Perhaps, as someone who is perpetually single, it's my lot in life to fail to understand the beauty of this holiday. Or perhaps it's really as dumb as I think it is.
If you love someone, why the hell do you need to set aside a day to show them that? Shouldn't you be constantly expressing it in little ways all year long? If you need a calendar to remind you that you love someone, you probably don't love them.
The pressure must be awful! You have to get a good gift for the person and it can't just be expensive, you have to actually love them at the same time and your gift has to express that. This would be easy if it was spontaneous.
How adorable would it be if you randomly got a present from your partner because they saw something and it made them think of you? that's cute and sweet and thoughtful. Getting a gift on Valentine's day is anything but. It's more like a chore: you have to do it and you'd better get it right.
Getting someone a gift on valentine's day doesn't prove you love them and/or that you're thinking of them. It proves that you have a calendar and you're in the sort of relationship which requires a gift on that day.
I feel like, if I was in a relationship, I would never want someone to get me a Valentine's day gift. It's so fake and pointless. Then again, I hate receiving gifts in general, so take that with a grain of salt.
For me, Valentine's day is just another day to be painfully aware of my inability to get a date. It's bad enough seeing one or two couples kiss in public. On Valentine's day you are subjected to it on every corner. Luckily, it's on a Sunday this year, so I won't need to see it on my way to class. It seems as though 90% of college students have a partner, so Valentine's day on a college campus is like ten times worse. At least if you're at the office there's probably only one or two couples there, not three or four in every class.
And the commercialization just needs to stop. If it was one day, whatever. Instead, I need to be reminded that it's coming for weeks by every jewelry store on the planet. It's still a week away, but I've seen enough ads, for stupid bullshit that no one should buy for anyone, that I'm already fed up with it.
Your love is cannot be measured with a dollar sign in front of it... unless you're Donald Trump. Agree or disagree?
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i totally agree, i mean singling out one day just to "show love", thats pathetic.plus the grass is not always greener on the other side...
Valentine's day is about the gifts. Valentine's day is about the time. You have an excuse to spend the whole day with that special someone, or at least a reason to talk about and think about them all day long. Normally we live our lives as is, going to class or work. But Valentine's day is a promise that you get a full day of undivided thought. We don't get to spontaneous all the time, so Valentine's day gives you at least one spontaneous day a year. And yes, couples should show their love every day, but let's be realistic, sometimes we forget. No matter how much you love each other, after a while you get used to it and forget to appreciate it. Valentine's day gives you that opportunity to be nervous like you were on that first date or dress to impress like you did that first month, or year. It gives you the opportunity to recreate what it first was, weather you go for a walk in the park, stay in and watch a movie, or go out to eat. Valentine's day is that little reminder of why you first started dating. Not everyone does it right, but that's how it is with every holiday.
Oh boy. Is it that time of year where we hate on a holiday just because you feel excluded?
Listen, its a fucking holiday. No one is saying Valentines day is the only day you're supposed to be sweet and romantic. They just decided to take one aspect of life (love) and set aside a day to honor it. Nothing crazy there.
I swear to Jeebus. People need to get over being single.
It's definitely dumb, but I don't hate V-day. I'm just rather indifferent to it.
Btw what is so awful about being single? I'm loving it myself :D
Well said girl, though of course all singletons (me included) who say this automatically sound bitter. But this is the modern world we live in.
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You're just bitter and alone. Grab a dildo and shut the fuck up.
ITS BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS YOU.
and who would?
you're whiny
I hate valentines day too. i have a boyfriend and i still hate it. it is too commercialized.
@ShimmerBodyCream2@xanga - i hate the holiday too, yet im in a long term relationship. i dont see the point of the holiday.
@melandollic@xanga - haha she is not bitter, she just hates the holiday, just like i do
@quietmeteorshowers@xanga - I don't give a fuck.
@melandollic@xanga - oh i get it!! you were just trolling. lol, nvm then haha
@MangoWOW@xanga - Agreed. I give gifts to my SO on other days. I write him little notes, I show him affection in many other ways. I think it's nice... and kinda sweet that there's a holiday for it.
Just like Christmas. Supposedly that's all about commercialism too, but I don't really give gifts to my kids and other family members JUST on Christmas. In fact, this year, I didn't really give gifts at all on Christmas because we spread everything out throughout the year.
I love to show my love for my girlfriend everyday, but Valentines Day is just a more well known day for everyone to show their love for their SO. While yes, it is quite commercialized, it's still a day to send gifts. Just, people shouldn't forget how the day originated anyways. Otherwise, it loses all meaning.
so mother's day and father's day suck too now? get over it. maybe you'll find someone when you stop bitching.
for the record, i've barely seen anything for valentine's day so maybe you should stop obsessing. that's probably making everything stand out more.
@goody2shus13131@xanga - Yup, I agree.
I think it's a nice holiday..It's sweet.
i think this is for the advantage of business owners who sells a lot during this holiday
if you love someone, you love them (mostly, haha) every day. but there's nothing wrong with a day to commemorate love.
It's V-DAY for lovers, but Single Awareness Day (SAD) for the singlets. For the singlets, it's a way to tell yourself that you need to get your A-GAME on. haha. (yeah singlets is my made up word for single peeps.)...
as with most of the holidays now, this one has become to commercialized, just like christmas, halloween, mothers day....
i really dont need a day to tell my gf how much she means to me as i do that as much as i can throughout the year. the same about my mom. i tell her too. but it is kind of nice to have a special day set aside to tell those you care about, that you do care.
i have women friends that are single and not single, but they are friends and i will send them a valentine because they are friends.
i really dont know why you cant get a date....but maybe it is all this negative energy you are letting out that is the cause? dang! that was mean. i am sorry i should not have said that as i really dont know you.
I think the biggest justification for it is that it sets aside a day to make sure we can spend some special time with our SOs. A sort of mutual excuse to ignore other duties for that sort of thing.
i have a bf and im not so crazy about this day either. I almost feel bad for the guys that worry and get scolded when they dont have anything planned or prepared for their SO. My bf panned to go to the city to go ice skating and see a pastor that day. Its really thougthful of him but i wasnt expecting anything. I also invited friends to come along with us because after years of being w/ him going out on dates alone feels kinda awkward
Valentines Day is meaningless for some, beautiful for others. To say that it's a justification to act like an asshole 364 days of the year is like saying that Independence Day is a justification to commit treason 364 days of the year. It's obvious you're just bitter about it because you're single and you're trying to mask your self-pity with big words and tl;dr's. Like the other posters said... stfu.
@melandollic@xanga - +1
@ShimmerBodyCream2@xanga - *GLOMPS*
@silverlocket_88@xanga - Please tell me you were joking.
If that's your logic, why do you only get your friends presents on Christmas, then?
I agree that it's a market holiday, but that doesn't mean you have to spend money!
And quite honestly sometimes people do need a little reminder, especially if they're so caught up with life and such it's nice to look around and remember "oh yes I do have somebody special in my life!"
I used to think that way when I was single. Now I have a boyfriend and, well, I still think Valentine's Day is stupid. I mean, people should be able to spontaneously tell those they love that they do. The only real occasion I could see for such a holiday is if the relationship is taking a downfall and both sides have been too busy to enjoy each others' company. But then, you shouldn't need corporate America telling you take this break - it's like trying to delay the inevitable. Something like Valentine's Day should be a personal day to the couple, not something that has to be celebrated because it was decided as such.
Valentine's Day is an exercise in the illusion of freedom in a capitalist society. The behavior of the masses are controlled by a few skillful manipulators like sheep being herded into a pen.