Sunday, 14 February 2010
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I Believe Soulmates are Real
For clarification, this has nothing to do with V-Day. Just sayin'.
My best guy friend and I have been bff since grade nine, which means it's been five years this winter. I'll be the first to say it's been a long five years. At age 14, he was pretty much insane. Ridiculously A.D.H.D., a combination of volume and energy. I was so reserved and shy, like a negative of him. Looking back on it now, I wonder how I made it out alive, but after a couple of years he calmed down and I came out of my shell.
I can't imagine living without him. I trust him with absolutely everything in my life and know wholeheartedly that he would never betray that and hurt me. He is the one person I can open up to and talk to about anything at all. I trust him more than my family. We've disagreed and fought once or twice, but it never lasted for more than an hour.
I do like to call him a brother from another mother, but it's more than that. I don't know if anyone else can relate to this, but I'll try to explain it the best I can.
I've always felt this undeniable, intensely strong connection to him. Not romantic, as we're strictly platonic and always have been. Something more than that. I can predict when he's going to text me within minutes of when he actually does. He automatically calls me when I've had a bad day or I've just been upset, saying he felt that I needed someone to talk to. As soon as our moods change when we're near each other, we know it. I've been told that when this happens, one of us looks at the other as if something physical had happened, like a hand touching our shoulder.
When we first met, I found this to be the scariest thing I'd ever experienced in my life. Now, I've grown used to it and even come to expect it. It's bizarre and wonderful all at once.
Together, we're complete. We're at our best in everything we do. Mutual friends say we sound like an old married couple, but you simply can't have one without the other.
I write this tonight because he brought this subject up last night, when I had been thinking about it earlier in the day. The jist of what he said was that he knows for a fact that I'm one of his soulmates.
I used to be really skeptical of soulmates, especially after being hurt in relationships. The more I thought about it, though, the more I came to the conclusion that soulmates aren't reserved for romance. They can't be. I know within the deepest part of me that I've found one. Whether or not people are allotted more than one in life, or in many lives, is far beyond me. I have no idea. I don't know if this is something that happens often, or if our situation is as unique as the silver screen makes it out to be.
All I know is that I am one lucky, lucky girl. Even if I never find my epic romance, I'll always have my bff and that's more than good enough for me.
Alright people, sound off: do you believe in soulmates, romantic or non? Do you believe you have one, or have found one before? I'd love to hear some stories and some opinions about what you guys think of this age-old topic!
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Of course soulmates are real. I hope you find your Epic Romance (I like how you put that) and that when you do, you get to stay together.
I did this calculation a while ago, so it may be inaccurate
1. there are nearly 7 billion people in the world.
2. something like 4.5% of those people are from the US. (this is assuming you're from the US.)
so, even if you have a soulmate, there's a 95.5% chance they live in a different country and you will never meet them.
this is why I believe we have many soulmates... if we don't then the world has a cruel sense of humor.
I believe that to be true 100%
I dont believe in there being only ONE person out there for you...but I do believe in there being multiple people you can love and people you can love as friends.
I have the same thing, except she's a girl. She'e my best friend, and we're together so much people mix up our names (even though we dont look alike). People sometimes just stare at us with some weirded out/awe look on their face because we have one of those moments when its like were on the same brainwave thing or something, haha.
i believe they are real just that i may never be lucky as you
I believe in that one. There is one love in your live that means more than the rest. A connection you have stronger than with anyone else. I believe we also meet others from our past lives, not just a soulmate. Even if the world is huge, I believe fate brings soulmates together. You may miss them, or that chance to be with them. Then, you might meet them in a next life.
So even if I didn't have that romance for all the rest of my remaining years. I would keep hoping I would find him again in a next life.
i do believe in soulmates. unfortunately, my best friend soulmate, who was also a guy, found who he thinks is his romantic soulmate...and she doesn't like me, and he was easily manipulated. :(
i feel like half of my heart was stolen and shattered...
I believe in soul mates, but still keep looking for that epic romance cos he'll find her one day too. I lost my soulmate to a girl 2 years back but after a while it just didn't work out and now he's back in my life. Still pretty scared it would happen again.
yes, I do believe in soulmates, and promised myself that I always will no matter how many times I get heartbroken or whatever. and like @greenglow28@xanga said, maybe we just never meet them! but I sure hope I meet mine =) and nope, they don't necessarily have to be romantic in my mind either.
I believe that soulmate is real.
i believe in soul mates . absolutely . i think about mine every single day , yet idk who he is , what he looks like , nothing . all i know is that i`m waiting for him to show up ever so patiently & that i`m gonna love him for the rest of my life no matter what ((: oh yeah , & i love him . haha , crazy how things are . . . but i think soul mates are very much real & that everyone has one . they just have to look in the right places & believe that things will fall into place as they may . & whatever happens in previous relationships or before in your life will be null & void once you find that one person that`s been carefully placed onto this earth for you .
crystal <3
I believe in mind-mates.
@wishtoremainunknown@xanga -I agree with you. My best friend and I are like that. We always joke around that we were twins in a past life! I really think we had to be. We are not even related but I feel whatever emotion she is feeling, and vice versa.. usually the same one at the same time. We are always thinking the same thing at the same time, or having a bad day/week or a good day/week or whatever. I don't even have to say anything to her, we just look at each other and automatically know what the other is thinking. And now, even though I don't see her a lot, when we talk via AIM or Facebook we still say the same thing at the same time.
I have yet to meet my male soulmate, but I believe that we have male and female soulmates. A soulmate does not always have to be your significant other. Now I want to find my male romantic soulmate. It would be nice!
I don't believe in soulmates.
If there are soulmates, I think that you have more than one. But when I think about love I usually think about it as building to something, a process, and not a, you know, get lucky and find your soul mate, type of thing.
Most definitely! A soulmate is not somebody you even choose consciously. It just is.
i am just like you. i believed i had a soulmate my bff who was a guy back in the day. we knew everything about one another. but we fell apart; our friendship anyway, we are strangers now or so it feels like it. at least i was lucky enough to find one of my soulmates. =)
@greenglow28@xanga - i believe something like that...i think that's why people can get married after the death of their spouse.
but even in that case, some people love that one soul mate so much they never remarry and that's fine too.
i believe in soulmates. i'm incredibly jealous of you, i hope someday i have that type of connection with someone
If you need someone else to complete you, you were half a person to begin with.
I don't believe in such nonsense. I just am not keen on the idea on how people say they can't live without that person.
It's just stupid to me.
A person is a person, and while you need socialization to keep sane, you don't need anyone to keep you alive (only for the first few years of life).
Just don't see it.
@icesoul_09@xanga - agree!!
I believe I found my soulmate and then lost them again, unfortunately I don't think meeting the person automaticaly makes you capable of keeping them. I guess I'm lucky enough to have met them in the first place. But now I have to live with the pain of knowing what I'm missing in my life. It still hurts. I hope you get to keep your soulamte your entire life.
completely agree. i do not think your soulmate has to be the person you are married to, or the person who you are sexually attracted to.
my (female) best friend and i have had this discussion many times, and we believe we are soulmates.
Who knows, perhaps soulmates are simply people who meet each other over the course of several different liftimes...either having been friends in the last life, lovers, or relatives. Some things are unexplainable, but real none the less. Yes, I believe in soulmates too.