Friday, 12 February 2010
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The Ex's Best Friend
Tonight I had one of the most uncomfortable occurrences in my dating life: I ran into my Ex's Best Friend.
This Ex's Best Friend was also, for years, one of my best friends. The three of us were like Cory, Shawn, and Topanga... except way cooler. We went everywhere together, we had ridiculously complicated inside jokes, and everyone we knew instantly recognized us as a packaged deal.
After the Ex and I broke up, the EBF and I slowly drifted. We didn't see each other as often because we felt guilty about not telling the Ex when we would make plans to hang out, and eventually it got to where it is now. We don't seem to know anything about each other's lives despite the fact that just a few years ago we openly said we loved each other--as friends, who both loved the person in the middle more.
All of this sadness and reminiscing got me thinking... I can't be the only person out there who has ever felt this way. Has anyone else ever been so sad about losing their Ex's Best Friend? How did you cope, or did you just try to ignore it? Or were you lucky and kept in touch? How do you react when you run into them again?
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The saddest I feel is about losing my ex's mother. we still write, but it's not the same at all ((
I live in Epic Fear of the awkwardness when I one day run into my best friend's ex. They didn't part on good terms, and I kinda pissed him off...it was fun. ;D
My ex's best friends were his 3 brothers and 1 sister. We dated for 3 years and the 6 of us hung out pretty much constantly. The break-up was pretty messy, so I havn't talked to any of them since really and I really really miss them.
I ran into them once at the movies, said "Hi," and promptly burst into tears as I walked away.
i really got along with a bunch of one of my ex's friends, and i miss hanging out with them a lot :(
it's really hard to hang out with them without him or his wife popping up, and he's a huge asshole, so it's not really possible for me to be anything more then acquaintances with them : (
I'm still friends w/ my ex's best friend. She and I actually grew closer together, and she grew apart from him. Reason being is that she and I are growing up, and he's still doing his same stupid things. We always joke that if we swung that way, we'd totally be gf/gf. :) She is just awesome!
Thinking about it, my exes never had a "best friend." They just had a crowd.
When the relationship goes sour, I only keep in touch with those that are worth keeping.
it's funny because I've always wanted that, but have never really seemed to have it. I've been the best friend (My best friend was a guy) and he went out with a girl who i was very close with UNTIL he went out with her. and my current's boyfriend's best friend, well, it's my older brother -___-
I am with the first commenter about my ex's mum. I used to get on better with her than my ex at times. Actually, I had a tiny crush...
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i was very attached to my first real boyfriend's family. we were together for more than two years so it gave us a lot of time to bond. i still am in contact with them, but just as others have said, its really not the same anymore. i guess looking back on it im just glad that i had the opportunity to know such wonderful people.
omg, haha yes i've had this situation, but even worse! i was friends with my ex's bff before the two of them were friends, and before my ex and i started dating. the bff and i knew each other since fifth grade, and were really really good friends. then ex and i got together, ex and my friend became bff's, and soon the three of us were almost inseparable. when i broke up with my ex, i told him to take the bff for as long as he needed him, cuz i had a lot of other friends and he didn't. i would then call the bff every day to make sure my ex was alright (we went out for years, so my ex was devastated). eventually the three of us hung out again occasionally, and then once the bff and i hung out alone (cuz my ex got sick or something).
that's when the super weirdness happened. we were sitting in the car talking about what to do next, and he suggested we go inside and make out. i tried to laugh it off, but then we made eye contact and neither of us could look away. we just stared at each other for at least a solid minute, my mind racing- is he serious? what would it be like? what would the implications be? at the end of that minute i snapped out of it and said, "get out of my car right now!". he left, and though i see him sometimes at parties and whatnot, we haven't really hung out since. it was easily the weirdest thing that's ever happened to me, haha and nothing even happened!
i still feel weird about it sometimes, but the bff has a girlfriend now and my ex and his gf and bff and gf all hang out together a lot, so it's really no place for me. but sometimes i still miss him- both of them. the bff, though, had a mean sense of humor and would sometimes make jokes at my expense, so i think that's part of why i don't feel too bad about it.
I don't miss him at all.
...probably because we've been together for nearly a year now :)
@Mangastar01@xanga - same here. :D
@Eternal_night_rain@xanga - xD Best thing I ever did. -hi fives- :P
well my best friend recently broke up with her bf.. we were close and me and him were literally like the same person, we had so many things in common and talked about everything. now me and him are in the same art class still, and it's a little weird, but we get through and still talk about everything. so it's alright i guess.
i miss boy meets world that was the cutest shit ever topanga and cory... awww... ha it has nothing to do with the post i just saw topanga and cory and shawn... ok bye
@Mangastar01@xanga - *hi fives* yes! go team x3
yh man i try and act the same around his bff but its just not the same man
there was me and 2 other girls. we are all best friends. after breaking up with one, i still kept in contact with the ex's best friend. however my ex lost contact with her best friend... does that make sense? haha.
and life goes on..
My ex and I stayed friends even after the break-up, so the EBF stayed friends with me too... in fact, she was way closer to me than to my ex. We all still stayed friends forever, which is good. :)
hm. i'm not really all that fond of my bf's close friends. i mean, they are ok, i'm not gonna say i dont wanna hang out with them, but ultimately i wouldn't really "miss them" if me and my bf broke up. ... my bf means a lot more to me.
Cant be cooler than Cory Topanga and Shawn...
I miss my ex's cousins! It was awkward talking to them now. @__@
I married one of my ex's best friends. It's not weird or anything.
I keep in contact with her, but not very well. We go to eachothers daughters birthday parties and things like that.
I miss her terribly, but I just try and ignore it. It makes me too sad. :(
@And_I_love@xanga - i am dreading this feeling. My ex and I just broke up. His mom told me I'll always be a part of her family but...he's her son.