Friday, 12 February 2010
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Your Body Starts to Shiver for No Mere Mortal Can Resist the Evil of the THRILLER
I am very happy with my girlfriend. We've been together for about a month and a half, but I can tell that she is growing on me. I know I am growing on her too.
But a little too fast.
Since we've been seeing each other, our chemistry has chained faster than hydrocarbons on a chain. Sorry for the Chemistry joke, but that's how we met. We almost had sex for the first time, which for both of us is something that came too fast (no pun intended). For her it's because she said she wanted to save herself for future husband, and I because I want my first time to be with someone I know I am in love with, We are both in college, which makes it hard too not spend the night at each others room at night. We've quickly progressed to the point of nearly having sex so quickly and we both addressed the fact that perhaps we are moving too fast.
Our attempts to slow down worked for about a week. We decided that to avoid these close calls, we shouldn't spend the night at each others place unless we were studying really late for a test or something like that. It all went well for a week, but then we went back to our habits. I partly feel that this is my fault, since I usually initiate it after some cuddling time. The fact of the matter is, I can't seem to control the Thriller, for lack of a better name for my libido.
I have tried the jerk method, and watching porn and what not, but lately it hasn't been working. I don't feel the need to pull when I watch horrible acting and forced intercourse. I tried using my imagination, but I can't masturbate to the thought of a girl I have legitimate feelings for, and if I think about an attractive friend of girl in class, well I just can't bring myself to do it either.
How else do I control the Thriller, out of respect for her and my own reasons we choose to remain celibate? We both feel extremely comfortable around each other, and I don't want to ruin what could be my greatest relationship.
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You seem pretty lustful if you ask me. You might want to reconsider what you really want from her. Honestly if she wants you to keep it in your pants. You just do it. That is if you respect her. At least that is what I think.
If she's pushing you away then it's really your problem kid. If she's not then she's a cock tease and neither of you are serious about your desire to wait.
THRILLERRR
THRILLER NIGHTS
DNADNAD AND ADDA NDAA
dun dun dund udn udn dundu thats rightt THRILLERRR,, thriller nightss
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dude this is the answer to any problems with women. its not thriller. its something better.
check it out.
yeah, on my page not urs. ;) youll understand
jk here it is
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bdjqcSCObuc
willpower is a virtue, or whatever. get some.
if you really care about her, you will wait, and not just try to satisfy your own "needs".
awwww. this is so incredibly ironic to me. I met my current boyfriend in Chemistry class as well, & we've been struggling with this same kind of problem. We've been together about the same amount of time too. The only difference is that he wasn't a virgin while I still was. Technically, I no longer am now, but it was only one time, and we haven't done anything past making out since.
Really, the key for us has been knowing where we want to draw the line, and walking away before it goes too far. Yes, sometimes it leaves us frustrated, but neither one of us wants to lose the amazing thing we've started. We respect each other and each others' feelings too much to push us into doing something we aren't ready for. We both have some fears and some insecurities, and things we've been discussing. It will happen when it's meant to happen, and until then you just need to find other ways to deal with your personal frustration. If she's anything like me, even her desire to be celibate is still leaving her just as frustrated.
dry humping? oral sex? hand jobs and fingering?
hydrocarbons.. hmm
You can fool around and then when you can't stop, excuse yourself to the bathroom. She should understand, but you should explain to her anyway.
YOU WANT SEX!
YOU NEED SEX!
JUST FUCK!
You could always try dry humping. That worked for me and my SO when we first started heating up & I wasn't sure what I wanted. But excusing yourself to go to the bathroom to "finish" isn't rude, it's actually very gentlemen lide.
You could always ask her for a hand.
;]
ive been dating my bf for 3 1/2 years now and were still both virgins... we both want 2 wait till marriage even tho we know we will get married 2 each other. It has been a really hard thing for us to wait, but look how long our relationship is lasting. But even tho we havent gone all the way, we still do other things to not do tht. But he respects me and he wont go farther than I want him 2.
@singingprayersto_aries@xanga - exactly what I was going to suggest. These are life savers!!
what about spending time with one another outside of the dorm rooms? late night dinner? go out to movies? hang out with other friends together? sex definitely complicates everything. i'll admit that when it happens it happens and it's hard to think clearly sometimes. but if you are really committed to having sex at a later point in the relationship, you just need to calm down and think clearly. good luck!
don't do any foreplay/sexual touching or else it'll likely lead to sex since you have this evil thriller going on. I read some blogs where the girl "accidentally lost her virginity" because they were dry humping and he had his boxers on, then it still gradually led to sex when she told the guy that she didn't want to have sex with him yet, and later she regretted it and felt violated. probably phone sex or cybering while in your own rooms. if it is still too much, just try not to think of anything sexual and just enjoy time with her doing other things that aren't sexual or will lead to sexual behavior. just masturbate while not thinking about anyone. just anticipate the orgasm and that's it.
@GiantUnicorn@xanga -
agreed on the dry humping. it's a beautiful thing. that way, you can
get close enough to be relatively satisfied without *actually* doing
anything. this has been a lifesaver for me, at least.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - yeah, if you do the above, you need to MAKE ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY SURE THAT AT LEAST ONE OF YOU HAS PANTS ON!!! like, PANTS pants. not like, "a-thong-counts-as-pants-right?" pants. PANTS. oh! and phone sex is a good idea, too.
You definitely sound like a college guy to me...haha. I don't know how porn doesn't get you off if you've never had sex but that's just my opinion. If you guys aren't going to do the deed, I'd suggest you find other ways to "feed the Thriller". If you can't keep it in your pants, you're probably going to ruin your "greatest relationship".
Bloody hell, I am ashamed of you. Call yourself a man? I am not going to teach you to masturbate. Stupid post.
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
You both want to have sex and your not. The solution seems pretty obvious ...
@StillNotaPrettyGirl@xanga - AMEN.
The topic post and the myriad of responses dishearten me severely.
@machinoir@xanga - Right on.
the "thriller"? LOLLLLL
i wish there were more men like you