I've been a single father since my daughter was six months old, she is eight years old now. Her mother left both of us and I have been raising her alone ever since.
Now that I've shown where I am coming from, let me get to my point.
I've heard from many people, male and female, that it must be easy for single fathers to get women. This, in my case, is definitely not true. I have had a good number of women reject me because because I was a single father. In one case, a single mother didn't want to date me because date me because I was a single mother.
I just wanted to write this that it's not only single mothers who have harder times finding dates, single fathers do as well.
What are your thoughts on single dads and dating?
Comments (19)
No thoughts except to say respect to you and yours. Good luck bro.
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Being a former single mom myself, it shouldn't come down to whether or not you have kids for compatibility. If they like you, then it all will fall into place. It did for me. It does take more effort. Just keep on the road you are on and the right one will fall into your lap when you least expect it.
@WhenHateIsTheOnlyOption@xanga - life rarely works out that conveniently.
sorry man, you're stuck being miserable for a long ass while longer.
@monke_man - seems to be the more realistic outlook
I would not have a problem dating a single father. You have to learn to balance the time with your daughter and that special someone.
Women no matter the age never want to be 2nd on the list for your affection/attention.
*just a generalization but may be the ultimate cause of why it's difficult for you.
I'd figure if you met up with a single mom, you would just Brady Bunch the whole things, but I assumed wrong.
You just need to find a woman who isn't so stuck on herself being #1 in your world. It'll probably be tough, but when you do find her, it'll be worth the wait. Personally I love kids and hope to work with them in some setting, so for me a single dad isn't an automatic deal-breaker, as long as he loves his child.
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I never really thought it would be hard for single dads. I have been a single mom before and I know just how hard it is. I could talk to a guy all night long and as soon as the fact that I had a kid came up, they were history. I think it is awesome that you are caring for your daughter yourself. <3
i've personally never rejected a guy because he was a single father, and one of my good friends is a single dad. i respect the fact that, in a society that caters more to single women with children than men, they are responsible and caring when it matters most.
if he has a crazy baby mama always coming into the picture, then I'll pass. if he doesn't have the extra drama, then I'll think about it if he was super hot. like single moms, single dads often show that they have accountibility and strong independence. these are appealing characteristics but everything else factors in, such as chemistry/personality.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - lol, no "baby mama" drama for me, my ex-wife lives a thousand miles away and barely comes here
The only problem I can see with a single dad - is the kid's mother. Since your ex is totally out of the picture I don't see what the problem could be. Personally (and this applies to the guy I'm seeing) the fact that you love your kid and are doing the best you can for her is pretty sexy. I know that when I look at my guy and the way his face lights up when he talks about them... I just want to jump him then and there. The two downfalls for me that I have to come to terms with are (a) the ex who won't let go and (b) the fact that he doesn't want anymore kids.
I had a fuckbuddy once who was a single dad. I didn't want to get serious with him because I never want to be a parent myself. I know that's a "years down the road, you should focus on the here and now bla bla bla" but it's a legitimate concern for any single girl who doesn't want kids...EVER. Plus, I'm sure a year down the road I would have had to meet his son and I would have been terribly awkward (read:bad with kids). That's why I kept it casual.
I agree with thinfriendxxo@xanga I think the fact that you are caring for your daughter yourself is hot. It shows responsibility and committment. I have no time for immautre men.
Well good luck, I know for me, I like dating single dad's they tend to be more mellow and less likely to go out and drink, and also less likely to sleep around.
I find it really cool when a guy steps up like that, and I start out knowing that he's someone who can be trusted just because the choices in his life are really up front in a lot of ways.
On the flip side though my ex was a single dad and turned out to be a bit of a 'lady's man' he was nice and treated me well, but he ended up with his kid through a hook up, and it turned out that even though he had mellowed, he still wanted something closer to the hook up then a LTR.