When I was in high school, my boyfriend at the time pressured me into kissing a girl in front of him [they'd cover my eyes and I had to guess which one of them kissed me - as if it's hard to recognize the way your boyfriend kisses and a practical stranger to my mouth kisses]. I kissed her because it wasn't a big deal.

I've never had a threesome though, and I really don't want to. Maybe if I'm single and drunk - but me being drunk is a rare occasion, and even then I'd still have the senses to say no. My problem with threesomes is that you're letting a stranger into your bed - even if you've known them for years, sexually they're a stranger. How do you know they haven't done this with dozens of other people who could have some kind of disease? I told my ex in high school that I'd need proof that they're ok down south, and even then, I'd hesitate. That was high school, when I was a desperate people-pleaser.

Of course, me and that guy broke up. Now I've been with my boyfriend for more than two years, and sure we fantasize about things, but both he and I agreed that a threesome is just not the best thing for a relationship. Like the postcard said, it changes things. It has nothing to do with trust or jealousy - because even if I did have a threesome, I'd still trust my boyfriend 100% and I wouldn't get jealous because at the end of the day, I'd still have him, not the other girl. But somehow, I just know it would change our relationship. So yeah. No threesomes for us.
My boyfriend said threesomes are something single guys should do. And I kind of agree with that statement.

My (now) fiance never pressured me into anything I wasn't ready for. I'm a virgin and always intended on staying that way until I'm married. We've been together over 2 years now, and he's been fine with that.

been pressured into things yeah. regretted it every day ever since. I hate myself for not standing up for myself. I try to tell myself I was only 15 and didn't know any better

but maybe the truth is I'm just a weak person.
again, see: I hate myself for this.

it will never happen ever again.

I'm too smart and emotionally stable to let someone pressure me into doing something.

@greenglow28@xanga - It wasn't your fault, and that definitely doesn't make you weak. You were young. I think at that age, we were all pretty much pressured into things. :(

I would never let him pressure me. He knows where I stand. 

My hand is ALWAYS pressuring me into sex. Seriously though, there are some real jerks out there. But it works both ways - I was once with a woman who pressurised me into letting her lick my face during sex.
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well, i've only been overtly pressured once, and that was by my first boyfriend who i dated for a looooong time.  i'm waiting to have sex till i get married, and didn't even let this guy touch me over my clothes for over a year, so when he asked for oral after two and a half years, i did understand- however, the first time i said no, but was so put off by his pestering me about it that eventually i gave in- was it pressure, or did i just see that it meant that much to him?  not sure, but i felt ok when i said i would do it, and liked it a lot less than i thought, so i only did it once :-/  we dated for another solid year after that, and i never did it again.  but it certainly didn't harm our relationship.

i think the really sucky pressure, though, is the sort of latent pressure- like, the guy doesn't actually ask you for anything, but the more passive aggressive things a guy will do to make you feel bad if you don't do something, like shutting you out, or moping and sulking.  that really got to me in my last relationship, and i wound up going farther faster than i should have

@HollowTendencies@xanga - yeah- i think if someone even suggest it, i'd break it off, because it would show me that they have a very different view on what sex is about :-/

@HollowTendencies@xanga - Thank you! I thought I was a bit of a 'stickler' about it, but it's nice to know that a lot of other people feel the same way.

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - Nice reply!! I will have to remember that one!!

I've never been pressured to do anything in my relationship and vice versa, that includes sexual fantasies. My boyfriend and I are very open with each other and we can discuss any and every single topic we come across, we've been good friends for years before we started dating so that might attribute to that. In regards to sexually fantasies, we've discussed what we wanted, were interested in, curious about, and even those things we were uncomfortable with and never want to try. When it came to a threesome, sure he's thought about it, but HE wouldn't feel comfortable sharing me with anyone else else regardless of gender. I think that when you really find the right partner, you'll never have to worry about any of those things. I hope I didn't come off as bragging, I'm just happy with my relationship.