Out of curiosity I want to ask guys out there, how does a girl win you back? Of course, all men are different, so many men will want a woman back for different reasons. However, the other day the subject came up with a few of my guy friends and one of them said ignoring a guy will work. Another one said ignoring him will make him think you are just not interested at all anymore and then he wont bother with you.
That basic question is, if you have been in a serious relationship with a girl for a while, and you still have feelings for her, yet things go a little sour, what would make you want her back?
Her ignoring you? Telling you she wants you back after a while? Staying friends and just being cool? Giving you time for a while and then mention rekindling things later ? Making you jealous? Being extra sexy? Not caring? I mean, really...these were just some of the answers I received from these guys I know, but I want hear it from you!
Guys, how did she win you back or what did/could she do to make you want her back? Also, ladies, if you won a guy back, what happened and how did you do it? What was your relationship like before that? Any details are welcomed.
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depends on the reason why you want him back.
LOL sorry can't help you... Each guy is different but Just being there for me does the trick unless you did something bad.
So follow those two general rules. care and be patient. How you do those things will depend on the situation. And if it's meant to be, he'll come around.
Okay, looking your best never hurts. Come on, we all try to look hot for our exes.
I showed him my good life without him. I hung out with other men with him knowing it (by facebook, gmail etc....) I didn't talk to him at all. After a while, like about 3 months, he called me and asked if we could have coffee sometime. But sadly, that was when I started to lose interest in him.
I think this all depends largely on the situation and the reason of the break-up. Anyway, in a relationship you have to be willing to work things out, running off and waiting for the other person to do something to win you back or show you they are sorry or that they have learned a lesson of some sort is kind of childish and really isn't going to work well. Needing your space is one thing, but if its something you could get past under the right circumstances, then both people need to sit down and talk about it seriously and take real steps to fix the problem. Anything less isn't really handling the situation in an adult manner, whether you are a guy or a girl.
She won me back by buying me a ps3. It broke 5 days later and she didnt keep the receipt & warantee. I dumped her.
I don't know. I haven't met a guy that I really wanted to win back. when I see him, I'll just hug him and tell him how much that I've missed him and he'll either realize the same thing or not.
In my experience, there is no trick to this. Either we want you back, or we do not. Once we are completely over you, there is little you can do to make us change our minds. However, if any small part of our brain still desires you, than yes - it does depend on the person.
All humans are stubborn creatures. I'd say this same philosophy probably applies for both sides.
i never looked back if i walk away.
people break up for a reason...trying to get someone back is a waste of time.
people are different.what's the reason of her going? and how about the reason for back? if it is not a serious problem,i think she will come back if she really love you.
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I've won him back. But it was all his own doing. He got jealous, he saw that I was moving on, etc etc. Truth is though, it's never lasted. So I'm starting to see that "winning him back" is generally a temporary thing. There's a reason the two of you couldn't last in the first place (unfortunately) and something BIG will have to change for things to work out the next time. People just go into a pattern. I've been in the middle of it =/
I stopped talking to him completely after letting him know I still cared for him, but didn't want to be strung along (as in staying friends with him while he saw other girls)... It took him 72 hours to realize that he wanted to be with me and didn't want to risk losing me to someone else.
Best way to win a guy back is to make him jealous. If he doesn't respond to you cavourting with another man, he simply isn't interested.
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I've never bothered trying to win a guy back. And as far as I know from the guys, if they had good reasons for dumping someone (e.g. she was a total b*tch who didn't get along with his parents and/or wasn't good to him, he fell out of love with her, he felt like he was giving a lot but receiving nothing back, etc), usually it's all over and there's no point in trying.
people break up for a reason... they also got together for a reason too!!
i got my boy back cos i was around lots after we broke up for like a month and then i left him to himself for months after that and then i came back and we fixed things, cos time apart is what we needed to realise that we wanted to be together!
absence really does make the heart grow fonder!
Never change to get someone who doesn't want to be with you to change their mind. If time away doesn't bring them back on their own, because they miss you, miss what the two of you were together and miss who they were when they were with you...then it's best for both to move on.
Ignoring works (but only if they still like you).
Depends on how sour things went.
If it was a small argument....then give it a day or two for tension to clear.
If it was a big argument that ended with a "I hate you/Don't talk to me anymore"....then I walk and wouldn't look back.
They don't. If you we broke up. It was for a reason that couldn't be resolved though extensive discussion. I don't break up in the heat of the moment and try to not have it happen with my SO. If something is wrong, we open the topic and start talking (some people choose to yell here, but I've never seen it do any good).
So if we split, it was because of a damn good reason and if you have one of those, it's kind of hard to rationalize getting back together. Of course, the human mind is capable of some incredible and incredibly retarded things, so maybe you could still find some reason to get back together with some Dr. Seuss logic or something.
Just move on. Live like a single girl should. Basically, this will automatically make you do a couple of the things people on here have suggested like ignoring him and flirting with other men. While I don't condone using jealousy as a tactic ON PURPOSE, it's different if you're really just trying to get a new man.
You broke up for a reason. See what other fish are in the sea and then decide if that reason was good enough. If it wasn't and he still wants you, boom.
to get a man back don't dump him in the first place!
If things go sour while we're still together the first response isn't to dump but fix...
And naked begging doesn't hurt... lol
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As Twilight_driver rightly mentionned, it all depends on how things broke down. I would be stupid going back with someone with whom my life had no meaning at all. The person may have changed, perhaps, but just the idea of re-visiting the same scene is not one that particularly excites me. I prefer reaching out with different new heights.
Flirting with other men, being indifferent to him and just do whatever I think will make him regret losing me. Of course this will only work when he still loves you or desires you. It worked for me, but seriously, trying to get someone back is so nerve-wrecking and wastes a lot of your energy. A relationship that has already been broken off won't have a lot of chance of succeeding once people get back together.
I think ignoring him and using jealousy as a tactic are both bad ideas. You shouldn't try and hurt the people you care about.