Monday, 15 February 2010
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Question of the Day: The Other Person
About cheating.
If you're the "other woman" or "other man," (is there such a term?) then is it your responsibility to stay away from someone who's taken, or is it that person's responsibility to stay away from you?
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It is both person's responsibility. Someone should not pursue someone who they know are in a commited relationship, just as how a person who is in a commited relationship should not pursue someone else.
both. a person should respect their SO and be able to control themselves or be responsible enough to break up if they're not satisfied with their relationship so that they dont cheat. the "other" should never purse someone when they know they are in a relationship, this is out of respect for that couple.
@materialactress@xanga - hahaha key word Committed relationship. damn I think that makes me a scum bag
I think it's mostly the responsibility of the person in a committed
relationship to stay away from a third party, although the other person
also has responsibilities to not interfere in a relationship.
From my own personal experiences, it's not worth it in the end to be the other woman.
Both people are scum, but the one in the relationship is a worse kind of scum because he/she was the one the victim trusted and let himself/herself become vulnerable to.
It takes two to tango.
Both. It takes two people to do the horizontal mambo...
I think it will probably vary from case to case. Obviously, the cheater is always responsible. The other person, though, it's hard to say. I think it really depends on how the taken person acts initially. If they're always downplaying their relationship, and talking like they're getting out soon or something, it seems acceptable for someone to take interest. If they're clear that they're trying to make things work, however, the other person needs to respect that.
If you're the person being cheated on, though, I think there's no use blaming the 3rd party at all (unless it's a 'friend', at least). I mean, they're doing inappropriate stuff, but they're not the ones who committed to you.
both people are at fault here.but mostly the person in the relationship ;
one, fhor leading the other person on ;
and second, fhor being a part of something that would hurt both their SO, and the third person.
im currently in a situation, where im the third person [i must admit.] .and i am wrong to stay in the position i am; but that is only because he led me on.filling my head with unrealistic fantasies. i made a mistake falling fhor him.and now its too late to turn back.
to make things worse, now, he takes back his words.;and im stuck here in the middle; .i know i should move on, and not be someone who i had despised.but hes made it too hard to turn back.
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I've never been the "other woman", but to answer your question.. both parties are accountable. You're just as guilty if you're part of something that involves sneaking around and causing great pain for another person if he or she ever finds out.
Both.
The latter. The person in the relationship is responsible. The other person has no obligation to the person's spouse.
The person in the relationship if there is no notification of said "relationship." But the other person cannot be blind to rings and mysterious phone calls.
Both people need to stay away from each other.
Both.
There's obviously issues about integrity here but if we're talking responsibility, then no - it's not the other man/woman's responsibility to hold back.
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
Both.
it's more the responsibility of the person in the relationship because that person has the commitment to uphold. you have no such commitment and are technically free to do as you choose - but don't be a douche about it.
If the, "Other person," knows the one in a relationship is, well, in a relationship, then it's both their faults.
But on the off chance that this person keeps the, "Other person," in the dark about the relationship, the, "Other person," doesn't do anything wrong.
@ MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Agreed.
BOTH, surely. But I agree it's more the responsibility of someone who already has chosen to be committed in a relationship, as @MissPixieGlitter@xangastated. For all the "other" knows, the person they're involved with could be single, too.
I think that if people stay away from other people that they know are already "taken" then it would make cheating just that much harder. A lot of people have the attitude where they feel that they dont care if you have a girl or a dude. So cheating become easy! That person has a commitment to the person they are with, but you should have more of a commitment to yourself to take a moral stand. Not allow yourself to settle for someone who is with someone else, because you could easily be on the other side of the equation. Both parties are responsible because in the end their actions will effect an innocent person, either it be emotionally or physically (STD's).
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