Saturday, 06 February 2010
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Sweet, Sweet Kisses
Never a lip is curved with pain
That can't be kissed into smile again.
~Brete Harte
Ah, yes, how sweet the vision of a young couple, prancing though a field of fresh daises, then falling to the ground elegantly, embracing each other in a fit of passionate kisses.
Well, frankly, I've never been kissed. And as an eighteen year old college freshman with a fairly healthy social life, it certainly seems to be a problem for me.
The fact is, I've never felt close enough to any boy to perform the act. Whether this is a fault of my own, or of the men I've met on several different occasions (yeah, right), I just can't get myself to go up to any gentleman and plant my lips upon his.
I've asked my friends about the situation, and they say it's perfectly normal. So why do I feel so freakish? My friend says he'd be willing to take my kissing-virginity with out any strings attached, yet I find myself backing away in a fit of giggles with the idea floating through my brain of "how weird would that be?"
So, as this stands, I've actually completely considered becoming the crazy-cat lady up on the hill, a rose colored afghan draped across my lap. Seems like that would be the only outcome for a freak-like-me.
Since the pressure is out there (especially since kids my age are sexually active), I feel as if I've already waited too long to kiss anyone, and I've just been left in the dust.
What is your stance on kissing? What age is appropriate to start? Anyone else out there feeling a bit weird about how long they've waited?
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You'll find the right time to give a kiss someday. Don't compare to others of when you should do things like that. Take it easy and someday, that right guy will sweep you off your feet and you then will do the same to him.
I didn't get my first kiss until I was 19 and it happened at a party with a guy I just met. Which then turned into a make-out session and him asking to take my shirt off. It wasn't romantic and it wasn't that great.
The right age to kiss someone is when you want to kiss someone!
You're never "too late" it's just when you're ready.
:3
I was pressured about kissing (among other things) in high school..thankfully I didn't have that "spark" with any of the guys. I wanted it to be special. I'm really stubborn and hard headed :p I had my first kiss with a guy that I absolutely fell for. I wanted to be sure...we just had this amazing connection. Don't(and i can't stress this enough) dont do it just because you felt that you're out of the loop..it will feel much more gratifying not to mention wicked awesome when you're heart is completely in it.
Awww...=( . Cant say i know wat thats like , but clearly your attractive , since ur guyfriend wants to pop ur kissing cherry!
I guess its up to you, if u want to kiss some random guy just to be like, what , normal?
Or if u want to wait until u meet the guy your sure deserves a kiss?
IDK...i would definetly feel the same though...Good luck! When u do get that kiss, cuz ya will, make sure to blog about it.....???lol
I don't quite understand why you feel pressure to kiss someone. Well, I do to a degree, but I don't think you're abnormal for not having done it yet. I don't think there's an set age for kissing someone. Whenever seems right. Don't let pressure push you into doing something you're not ready for.
I got my first kiss when I was 19, and I'm so glad it happened the way it did, because it couldn't have been more perfect, and it's a memory I really cherish. I wouldn't change it if I could.
kissing is fun. :D
I'm sure there are plenty of people out there that haven't kissed yet. Meh, there's not appropriate age, just whenever you see fit.i'm in the EXACT SAME situation as you. 18, college freshman, never been kissed. and it sucks sometimes, and sometimes i do feel abnormal, but i really want my first kiss to mean something to me, and i just haven't met anyone worth it yet. but thank youuu for posting this -- it's great to know i'm not alone. :]
I'm 16 and I haven't had my first kiss yet either. I don't think it's about 'waiting too long', I just think that it'll happen when/if it's meant to. you're not lame if you haven't had a boyfriend, haven't kissed, haven't had sex, etc., it's just that you didn't find the right person to do it with yet. some people find those people earlier than others is all (:
It's definitely normal to not feel like you want to kiss someone. I waited until I was truly in love, and then some more before I actually had a desire to kiss my first boyfriend. It took us 5 months. Up until then I just didn't see the appeal in kissing.
Lol actually, the first kiss was VERY exciting since it was a new sensation, but we quickly realized how awkward it was. I wondered for a while why the hell people enjoyed kissing, and my boyfriend and I quite literally had to practice kissing. We probably kissed for a total of an hour over the course of several days before it started feeling really good.
