Me and my husband have been married a year March 14th, and we're proving people wrong each day we wake up side by side still married and going strong. You probably are confused what I am meaning by "proving people wrong" when we're already married and its going good. I can explain...very easily.
My husband and I met on November 2 2008, got engaged 2 weeks later on November 14th much to my parents, our friends, and the congregation he was working for as preacher's dismay. Everyone it seemed except his parents were supportive of us. People thought we were crazy getting engaged so quick, they thought we were destined to break up or fall apart even before we moved up the wedding date to March 14th. Originally we were getting married sometime in August of 2009, but last year around this time we decided we weren't waiting any longer. The preacher was called, invitations were printed on my home computer, the place we were going to get married at was my parents living room, even after my mom said she wouldn't be in the wedding. Even after she came around toward the end of February, things were still tense. March 2 2009, a week and 5 days before the wedding the elders at the congregation my husband was preaching at fired him, he was given until the end of June to find a new preaching job. I had just lost my seasonal job at Old Navy, so with him "technically" unemployed and me definitely out of work, we got married 4 months after we had met.
Two months 4 preaching tryouts later, taking us all the way to Oklahoma from here in our home state in Ohio, we decided to just find a place to live, and go back to secular employment. People were still amazed we stuck together after going through that, and me having surgery in April, a month after the wedding. After settling in getting our first apartment together, and him working as a temp, things still hadn't changed with friends and fellow people we worshiped with. People were still expecting us to fold and at least separate, if not divorce. Almost a year later, after everything, my husband getting on permanently at his job, my health deteriorating I can't work now, my husband giving up preaching to be with me, losing almost all our friends because we got married quick,a miscarriage,surgery and bankruptcy, we're still going strong. Yeah, we're still proving the skeptics wrong, and we will continue to do that until people realize that nothing is going to tear us apart. I love my husband more than life itself, I sacrificed an 11 year friendship to marry him, he forsook preaching to marry me, and through everything we still love each other more than life itself.
Question though, have you ever proven people wrong by who you dated or married?
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what? all for a guy, you gave up everything?
we're still going strong. Yeah, we're still proving the skeptics wrong
Haha you rhymed.
You just came off as a total dumbass. You shouldn't be proud because you survived all these hardships, simply for the fact that YOU CREATED THEM!
I don't feel sorry for you, I think both you and your husband are stupid for the choices you had made. You made your own life miserable just to shove it in all our faces for surviving your own makings. We aren't the ones that look bad for doubting you...
you both gave up EVERYTHING for each other? How ... romantic?
Well, props to sticking together through the really tough times - you guys seem to be going through a lot of hard times.
interesting. love does conquer all. everyone moves at a different pace. if it works for you and your guy, then kudos. I can fall in love fast but it personally takes me more than a few weeks to build the trust. then again, your guy already has a respectable rep as a preacher. the guys I meet aren't preachers, they're usually players
I am glad you and your husband survived and are still going strong! Kudos to you and your husband for making it all the way through.
A modern day life story with a happy ending. I hope the future will become easier and previous disagreements with your loved ones will dissipate.
Well, this is interesting.
I'm glad things are working out for you two, but don't be so quick to throw away other relationships. True, being married for a year is difficult, but being married for 10 is even harder. There are probably going to be times when you're really going to need someone to talk to other than your spouse.
Like I said, it's good that you're happy, but I think it's a little early to be throwing your success in their faces.
Totally agree with @BroadwayBound93@xanga.
Oh man. You'll surprise me if you last longer than 10 years! XD
Whatever makes you happy. Don't do it simply just to prove people wrong, though. Do it for love.
..I'm in that situation everyday. Me and him are getting engaged later this year and we get doubts from us from right to left every day.. I def. understand what you mean, it's amazing how people will expect our own relationships to be shitty because they can't keep around a good girl/guy.
We've proven everyone and their mother wrong, month after month. I love it.
I dont doubt that you'll be divorced , because I've seen people who have lasted for years.
Good luck and like we say it - MOTIVATION!
And you can do ANYTHING if you put your mind into it, don't let people bring you down with "reality". If you two work at it and stay true to yourselves, it will last and no one can stop you.
-Sudden realization* sorry, lol.
Um, you shouldn't stay together to prove people wrong. You should stay together because you want to.
Cute, not too long ago people wouldn't have known each other for even 2 months before they married and most are still married, but the problem is throwing everything away, seems a little brash. i think you should now prove people wrong by other means than just staying together
Um high schoolers are capable of maintaining relationships for a year. My first relationship started in my sophomore year of high school, and it lasted three years.
Just saying.
Throwing away everything for your special someone is pretty brave. I'd have to tell you though, prepare for the consequences. :))
@SexcapadesAnonymous@xanga - I feel sorry for you for not appreciating two people who are in love.
so what are you waiting for? when the day comes that you two realize you don't belong together and you can hear everyone say "I told you so"?
being together for one year is not impressive at all. it has only been ONE year. I highly doubt you've had many hardships enter your life.
I just realized you are also the author of "Say No to Long Term Relationships", a blog in which you state that there is no point to a long term relationship, that you should either get married or do something short term. According to you, everything you know about a person will be learned within a two to five month span. Honestly, I think you have a mindset of that of a child. You think getting married is like the best possible plan to lead you to a fairytale life. Seriously, how did you and your husband even come up with the money for a wedding? I would assume your parents, since you two are a bunch of immature kids, rushing into a marriage, two weeks in your relationship. You don't even have a stable job; it's pretty pathetic you've got everyone around you caring for you, but I cannot be the lit bit surprised.
A whole year huh? Impressive, except not really. I was in 2 relationships in high school that both lasted for over 1 year. You said you had a miscarriage, but I don't understand why in the world you would be trying to have children with someone you've only known for a year, and your family and friends don't approve of. ESPECIALLY when you just got jobs. You have nothing to fall back on because of the situation you have gone out of your way to create. I wouldn't consider that an accomplishment at all.
why did you have to give up an 11 year friendship??
wow. this all sounds very immature. good luck, is all i can say.
I do know what you're trying to say, but you go too far. My boyfriend and I of 5 years have had to fight the odds too... Being high school sweethearts and my parents at first disapproving of him.
However I didn't stay in the relationship to spite everyone... I stayed because I love him.
I'm a worried for your future, just because when all this crap blows over, and you have no more battles to fight, you or him may look back and wish things had been different. Or be discontent stuck in a life with no one else but him (or him with you).
Good luck.
@x__mh@xanga - i agree with both your comments.
you seem irresponsible for trying to have a child you can't support and immature for caring so much about "proving people wrong." and for goodness sake, it's only been a year.
You sound like my sister ... and I'm still waiting for her husband to cheat on her like he did on his first wife. Hopefully your marriage turns out better than hers.