Tuesday, 02 February 2010
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"A Foreign Luck"
I know I've been saying that I usually target (in lack of a better word) one girl and try to achieve her trust and what not. But this past weekend, my friend's birthday party took place at Empire Hotel in NYC at the Rooftop bar. Everything was going fine, with the friends partying, dancing. All that stuff. Until, of course, unexpectedly I find myself talking to a nice young lady. I think to myself okay, this is nice for a change. An actual intellectual conversation with a person in a bar? Wow!
So we are talking away, hours go by, and we are just stuck in trance of conversation. Now obviously I'm attracted to her, but I of course have no clue if she is attracted to me.. (still no clue) But that's not the point. We talk for hours about all sorts of stuff, job, schooling, and hobbies.. All these things. Which I might add was very interesting. For example, without me even opening my mouth she said " You're an artist or you are creative aren't you?" DING! How did she know that!? So I asked, and she pointed out my necklaces and just the way I talked to her she just knew. Uhhh... Destiny?
But anyway, in the midst of the conversation, I obtain the knowledge that she is not from here, she is from Holland... ::FacePalm::
Why? FINALLY a girl I have an extremely stimulating conversation with and seems she is SOMEWHAT interested in me, after 5 years of going out to bars and clubs and all that nonsense hoping for the best, does she have to live thousands of miles away. It was like a switch went off in my brain, like "oooohh you better try to stay in contact with this one, because you two click like no other".. *sigh* Although she says she is definetly coming back to NY and wants to live here. We all know how this USUALLY works out people don't we? Now I still plan on talking to her via Facebook, Skype, and or phone. But... COME ON! This is so not fair!
Has anyone else had one of these situations? What did you do? Did it end up like a fairytale where he/she came back or you went there and lived happily ever after? Can that happen? What would you guys do if you were in MY shoes?
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I once had a woman in my hospital room who was my room-mate who was from Portugal. I kind of liked her but she was cold at first (her defense mechanism) and quite well off monetary wise. I never thought she liked me in return and if you had asked me when we were both going through chemotherapy, I would have said, she was out of my league, she's cold etc. etc.
Who would have thought we'd get engaged?
This is quite rough, man. It's rare for me to meet someone I have this kind of connection with in a bar or club or whatever. Obviously it's a difficult situation by my old housemate moved from Germany to England to be with a guy she met and connected with on a plane. They went on to spend a holiday week together six months after the airplane meeting and the rest was all facebook/skype - then after a year she moved over. So it can work out. Good luck.
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Wow. I AM in your shoes... I'm quite fond of a guy in Holland right now. xD
We're doing our best at "dating" despite the distance. It CAN work, it just takes a lot of patience and trust. And, of course, humor.
With the technology that we have today, I'm 75% sure it'll work. :))
Why should it matter where she's from ? If you really like her give her a chance . I wish you good luck with it
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Generally, I find most Europeans to be very easy-going. Their education systems are several notches higher than ours, which would explain her ability to hang in a conversation and if they are in America, that usually means they are naturally curious about us. I've given up on dating American women already, something about them just turns me off.
met a Portuguese at an art program over the summer and didn't find out (seriously, he didn't have an accent) that he was foreign until I asked him where he was going for school in the fall and he told me he was going to study in Lisbon. We tried keeping in touch through skype and MSN, but it was an epic fail that totally sucked ass.
LDR's never work because you're not physically with each other and then you begin to wonder if the OP is being faithful to you or seeing girls IRL.If she tells you she's coming back to NY, ask her how long it will take. If she can't give you a definite time, don't wait for her.
I met a guy I really liked in freshman year of high school. He moved to Hawaii. He kept saying he MIGHT be able to come back.
I'm a senior now. I'm sick of waiting. and I just wasted my high school youth on someone that emails me every three weeks with 1 sentence.
It's not worth it if she can't DEFINITELY come back for sure in X amount of time.
But if she can, then ask yourself: Is she worth the wait?
I crush on this australian guy. I never talked to him, just crushed on his sexiness. he has a wife though FML
what's up with these Dutch people!?
i myself fell for a boy from Holland while he was playing college baseball here. it was fun. it was like an instant connection. he left for the summer and came back to me the next sememster:)
but, things eventually came to an end, in good terms.
Good luck:)
I met the most amazing guy on a cruise last Christmas.
I'm Canadian and he lives in Texas. The attraction is there, the chemistry too. And now backed up by the friendship we've maintained through Skype/Facebook in the past year..
I'm flying over in April to see him. Not sure what will happen. But I guess, in the end... my greatest fear was that I'd regret it years later if I didn't find out.
ive been in this situation far too many times. it sux, and usually never works out :/ good luck tho!
I once dated a guy from Germany who was an exchange student at my school and then some of my classmates and I went over there and stayed with our exchange partners. We were physically together for about two months all together and then we tried using MySpace/Skype/AIM to stay connected, but we moved on. We were young and flirtatious and it was fun while it lasted.
I also met an Italian guy on a cruise......what really sucked..is that it was a 7 day cruise....so..we met on the 3rd day of the cruise...made-out, cuddled and talked all day long ( I missed a shore tour but it was worthit) till the sun came up on the 5th and 6th day...and both nearly burst into tears on the 7th.
I never heard from him again as he lives in Italy but bounces from cruise ship to cruise ship ( he was one of the workers that navigated the ship). It really sucked cause that was like a passionate fire I had never experienced before in my entire life. He was highly intillectual, had goals and ambitions for his life and was just a good natured, loving man despite his aqua blue-green eyes that sent me into spasms when he looked at me. *sigh* maybe fate will bring us together again..or...it'll just be a nice romantic story to tell my children haha...when they're of-age of course.
hah. story of my life. i live in southern europe and all my boys so far have been from sweden or germany. my first bf was swedish, i met him in sweden, we dated happily and when i had to go back things just fell apart.
2nd bf - germany. i had to go back again and i broke up with him and explained why. fml
my current bf is swedish too, although he seems so smitten with me and quite serious too. i love him to bits, but if this falls apart i dunno what i'd do. :{
Ahh yes Long Distance Relationships. I've never had but I don't plan on trying to make it work since I'm afraid of fizzling. It's easy to gain the habit of talking less and less till there's no communication due to the distance.
"Out of sight; out of mind"
That being said, if it was a relationship where I already invested months/years in, I'd give it a shot; not with someone that I just had one conversation with -- no matter how awesome it was.
oohhh yes. The guy I loved dearly was from Spain..it didn't work for us. We fought all the time and ended up breaking up. It's horrible. Long distance basically sucks. But for some people it works.
I'm in that situation like that right now. I'm talking to a girl that I like and likes me a lot, but she's from Kentucky. Like you said, not fair.
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@Mouse036@xanga - thats what we tried. Hey, it might work for ya. I hope it does.
If it were me, I would definitely keep in contact but just keep it on a friend level. That way, we don't get into anything long distance (which, while there are a lot of success stories, most of the stories about that are horror stories of it not working out even when its just a few miles away, not the thousands that you are talking about), but if she does come back or you do get an opportunity to go over there and stay, you will still have your options open with her and could still get something going once its more realistic. At this point, at least from the information that you've given, she is going to go back to Holland and while it is a plan of hers to come back to New York and live, those are plans for the future that have no real roots in likelihood, yet, and you don't seem to have any timely plans for moving to Holland anytime soon.