For almost a week out of every month, my wife and I do not have sex. And really, short of pregnancy or menopause, that's not likely to change anytime soon. You see, we don't have sex during my wife's period.
I thought this was what everyone did. But once I heard someone on Xanga mention that she didn't stop having sex during their menstrual cycle--that it didn't bother her or her partner at all. I've also heard (though never verified) that orgasms can reduce the intensity and duration of menstrual cramps. So apparently this isn't a universal choice.
I don't really have any reasoning behind why we don't, other than the squick factor. The idea is just sort of a turn-off for me, and also for my wife. But other than that personal feeling, I don't see why it would be a bad thing. (I know some Christians appeal to where the Bible says not to have sex during a woman's period, but really, that part of the Bible was the Jewish ceremonial laws. The same passage also says that the woman should take a ceremonial bath and be ritualy unclean for seven days after the end of her cycle, and unless Christians start doing that too, I don't think they can use that passage.)
So, once every four or five weeks, my wife and I make out, engage in foreplay or "outercourse," but don't do anything else: we wait it out.
How about you? Do you and your significant other have sex during your/her menstrual cycle, or do you wait it out? If you do, are there any extra precautions you take (towels, condoms)? If you don't, what do you and your partner do while you're waiting?
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It does help ease the menstrual cramps.
Of course!
Easy. Shower sex! No mess and it's super sexy. :)
I rarely because with the flow of blood it's almost too lubed and it's hard for me to actually feel anything and with the option of oral sex cut out it's not worth it for me or him. But it's like a cruel joke that I get super turned on around that time
listen we only see each other like once a week, so we have sex no matter what. and i'm not gonna lie, being on my period i get super horny and the sex seems that much more awesome. unless its like, the first heavy day and i feel super drained and gross.
I just find it to be disgusting. I mean, you get that blood all over the place and thn you have to clean it all up, and you know it's impossible to get blood stains out of white sheets. Also, most girls are too self-conscious to allow that to happen, in the same vein that they don't fart in public or they turn on the faucet when they take a dump. But I do have a friend that's really into that stuff, so I guess it floats some boats out there.
My OBGYN told me that sperm has something in it that causes uterine contractions, I suppose that could help a period go quicker? However, he also told me that period sex is a huge cause of yeast infections in women like me; who are suseptible to them. That's not a problem for all women but it was for me. For a while I had an infection almost every month. We stopped intercourse during my period and the infections stopped; but we didn't stop sex. There's still other types of sex.
I don't see it as a problem. Many women have sex during their menstrual cycle. Shower sex may be a good starting point to get used to the idea of it.
Fitting room guy doesn't have sex while Mother Nature drops the monthly gift? Shocking. I actually lost my virginity as I was getting my period...
Seriously, I don't think her vaginal blood is any weirder than any other bodily fluid...like semen. It just happens to be red. I do agree that it tends to get messy, but shower sex is perfect for it. You won't get messy, and the blood is not as visible. If you want to do it on dry lands, I suggest a towel that is not important and can be messed up. As for the orgasms, it does help me. I feel much better and calmer after sex and the cramps just magically disappear. I say, try it out in the shower - she'll like it, and she prolly won't be that much against it.
We have sex during my period, but it's not gross or anything. I make sure I have a tampon in before hand to minimize bleeding and we use a condom. And yes, it does help cramps.
i still have sex on my period. really it started when i wasnt supposed to be on my period and then we realized i was and he said it didnt bother him so we kept going. its not really a big deal.
we put a towel down so we dont stain anything. but its not that messy tbh. theres just a little blood on his dick when he pulls out. and need to clean it off. which is the same as cleaning off cum really.@coolmonkey@xanga - You won't get the sheets bloody, do it in the shower silly! :D
I think half the women who say it's disgusting only say it because they don't want you to know it'd be ok for them. Once my SO told me he doesn't care about it - since it's just another bodily fluid - I changed my mind too and we don't have a problem with it. Then again, we also fart around each other...
I've done it before while on my period. I'd prefer not to do it on the days that my period is heaviest though, because I'm not only out of mood, but I'm too messy down there because of the heavy blood flow.
It actually hurts me to have sex during my menstration. but it doesnt bother me. But i kind of like the break from it. it makes me desire it more when ive waited a few days.
Once I start having sex, I'll probably just wait it out and do "outercourse" and stuff because I feel gross while on my period anyway.
Yeah, we have sex during her period. uh, except for it being more likely that shower sex occurs, the only change is dark towels. :P
I personally don't understand why people are so squeamish about it, but, as long as both people want it, they should get it. : )
@MsKittyCatty@xanga - You have sex with a tampon IN? What?
@mtngirlsouth@xanga - I was just thinking that same thing. That seems like it'd be way... not good? Painful? Awkward?
Never tried it. I'm actually really uncomfortable "down there" during my period so I don't plan to. If it was in the shower, then fine, whatever haha. But we're both kinda iffy about it.
I have sex on my period if I am somewhere it can be cleaned off quickly and conveniently. I think it is actually kind of cute that you and her have foreplay but have to wait it out... I bet it reminds you of that dating stage where you and the woman fool around but anticipate the day you two go all the way... the good days, ah...
@live_for_love@xanga - She said "before hand". The flow can be a bit reduced if you place a tampon in for a bit before. Doin' it's job, you know...
@wizard_howl@xanga - I read it as she put it in before sex and continued with it in. haha Oops
How many of these "sex and menstruation" blogs are we going to have?!
@Hallelujah_Haptism@xanga - No kidding. That like, what 3 in the past 2 weeks on datingish?
I'm not into it but that's because it just makes me personally feel gross for a week. I'm stuck with that dual edge sword in that I get really turned on during that time (I've heard it's because you body knows there's a smaller risk of getting pregnant but I'm not sure about that one haha) but I feel so gross I don't want to be around a guy I like, let alone let him near down there. It's a personal thing, I know, but I'd rather just have a week off of sex and reward him for not pushing me by doing things he likes.
maybe in the shower.. easier to clean up