Would you be offended or flattered if a gay guy (for the guys) or a lesbian (for the girls) was hitting on you and trying to pick you up?
The other night while I was out with friends, this guy just comes up to us and starts talking to my guy friend. Now we didn't think anything at first because it's a bar and random conversations usually happens if you're either waiting to get a drink or waiting in line for the bathroom. Next thing I know, my friend is sidling up next to me and puts his arm around me saying "sorry but I'm taken..." I asked him what was that about? He told me the guy was trying to pick him up and told him his apartment was just 2 blocks away.
He's offended because he got picked up by a dude when there were so many girls around. I told him he should be flattered because gay guy tends to have a higher standard when choosing another guy and to be honest, that guy wasn't bad looking. He thinks I'm BS-ing him and feels that if the roles were reversed, I wouldn't be flattered. That's absolutely not true. If someone was hitting on me, my first thought is it's because they find me good looking. So why wouldn't I be flattered?
So what do you think? Would you be offended or flattered?
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Flattered.
Doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl, if someone thinks I'm hot enough to take home, I must be doing something right.
It has happened to me, and I felt flattered, but also a bit confused. :D
Flattered, somehow I feel more comfortable being hit on by a girl than a guy.
At first, it was very flattering. Especially in the beginning, before I had had any relationships before; me getting hit on by guys was a huge compliment to me. I knew I didn't feel the same way back, and I always expressed that it was just need to feel like that meant somewhere I could be found attractive.
Now it's offensive, because only my close gay friends fall for me, when they know I'm straight. It sounds fairly bad, but it's frustrating when I can hardly find myself being attracted to the opposite gender as it is.
this depends on the situation.
if it was a girl who knew i was straight and didn't let up, i'd be offended.
if it was a girl who didn't know me and told me i was hot, i'd be flattered, but i'd let her know i had a boyfriend.
Flattered. Someone thinks I'm hot! :P
definitely flattered. they think you're attractive :)
"[...] gay guy tends to have a higher standard when choosing another guy." That sorta made me snort.
I'd be flattered.
flattered...at least I'm appealing to SOMEONE! lol
just like a straight pick-up- depends on how they're hitting on me. if the chick was being sleazy or really suggestive, i'd be offended. if she was being sweet and complimentary, i'd be flattered. i had a gay friend once tell me, "i know you're not into girls...but you're super hot", and that's flattering. to me it's about style, not sexual orientation
Flattered! For sure!
However, no matter the person's sexual orientation, if they were persistent after I politely declined, I would get annoyed quickly.
neither. just would tell him i dont fly that way, thank you.
Flattered. I don't see how that could be at all offensive. I think that it should only be offensive if you get offended when ANYONE hits on you. Otherwise, come on! Someone thinks you're cute; what's it matter what their gender is?
he might have felt offended because he could have taken it as the gay guy thinking he looked or acted 'gay'.
this happened to one of my guy friends. we were all out at a club and a guy started hitting on him. my friend told him he was straight, and the guy replied, "honey, not with that shirt on!" it was pretty funny, my friend was all embarrassed and wanted to change clothes after that.
Most girls would probably be flattered as long as the girl wasn't creepy or really ugly, but most guys are PARANOID of looking gay, sounding gay, or acting gay, and some would take a gay guy hitting on them as a sign that the guy thought they were gay.
Depending on their approach, it could be creepy/offending or flattering. And this goes for ANYONE, regardless of orientation
Flattered (in most cases).
But then, I'm bi, so maybe my opinion doesn't count.
Flattered.
In college the guy I secretly liked came up to me and asked if I liked girls. At first I was offended because the guy I was crushing on for a long time is the one who asked me, then I got paranoid that I was giving off the wrong vibe when he was flirting.
He`s like "no, no.." and explained that one of his good friends is a lesbian, and saw him talking to me. He explained that when I walked by she said "Dammmnn, she's f---ing hot!" and since he knew who I was, the girl asked him to approach me for her. Hahah. It was mixed feelings. I wasn't offended, but I wasn't really flattered at first either. After he talked about how she thought I was ridiculously gorgeous, I ended up being flattered, yet 100% uninterested because I'm straight. Poor girl.
Flattered.
I was trying to be picked up by a gay guy while I was working. It wasn't right there and then, but my friend found a Craigslist's Missed Connection pertaining to the place I work and it mentioned my name. He called me "cute as hell" and "really nice" and explained what he bought. I thought I just dropped him an email and tell him that I'm straight, but I was flattered.
i don't think i'd be either of the two extremes?
flattered
Should be flattered for one thing, and secondly don't need to lie about trying to be taken by another guy of the same sex. Most gay people would be cool if you were just honest with them, saying "Thanks but I don't swing that way." They appreciate the honesty and the respect you give them that way. (This coming from the gay crowd that I used to hang out with.) Sometimes they may get a little more aggressive but you just need to put your foot firmly down again and politely let them know.