I know a lot of stuff has gone around Xanga, talking about people having internet relationships and whatnot. But, who cares... I'm gonna write about it anyways. For those of you who aren't aware - I'm a bit of a nerd. Yes, the kind of nerd who wastes her precious time playing MMORPG's (Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games, for those of you who aren't so geek-savvy). You may be familiar with games like World of Warcraft and Guild Wars; I play a game that is similar, called Perfect World International. It's really quite fun - a bit of a waste of time, but fun indeed.
As you can imagine, throughout my game playing experiences, I've met many people who have become "friends" (online friends, anyways). And... as you can also imagine, quite a few of them are guys.
Let me think... I've stolen the heart of - A 23 year old from Argentina (in fact, he just "proposed" to me tonight - you can get "married" in this game)
- A 19 year old from Venezuela (He literally asked me to marry him... in real life. And he was very serious. He also writes me poetry in Spanish.)
- A 25 year old from Indiana, who has a girlfriend who JUST had a baby
- A 30 year old from Indiana (the above guy's brother, in fact), who also has a girlfriend (from the game, they don't know each other in real life)
- A 58 year old from California, who is married
- A 43 year old from California, who is also married
I, quite honestly don't know what I did. But, all on separate occasions, these guys expressed their romantic feelings to me. I felt REALLY awkward.... because I assumed they were all just friends. I had no romantic intentions, whatsoever! I, of course, have expressed to all of them that I have no intentions of having a romantic relationship with them. ESPECIALLY, those who were already involved (the married guys and the ones with boyfriends) and those who were much older than me (uhhhh, I'm 19.... the oldest two are old enough to be my dad).
Many of them were shocked, when I expressed that I thought online romance was (MOST OF THE TIME), useless and ridiculous. I mean... how can you REALLY fall in love with someone you've never met? Heck, they have no idea what I look like in real life. They only know the way I've fashioned my character. They wouldn't know if I was lying to them about myself - I can act however I want on that game. For all they know, I'm nothing like what they perceive me as. It's so strange to me that people are seeking legitimate relationships on VIDEO GAMES. I just play to have fun - the fact that I've made a few friends along the way is a bonus. Romance though? No way!
What do you guys think? Is video game love a go or no-go?
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Didn't we have this the other day? You were sad then, you're sad now. In the nicest possible way
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
Definitely a NO-GO. I've agree with you that online romance are useless and ridiculous. May be these guys have this attraction for you because they are attracted to a girl that is a gamer. I am a gamer myself and for me, there is an attraction for a girl that is a gamer. I guess they just gone overboard. Just ignore them and treat them as friends. I've known friends that has met friends through WOW. So, it's possible.
No-go.
@PMFoutofwater - Pretty sure that can't be said in a nice way. AND, this is not the same author of that last video games post. Pay attention.
Not for me. Though, my fiance and I both play WoW a lot and there have been a few girls that have crossed the line with him. Nothing pisses me off more than slutty MMO girls. .-.
@Gorrific@xanga - Ughhh, I know, right? I know plenty of girls who act like total sluts on games like that - to be honest, I simply have chosen to assume it's because they are too scared to be slutty in real life (whether it be because they're self-conscious or whatever). I also know a lot of girls who exploit guys on MMO's - flirting to get help or items. So annoying.
@Masked_Melody@xanga - Yep. It's completely infuriating. And whenever I'd ask them not to flirt with him they'd be like "Flirt?! This is just how I am!" my ass that's just how you are. ]:< It really must just be insecurity irl.
@Masked_Melody@xanga - Yes, different author - but it's quite a specific topic and I read about it on here only yesterday.
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
@PMFoutofwater - I can't really agree with you there. The other blog talked about a game in which there is a computer controlled love interest. I'm talking about real people, just ones you haven't met. I guess it's not unlike dating someone you've met on a site like Xanga.
@PMFoutofwater - Also... that isn't a legitimate reason to call me "sad." In fact, I wonder if you really even read this blog... because I said I don't believe in online romance.
Rare commodity in a market full of demand
@Masked_Melody@xanga - Hey, the 'you' I was referring to was people who go in for all this, not you personally - though I accept it was worded badly.
Nah, I don't think so anyways. I understand meeting over dating sites or even myspace/facebook (guilty of meeting my current fiance that way... well we had mutual friends first, but that was the first place we talked to each other)
But i play WoW and could not imagine "falling in love" with someone on that game. First of all, as shallow as this may seem, you have no idea what they look like in real life. Also, you're just typing and you really can't get a feel for someone's personality just by typing. It's a fun way to make friends, but there's no possible way to sustain a relationship on a game like that. An exception would be if you found each other on a social networking site with pictures, etc. and got to know each other that way but... that's looking to much into it.So, in conclusion, no WoW/MMORPG love for me, thanks =)
@Gorrific@xanga - Seriously, you had an abortion and "sluts" piss you off? you are a slut.
I totally agree with you on onlline dating..
seriously someone could say they are 19 but they could be an old man at 76 with 4 kids
who knows?
Unlike the majority of the people here, I say go! heheh
I've met my boyfriend 7-8 years ago on an online video game. Fate made it happen that we went to the same school and we really connected well! We've never stopped talking to each other until this day. We are each other's everything and best friend! It's amazing to think that we only met through a video game. =P
@PMFoutofwater - Hehehe okay, I guess I can accept that.
@ShimmerBodyCream2@xanga - Oh my gosh... wow, was that called for?
@babyxelmo@xanga - Hahaha that's so cool!
I'll admit, I do know a couple who met and married through WOW. They actually have a very good relationship. I'm surprised at the girl's bravery, in particular. She moved half way across the country to marry a man she had only met online and through video chat.
There is always a couple of cases where it can truly happen; I've heard about these stories and they are heart warming... But what I can see...is that it is rare. My sister first met a guy when she was 15 on Ragnorok...has a couple other buddies...in a realtionship with one and still feeling for the first. She is soooooooooo caught up in relationships on her MMORPG and ends up crying all the time because of these guys and has a HUGE disconnection from reality. All sorts of empty promises of a wonderful future together. ...she stays up all night...sleeps all day...and she wants to run away from home to be with this guy she has never met. She could get herself into trouble.
@ShimmerBodyCream2@xanga - O LOL U SO FUNNY
You're a crappy troll.
Try again, bitchface. ;]
honestly i've been sucked into a couple of these, but i told myself no...this isn't going to work out, i'm just fooling myself and called it quits. i'm sure most cases don't work out so well. half of these 'video game romances' fail utterly and are a complete waste of time, but right now i'm guilty of a sort of video game romance. okay gosh it is a video game romance. GUILTY. my 'story' is really too long though and most people would call me insane for believing so much in one person lol. because of that, i don't really share with people the details unless i'm really close and open about things to them. i think it's a go if the other person is also single and being truthful, but if the other person is married or taken, then that is wayyy out of line. i guess it really depends on whether or not you are okay with this sort of thing lol. at the very least, i found this post interesting though =p.
@Gorrific@xanga - Lol, funny? It's just the truth. It's more sad than amusing.
@Masked_Melody@xanga - well if somebody is going to accuse people of being sluts they probably shouldn't be one. :P
I have a friend who chats on Xbox with a lot of guys. She's constantly texting them and flirty. It's innocent since they are usually states away, but I still find it weird that you're exchanging phone numbers while blasting people in a videogame. (Also, don't feel nerdy. I am obsessed with The Sims, which is similar to the game you play.)
- Sarah