I came across the question: Do You Snoop Through Your Man's Things? on another blog site. The writer of the post felt that women that snoop have a reason to,and its usually based on something the man has done in the past, or from vibes they are getting from their man. Many women who commented on the post said that they snooped. They felt that it is a natural characteristic of females to snoop. Many felt it was sort of an addiction.
I have to admit that I've snooped in the past, and all it did was give me proof about something that I already knew was going on. Plus once you start snooping (for example checking someone's Facebook account when they forget to log off) it's hard to stop, especially if you find something that you consider inappropriate ( like him talking to other girls about things he would like to do to them).
In my current relationship I haven't felt the need to snoop. Why? Because my boyfriend and I are honest with each other. We started off as friends, so I knew about the other girls that he would speak to, and the fact that he has a female best friend. He told me that he talked to them, but wasn't building towards anything with them like he was with me. However, that doesn't concern me because he spends a significant amount of time with me. We are open with each other and able to talk about every and anything. The fact that I truly do trust him is another significant factor in why I don't feel the need to snoop.
What about you, have you every snooped or caught a significant other snooping through your things?
I came across the question: Do You Snoop Through Your Man's Things? on another blog site. The writer of the post felt that women that snoop have a reason to,and its usually based on something the man has done in the past, or from vibes they are getting from their man. Many women who commented on the post said that they snooped. They felt that it is a natural characteristic of females to snoop. Many felt it was sort of an addiction.
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I should have snooped through my ex's things.
But no, I don't. I've had my shit rifled through and I don't like it, therefore I don't do it.
Man up and talk to me about it rather than try to hide it.
I don't snoop on my boyfriend. Do I have all of his passwords? Yeah. He also has mine. It creates mutual trust in a way, and I know for a fact I'd never NEED to snoop on him...so I don't.
We both have eachothers passwords to things, but I've looked through his email once a long time ago and didn't find anything and haven't snooped in it since. I did check his phone once and he had an inappropriate text, but he said I could delete it and it wasn't a big deal. So I did. I checked his phone (in front of him, not in secret) a few times afterwards, but haven't done that in a long time either. Trust builds over time.
No. My boyfriend and I just tell each other what we want to know.
There is no reason to snoop with the expectation of looking for EVIDENCE of cheating, but that still doesn't give you the right to read each and every e-mail, text, or anything else. That gives you the right to look for evidence so you can make sure you are protecting yourself, but honestly if you think someone is cheating on you then you probably shouldn't be with them anyway, so there still is not a real reason to snoop.
People who snoop are just immature and need to know things that aren't their business, it may be an innocent text/e-mail or it could be more, usually with the people I know who cheat, they use all these excuses to why they snooped and none make sense, but think they are justified when they find something questionable. And with a lot of the ones I know, they were just being NOSY when they found it, so that really isn't justified. To be justified in snooping (and I can never really condone snooping, no matter what, my opinion is if you have suspicions LEAVE, plan and simple, no snooping needs to be done) you have to have suspicions FIRST not after.
I accidentally snooped once, and felt terrible after: my cell phone was on the nightstand. In the process of grabbing it in a drowsy, half-asleep state, I accidentally knocked his journal off the nightstand and it fell open. I panicked, and everything happened very quickly, but I am a damn fast reader: I can glance at a sentence on a page for just barely a second and remember the whole thing. Unfortunately, I wasn't thinking too clearly (like I said, half-asleep) this happened before I slammed it shut.
Luckily, the sentence was the most beautiful, unexpectedly flattering thing I had ever seen in my life, and I learned that I meant a lot more to him than I knew, just from that one sentence.
I'll never do it again, of course, because I felt terrible after this ordeal, but I've been a lot more confident in the relationship after that. I'd never betray his trust like that. I mean, if he read my diary or whatever, it wouldn't really matter: I feel like I generally have nothing to hide in relationships, because I'm honest 100% of the time.
Haha, this is my kind of post. I'm the worst snooper. Not just GFs, also female housemates. I think it's expected though, no?
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
I do it sometimes, but I don't consider it snooping. I don't read his emails or messages on myspace and facebook. I go through his things, usually because I'm looking for something that I need/want. But we're married, so it's a little different.
