There are a couple weeks of the year when men and women have to take a few precautionary measures in regards to getting too close to somebody. A bottle of Admiral Jack's spiced rum and some witness-less dancing at my place has a few more implications during the first two weeks of February. My friend Tony was explaining his dilemma to me earlier this morning.
We were discussing our weekend plans, and I had just finished talking about a 30 pack of Milwaukee's Best and a marathon game of RISK when Tony interjected. Things have been building up between him and this girl he met at Home Depot and she asked him if he'd like to hang out tonight (the Friday before Valentine's Day on Sunday).
Now he's really interested in this girl, but in a completely lustful way. He's not one to jump into relationships. Hooking up with someone for the first time on Valentine's weekend is like relationship quicksand, and he's all too paranoid of the consequences. So I told him, don't worry about it, tell her that you promised to be your recently divorced mother's valentine, and that you're going up to your Grandma's for the weekend to have some ever-so-dear family time.
No, no no no, says Tony, "I can't just put it off, bro. Even if she's dumb enough to believe that bull shit about me avoiding a trip to the Hallmark store, some other Lancelot who she's been texting on the weekend will definitely drop in and risk the perils of taking a girl out a few days before Feb. 14th. It's a high risk, high reward type of situation. If I don't hang out with her tonight, I might as well forget about it."
I agree with Tony that single girls this weekend are like humans in Jurassic Park: some of them survive, but the odds are definitely against it. However, not all women succumb to vulnerability and perhaps his gamble will pay off. I told Tony just to talk to her about it, but then again, there's a reason he's been single for a long time.
So I told Tony that I was too impatient to handle his paranoid blues, but maybe some friends of mine could lend a hand.
Do you think that Tony should hang out with this girl or is it too dangerous for the stubbornly single man to hook up during this time of the year???
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hard question really!
It's just another day. I don't understand.
I agree; It's just another day!
I kinda think he should get over himself and stop putting so much emphasis on V-Day. It's not that big of a deal. Unless she's super clingy then she shouldn't be a problem anyway.
I really don't get why it's a bad thing if he takes her out on v day.
What's the point of this post?
Well I thought this was a pretty good post. However, what interested me more than your question was the fact someone still plays RISK. I've been searching for years for someone to play it with me, but seemingly no-one in England will humour me. All I want from a GF is for her to enjoy a game of world domination.
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what? why shouldn't he hook up this weekend??
And heck, to find a girl to be with on V-day can be EXPENSIVE... and this can vary depending on the girl you happen to end up with. It might not be bad, but it might be even worse than you can imagine. If money's no object, then power to you. If it is... I beseech you... don't do it!
I don't see the big point of V-day either. I think it's kind of funny that your friend is so worried about it and almost all the women who have commented about it don't seem to think it's a big deal. If he's honest that it's just a hook up he should be fine.
@PMFoutofwater - Ah RISK, I sure do love that game!!! Another one I always enjoyed was Stratego. LOL
I don't see the big deal about going out or hooking up before v-day. It depends on what kind of girl she is. What is wrong with taking a chance?
and men say us WOMEN over think things...jesus.
this is why women get hurt.
Way to over think things
In my opinion V-Day is more for couples who are in a serious relationship or married
When you are single or just dating, V-Day is just another day on the calendar.
Unless she is some clingly, overly emotional girl, your friend shouldn't worry to much about hooking up with her before V-Day.
i know it's just another day, but to me, it's a more special day. funny cause my bf said that it's just another day and every day should be valentines day but this day was created to be more special and only focus on love and nothing else.
@LauraG0929@xanga - Took the words right out of my mouth
Valentine's Day is overrated. lol just do it.
The problem with this is not just that she might get with someone else if he chooses to pass on her offer. If he wants something lasting with her, then he might do better to wait anyway. There are a lot of women who will hook up for Valentine's Day and then a day or two after Valentine's Day is over, they dump the guy. Just because they didn't want to be single on V-day. I'm sure there are some guys that do this, too. But, I hear about women doing it more often.
If he just wants sex, then I don't understand why he's stressing in the first place. But, if he wants something lasting with her, he should probably just wait until AFTER Valentine's Day to get together with her, just so that he can be on better footing of knowing for sure where he stands as a potential boyfriend. Its just too up in the air a couple of days before and the day of Valentine's Day. :/
LOL... sounds rather dangerous.