Today, he said "Hey, what's up"
Why do we over-think things? My friends and I could probably come up with sixty different meanings to "hey, what's up." And I know a lot of other girls who could, too. We look into things so much that by the end of the conversation, we have reached one conclusion: he must be in love with me. We twist things to what we want to hear, and we find meanings in things that don't exist.
It's a girl thing, it really is. I'm nearly positive that guys don't sit around and think about the things that 'she' said to him that day, wonder what she means by whatever she said, then deduce that she meant something deeper. Are we really that desperate that we have nothing else to do but swoon over some guy that we barely know? I don't know. pretty pathetic I guess. I think we're all aware that "Hey, what's up" doesn't mean "MARRY ME, DARLING!"
So why do we pretend it does? Have you ever done this? Analyzed everything he said, and imagined it meant something else? I can't be the only one imagining a 20 minute conversation that 'should have' followed. If only I'd said this...he'd probably respond this way, then add that.... If you've ever done it, what made you do it? When you caught yourself doing it, were you embarrassed, like me?
Why do we over-think things? My friends and I could probably come up with sixty different meanings to "hey, what's up." And I know a lot of other girls who could, too. We look into things so much that by the end of the conversation, we have reached one conclusion: he must be in love with me. We twist things to what we want to hear, and we find meanings in things that don't exist.
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While this character trait may be more commonly found in girls some guys do over think things. I know that I do (just look at my blog). It's better to over think than not think at all.
I'm a pretty big fan of not reading into things.
You're definitely not the only one who plays those scenarios out. I'm kind of ashamed of how much of my day is dedicated to hypothetical conversations I have with people (romantic interest or not).
I think it's because girls tend to plan their moves ("If we lock eyes for an extra second, maybe he'll get the hint that I'm interested. Hair flip. Smile. Oh, yeah. He knows.), so we just assume guys do the same.
Lately, I've just stopped over-analyzing.
I'm not sure how, but I realized it was kind of a waste of time. "/
"Hey what's up?" to me means they want to know what's up.... I think that's what they usually mean too.
When boys say something, from my experience, you can usually take it pretty bluntly.
I don't read into it unless it's something I really think someone would say. Or if they're touchy.
My imagination just runs wild - it's hard to control but I try.
I used to do this a lot more when I was a bit younger. I still do it, but instead of twisting it into something I want to hear, I usually turn into something hurtful. For example, in a text:
Him: "I love u"
Me: "WTF DO YOU MEAN 'I LOVE U'? Am I not good enough for you to spell out the word 'you'???!!! Do you hate me or something? Are you calling me fat????"
Also, I can assure you there are some (if not a lot of) guys that over-analyze things just as much as girls, they just do it in their head instead of discussing it out loud. All the guys I have dated read into things wayyy too much.
Yea, I can understand why they say, "it's a girl thing" since it's not a societal expectation for females to be frank and assertive like males (Hence, evidence/books like Men are From Mars Women are From Venus ).
However, everyone -- including guys -- have insecurities and go through the "multiple scenario" drivel. Dating, attraction, and all types of relationships are always a bit of a mind game.
I used to overanalyze things, but no good comes out of it.
I choose not to read into things because I think it's ridiculous to be over analytic. But then again, not reading into some things at least a little bit can get you into some awkward situations (and I can attest to that).
Oh man, my mom is REALLY bad with this, especially when it comes to things with MY boyfriend. It's completely annoying. But I have to admit, I do also do this.. I really don't like to, but I'm almost positive I think too much. Thinking is a good thing, but over thinking isn't.
Yeah, a simple myspace comment, telling me how he's doing.. I still attempt to find the "actual" meaning of it all. Fuck, I'm obsessed. I wish he was mine. lol
I thought 'Hey, what's up?' meant 'what is going on with you?' and only that...apart from like 'hey, what's above your head?' I think about other things though...
Haha, yes I analyze everything. I agree about "hey whats up" and not spelling out "you." Little things, but they cause me to over think sometimes! It used to be worse. Overthinking sometimes really just gets you into a cycle of worry.
it only happens if I'm sprung for the guy. otherwise, I could care less what he says.
No.
girls aren't the only ones that over analyze things. I do it a ll the time, although I'm not sure if its my personality of whether or not being an English graduate student has anything to do with that!
*twitch*
*...snickers...*
....BFFAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! Ohhh, actually I think I'll just refrain from chipping in, your naivete is precious.
I don't,then again i like being a douche bag.
this is a cute post. i can't help but wonder if any girl's ever done this with something completely innocuous i've said to them.
that being said, i'd imagine all this overanalyzing is unnecessary for girls. in general, if he's taking you out on dates, he likes you. how much easier can it get? it's teh guys that have to deal with reading all your bullshit buying signals (eg playing with hair, etc). don't get me wrong though--i still think it's fun to figure it out, even if it ultimately turns out she's just a really, really friendly girl =)
Story of my life. I've learned that when I start over thinking and over analyzing things, to assume he took the most literal meaning possible. It usually works out.
I over-analyze things. Not just with the guys I like but with my friends or other people I know, too. I mostly over-analyze what a guy I like says, though, because it's hard for me to tell them that I like them, and I just focus on deciphering what they say to me whenever I see them in order to figure out how they feel about me. But then I could end up being completely wrong and imagining a lot more than what is going on.
I don't think it's just girls, though. I'm sure guys do that too. Don't they care about and want to figure out what a girl they like thinks about them, too? They have feelings...haha
i do this, but i pick apart little details of my me and my boyfriend's conversations, often to the point that i've convinced myself i should be worried for one reason or another. for example: if he sends me a text saying 'he needs to talk to me about something,' i freak. or if he doesn't laugh at something i thought he'd find funny, i over analyze why he didn't respond the way i'd expected. i'm often told i way over analyze situations. it's true. but my over analyzations have not always been misguiding. when i was paranoid about my ex boyfriend's behavior, it turned out my intuition served me right. he'd been cheating on me. so overanalyzing and intuitiveness can be used for, but also against us.
I read into things all the time, but usually just for fun.
I must not mentally be a girl if that's the case. I'm SO oblivious that I don't read into anything a guy says at all. lol