By the way, snooping through my GFs mobile aged 19 revealed she'd kissed another man. But was it because I was a snooper that she cheated? It's like the chicken and the egg question - which came first, the snoop or the cheat?
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/
I don't snoop at all unless I have other evidence that he might be hiding something. I think it's an invasion of privacy, and it makes me feel good when a boyfriend accidentally leaves something open and I don't look through it. I don't feel the urge to snoop anyways if a guy hasn't been doing suspicious things.
I hate people that snoop. (btw that word is really annoying) I've had people go through my shit and it's the most frustrating thing. That whole, "if you have nothing to hide, why won't you let me look" thing is bullshit, and a guy's first ticket to being dumped in my book. I see personal space as a very big deal. It's personal. Personal, as in, that person. It's not your life so it's not yours to know. If someone doesn't want you to know something there's a reason. Maybe they aren't ready to tell you. And hell, maybe they are cheating. In that case, you'll find out eventually. And if I had anything to say about it; it'd be the good old fashioned way - walking in on the bastard and his new tramp gf getting it on. That'd send any broad out there a clearer message than some text in his phone.
I snoop when he's around...Although that might not be snooping, just looking at his stuff while he looks over my shoulder?
It is hard to ignore the desire to. Sometimes you snoop because you know they wont give you an honest answer even if you ask straight up or you suspect something is off. I try my best not to do it, but I cant guarantee that I will never do it. But if I ever do it, it means that I am at a very low point in the relationship.
sometimes i do, only when i have a strong feeling about something. i never do it cuz im bored, but we try and tell each other everything so it rarely happens
Nope, unless he lets me... like "go ahead and read my mail idc" hehe
no, once I start snooping, I'd drive myself crazy. I'd rather not. if he wants to cheat, practically nothing will stop him. I wouldn't be with someone that I don't trust, so I trust him. if he lies, then it will be on his conscience. hopefully, he has a working conscience.
Snooping through facebook/myspace/twitter whatnot doesn't stop a cheater. Only really stupid cheaters keep their business online. I don't snoop anymore; I was wasting my time. I was stupid to think that my husband was up to no good. He gives me no reason to snoop.
Yeah, I snoop but with damn good reason but I'll do it in front of him. He snoops my stuff too but on another level (key logger) so our relationship is a little different lol.
i chose not to, but my ex did. i cant stand it. thats one of the reasons we broke up, it shows an obvious lack of trust.
I was playing around with my ex's iPhone once, clicking around on all the icons. Then after a while I clicked on the SMS one and I stumbled across a couple texts with this girl....needless to say, I was pretty upset, because he told me that he didn't have any feelings for her at all and all that. After that incident, I looked at his texts one more time, and AGAIN he had some pretty interesting texts going back and forth with that chick.
Oh well, exes are exes for a reason.
There is a ex that i should have snooped with, because in the end i found out what he was doing from his sister and how he left me for another girl he was working with.
but my last relationship all i did was look through his texts when he left his phone. other than that we trusted eachother and never lied, i kno he didnt cuz he would check his email/myspace/facebook when i was sitting right next to him. he never hid anything and if i looked over and saw he was talking to a girl he would show me the whole conversation. lets just say i had no reason to snoop.
im not even the type that would snoop really, if i get a vibe that something is wrong i usually confront my guy and so far, except my very first relationship when i should have snooped, they have come forth with the truth.
Never
No, I haven't. He has his passwords to email and facebook autosaved on the computer (we use different browsers), so I CAN if he needs me to, but there's no reason to, really.
I don't believe I've ever snooped. He's gone through my Facebook with me watching before though.
Honestly, I don't have any issue with him going through my stuff. And, though I do trust him, I'd be concerned if he wouldn't let me look at stuff if it was in front of me... that'd be suspicious to me. I'm the type of person who wants their SO to have complete access and to have it reciprocated; I have nothing to hide, y'know?
The worst case scenario would be that he saw something about someone else that they'd told me in confidence, but those things usually happen in person anyway.i don't snoop anymore. i used to snoop but i found out something i didn't like so i stopped. sometimes the truth isn't always so pleasant.