hottest guys in the entire room (in one case, the guy was even MARRIED! O_O) and I did this thing with my tongue (totally not sexual) and he was all like, "ooooh do that again... oh yeah, a little to the left" and then he looked right at me and said, "oh god if I wasn't married" O_O... OMG! He was excrutiatingly handsome too. Dark hair, blue eyes, MMM... and I supposed to do a romantic scene with him in "theatre" class. I mean, how much more TEMPTING can this get??? O_O lol (nothing happened for the record) Just my heart feeling like it was going to pop right out of my CHESTY
I think the reality is that when we make a decision like "not to have sex" or "not to be active till marriage" there will BE temptation... Cause the DARK side (in my case, I believe in the devil) wants us to go there, and ruin the whole thing.
Let me tell you, my husband and I... OH BOY, did we EVER want to just DO IT! And we probably would have had we not been able to marry. We dated for TWO AND A HALF YEARS and were TOTALLLLLLY in love... I'd be drooling every other time we were togther... just literally DROOLING... lol... I actually STILL feel like this sometimes... but we're together now and we can do "whatever" we want (yes for freedom)...
It's so hard, I know, but I SO stand by your decision, whatever the reason that you made it. I can't tell you how many people confide in me that they REGRETTED not waiting...