Thursday, 04 February 2010
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How Do Heavy Set People Feel About Sex?
Are you a heavy set person? How do you feel about sex?
Are you shy about showing yourselves off? Are you self conscious? Do you find it awkward to do certain positions? Do you find that you cant do certain positions? Does this often discourage you? What positions you find most comfortable? How do you feel about sex in general?
I am a heavy set person myself and I want to know how other people like myself feel about it all.
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- From: EmperorButterfly@xanga
- About Me: EmperorButterfly here. Created this blog so that I may rant and rave about certain things in my life [as well as the lives of people around me] anonymously and get feed back on my questions and thoughts. Hope people will read and give me some insightful advice. Look forward to hearing from all of you.
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sex is awesome.
I wouldn't call myself necessarily heavy set, nor thin. I'm in the middle.
But, I'm perfectly comfortable during sex,
-- I am a little on the over weight side of the spectrum...
:P
But, yeah... It's great, and It's all good for me. (:
Im a bigger guy (size 40 jeans, 5"10, 273lbs) and if Im banging someone.. if we've come THAT far, why pick then to get shy? Its not like i look THIN in anything I wear for there to be any surprise. I don't have mantits or anything. I hate to sound sexist here, but that might be more of a woman issue.
I think someone posted here a month or so about dudes being a lot more "eh. fuck it" when it comes to body issues than women. Speaking on terms of on-average anyway.
If you're self conscious don't have sex... or turn the lights off. Im sure maybe its happened on rare occasion, but if a dude has got you in a sexual situation nothing short of having a penis is going to cause an issue. I seriously doubt cottage cheese thighs or a little roll of fat is going to make him get up and be like no thanks.
I'm a bit offended. Why should my weight influence my likes and dislikes about sex - I like the same positions a skinny girl would like and I am not shy, won't cover myself under the blanket or anything like that. I'm 'heavy-set' [curvy and big boned] and proud of it. My boyfriend seems to like it too...
When I weighed more, I used to be really self-conscious. My ex (boyfriend at the time) didn't help matters (he called me "chunky"). I guess it partially depends on how attractive you think the other person finds you. My boyfriend thinks that I'm beautiful and wouldn't change a thing about me so I tend to flaunt my body around him. I would say that we have sex with the lights on about 90% of the time. Then again, it is a two way street. I like to enjoy the view as well ;)
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - I dont think she was insinuating anything(from what i gathered shes a big girl too).
@erahslover@xanga - I got the feeling she was 'heavy-set' too, but your weight is really not a huge factor in what you like in sex...what I like won't change because I lose or gain 50 pounds...that's what I meant. Maybe she's self-conscious...but I'm not and skinny girls aren't that attractive anyway.
I'd imagine it to be like two walruses battling for position. All I know is, I'd feel sorry for the person on bottom.
Im 49 years old and have been divorced 3 times - Ive had sex at 6 ft -180 lbs and Ive had sex at 6ft- 300 lbs - Its always new and different , but now its more work than pleasure . My favorite position ....? - I like it when they "Hop on Pop "
Sex is sex, if it's for the right reasons it should always be enjoyable.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - Im sorry if I offended you. Those were not my intentions. I am a heavy set girl myself and i wasnt trying to point out that because im fat i dont like to do certain things when it comes to sex. My point was more along the lines of me not being able to do certain things because of my weight. Like having him pick me up and slam me against the wall. Too heavy to be lifted. I also shy out of wanting to sit on him for fear of crushing him. Then there are other positions that sometimes hurts my legs because my weight is crushing down on my little legs and i cant support myself. I was just wondering if any one else out there felt the same or if this was just about me being weak as apposed to fat. If you dont have these problems then im happy for you but I do and Im sorry for saying that I dont think MY problems should offend YOU.
@Ni_Shi_Wo_De@xanga - Sorry your ex used to call you that. I had an ex who used to treat me the same.
@thedyingroses@xanga - @haley1262@xanga - @huskyman47@xanga - @Gabitron@xanga - Thanks for the comments. Will keep your advice in my thoughts.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - what does that even mean? i find skinny girls attractive...
i hate when people, especially girls, accuse skinny girls of being unattractive--its one thing if your a lesbian and you like big girls, but who are you to judge?@tykazowsky@xanga - she doesn't think skinny girls are pretty, in the same way that you don't think bigger girls are pretty. you need to let it go
@Coke0@xanga - she IS a girl. thats my point.
if i remember correctly, you had an issue with one of my points (well maybe more, but this one specifically for this situation) on my post about flat stomachs. you said something to the effect of "you think thin girls are left out of beauty categories???" this is the kind of thing i was referring to@tykazowsky@xanga - don't get too worked up about he comment on skinny chicks ... maybe deep inside she wants to be one of them or something and she cant be so she makes her self feel better by saying that skinnies are ugly ... idk just saying ...
I wouldn't know but this is an interesting topic.
I prefer to see his sweaty hot body and don't mind if there was a high beam light zoomed in on him
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - haha awesome
@tykazowsky@xanga - but if you're going to take personal preferences into account, everyone is left out of some beauty category....I really don't understand what you're getting at.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - you don't seem so confident in yourself when you take offense so quickly to something that you completely misinterpreted. the poster was obviously asking if there are PHYSICAL LIMITATIONS, as there obviously are (as she later even gave explicit examples) when people are BIG.
@Coke0@xanga - agreed. everyone can have preferences. im all for that. however she didnt say im not attracted to skinny girls/people/wtv. she just said "skinny girls aren't that attractive anyway."
@tykazowsky@xanga - yes, because to her, skinny girls aren't all that attractive. same thing as you saying "non flat tummies just aren't all that attractive" which I'm sure you've said at some point. see?
@atmaster@xanga - Thanks for understanding what I meant!
@Coke0@xanga - my simple point disregards whether or not any body type is attractive or not. i was merely saying she proclaimed as if its a known fact--which bugs me