This is pretty rare. It is not often that you see couples that are unequally beautiful. Of course, there are exceptions; an example could be gold diggers.
But seriously. There are leagues which prescribe who is or is not attainable. They are not set in stone, but the majority of relationships are dictated by them. Even if you don't think you believe this, think of when you see someone who you think is very attractive. If, by their side, you see someone who you find to be unworthy of such a creature for lack of equivalent beauty, you might say, "He/she could do so much better..." It is a very common mentality, but why do we think and act like that? When a guy wants to go for a really hot girl, his friends might say, "She is way outta your league!" Sometimes, people will get someone who is "out of their league," but it is rare.
People are always condemned for being shallow, but the fact of the matter is: almost everyone only dates people in their "league". The most attractive people usually date other really attractive people. The homely date the homely, and the ones in the middle date each other. I have simplified it, as there are more than three so-called leagues, but you get the picture.
Are we as humans bound to satisfy our carnal desires and got the hottest thing we can get with what we have to offer? Or do you have more faith in society, and think that people would look just as hard for those in leagues below them? (basically, are we shallow or not shallow?)
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isnt it all to do with attraction? like if we see a someone we find attractive we will go strike up a conversation [if we have the balls] etc
i guess leagues doesnt apply so much with people you are friends with, instead of just seeing one aspect of them [in the case of first impressions usually looks] you could see another side which would also be very attractive
leagues remind me of high school, like if he was a senior and you were a freshman he was way out of your league and you didn't stand a chance. now i feel like it based more on attraction
leagues are restricting and if you have that mentality you're gunna end up settling
looks aren't everything
interesting topic, but mostly this is a psychological question. i learned about something similar to this in psychology where we attract people like us, so it is rare that you see the jock get with the girl on the chess club. of course there are exceptions but it's mostly just based on our similarities.
hope that made sense :\ probably not.
Yes, we're shallow. and that's ok. Most people won't admit it though.
I think it's probably true to an extent but changes as people get older and more desperate not to wake up alone.
i think ppl are told theyre supposed to be shallow and then turn out shallow. shallowness is all in the mind, there are no such leagues, free your minds ppl and look at what lies behind the illusion of the exterior
Intelligence often perforates "leagues."
Not always, but a good bit of the time.
E.g. highly intelligent/like-minded people often form great, deep relationships despite one person being stupendously attractive and the other being seriously sub-par physically, because the intellectual capacity matters more to them than physical characteristics.
Yeah - it's definitely a common thing in high schools, but as we get older, we see it differently ... though some people don't, and just stick to those in their own "league".
Personally, I have had feelings for a few that friends would tell me were "below" me - but I never have been that shallow as to care about appearances. It's down to how we are raised, what we are taught, what we see on this topic ... some are more affected than others. I wouldn't say we are all bound to look for the hottest ... maybe after some time and experience more, though, will look beyond attraction and for real chemistry - good looks don't usually mean good chemistry.
i'm shallow, well when it comes to dating at least. but it isn't exactly in terms of 'leagues', more of a; if i'm attracted then yay, but if not nay.
lol 'cause i want it all, or nothing at all'http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zN7Alc8kIg
@mz_d0rkabl3@xanga - but fairy moans are :D
Yup, we're shallow. Maybe it's not necessarily a good thing, since we could easily be passing up the best thing that ever happened to us that isn't so good-looking for a hot bitch or asshole, but that's how it is. Oh well.
It's a natural thing. I don't really think it has to do with being shallow because I doubt the homely person who dates another homely person doesn't find that person attractive. This phenomenon transcends time and place. We are attracted to people who are similar to us (this includes physical attractivness, personality, hobbies, beliefs) - but physical attractiveness is somewhat subjective. Usually, if it's a healthy or mature relationship, there's a lot more to it than just physical attractiveness.
Long story short, I don't think it's shallow (not in the negative sense anyways)
@harrisal2 - I agree completely.
looks can only get you so far. For me, the more I know about a person, the more attractive they get, that is, of course, if we're interested in one another. :D
It is psychologically proven that people tend to be attracted to those who are equally as attractive as they themselves are. So, it leads to people who are gorgeous are together, the pretty/ok are together, the not-so-pretty are together, etc.
@harrisal2 - Agreed.
Ah, flashbacks to the middle and high school days, lol.
I think people over simplify the whole "leagues" issue by breaking it down to just superficial reasons. I have dealt with being in a different "league" from a guy that I like but it wasn't because of attractiveness, more so because of his achievements and his progression in life. Yes, I believe that we are shallow, something that no one can whole heartedly deny ... but that the "league" division is based solely on beauty ...? That seems like crap! I have had friends with guys who were more attractive than them but I think they are in different leagues because the guys are exceptionally dumber than my friends (on average).
Society simplifies leagues to vanity, when deeper divisions do exist.
Why would the hot chick stay with an ugly guy unless there was something she liked/needed/wanted from him in the relationship? I couldn't figure it out for the longest time until I finally realized that looks are not as big a deal for the girl as it is for the guy.
i think the 'leagues' can also show how people view themselves. people almost always tell me i "could do so much better" then whoever im dating. i never see it like that, maybe i have an alter persona of myself?
@mz_d0rkabl3@xanga - i agree.
Its based on the human instinctual traits to date based on their perception of what is strong and healthy.
you know what, i used to think it was shallow - but, via evolution (or whatever creationists believe), we have the best eyesight over any other species on the planet. its natural for us to base our attraction on what we see.
i'm CERTAINLY not saying that visual appeal is the be-all end all, but its interesting, no?
Honestly, I don't want to date someone who I consider out of my league because I'd feel like they were settling for me. "/
it's all biology; i don't think it's shallow at all. (i hate when people use "shallow" as if it were a bad thing.) we want the best we can get.