My first kiss was at the age of 12. With a 14 year old boy. Who kind of smelled bad.
If I had tonsils, his tongue would have been all over them. Calling it awkward would be an understatement.
In fact, in the seven years since, I've never really had a "perfect" kiss.
You're far from a freak. I'd rather be in your situation than regretting mine.
You'll have your kiss. (:
i just wrote an entry about this not long ago, actually. my first real one i was 19 in college
I'm 18 and I haven't kissed anyone either! I don't think that there's anything wrong with it.
(By the way, is the person in the photograph eating sugar dice?)
I know some people who didn't kiss until they were 20. So you're not too old. Don't worry.
my first kiss was at 18
Don't feel bad. My very first kiss (technically) was a stage kiss. In fact, the first two girls I kissed were stage kisses. The only girl I've kissed in real life happened last year when I was 19. It'll happen when it happens, and you can't force it, I guess is what I'm trying to say.
My first kiss was about a year and a half ago, fresh into my summer relationship with a sweet, adorable, handsome new guy I had met (at the time). I was sixteen, and he planted a soft kiss on me right in the middle of a movie, with his friends staring at us, one of them even taking a picture.
I'll be honest: I felt robbed of my first kiss. I had always wanted my first kiss to be somewhere romantic, ex. at a beach, in a park, during a moonlight picnic... I felt that my boyfriend at the time had taken away something that was very special to me, and that I would never get it back.
But, I don't think there's any actual age limit to when your first kiss should be. My great-aunt had her very first kiss when she reached the altar, a decision that both she and my great-uncle had made together.
Personally, I feel like that's the best idea I've heard of yet. :)
I never passionately kissed someone like I love you to death type of passion. I haven't met that guy for me to want to passionately kiss him that way. I think I'm saving that type of kiss on my wedding day. for now, it is just lustful kissing. not just any hot guy. someone that I really really like
Aside from when I was like . . . 5 and was kissing all the neighborhood girls, my first (and only, to date) kiss was a few months ago. I'm 19, and I was much in the same boat as you, and I knew that some of my chick friends would probably be willing to pop my cherry if I asked, but . . . I'm glad I waited. It was amazingly special, I was in love, and she was experienced at it. It wouldn't have been the same any other way.
First kisses can be all kinds of things. I think you'll be fine however yours turns out. :) Mine was nothing too special- it was my first boyfriend, I wasn't ready yet after 2 weeks of dating at 17, whatever. My mom's first kiss happened when she got ambush-kissed by a guy she had just met at 19, I believe. Later she got ambush-kissed again. :P She must have been hot stuff or something. My point is that she had no control over her first kisses, though.
Don't stress out too much about when or how that first kiss comes. It is easily stolen without consent unless you get lucky and it's with someone special. (I was my now-husband's first kiss.) In what matters day-to-day as the years pass, I think what's more important is who you choose to kiss for the rest of your life. You'll probably get kissed sooner or later. I wouldn't counsel against or for letting your friend kiss you. It's your choice and it might be fun or funny. Or it might be awkward and hard to keep strings not attached. But there's probably no wrong way to do it. I hope you are able to have a say in it, though, unlike my mom! Good luck. ;)
I'm 18 - I'm a late starter too. For the same reason - I just never felt close enough to anyone to do anything, really ... or, if I have, they don't feel the same. But sweet, it'll happen. I promise. When you want it to happen, and when you have the one you are comfortable with, it will happen. Promise. :) You're not going to be some crazy catlady!
I don't know ... any age is appropriate if you're in love. And if it's not against the law. ;)
My first kiss was when I was 22. No biggie.
I was 14... bad age for me. If my first kiss would have been with Joel at age 18, I'd be much happier about it.
There really isn't an age that you have to start with , really. But it helps to kiss right when you like a guy and he likes you back. That way, the kiss will be like connecting two wires together to generate electricity. Once you do get to kiss the guy who does, you'll understand why people love doing it so much.
i have never been kissed either. i'm 19. almost 20. sad? yes in normal terms probably, but it doesn't really bother me. you kiss when the timing feels right right? well if it hasn't felt right yet, then why rush it? haha. your time will come. mine eventually too. until then hang in there. =p don't rush things. watch me get flamed or ridiculed for saying this. hahah.