Help me. I have this problem. I always fall for the wrong people. I'm beginning to suspect it a neurological disorder which only adversely affect my love life.
Exhibit A: She was a girl. Not a ten pointer on the hot-or-not scale, but she was nice, flirty and I found her attractive. We had countless and memorable conversations over MSN. We had great walks through the town. I felt that we really connected. Only one problem: she was already in a relationship. It broke my heart that we couldn't be together.
Exhibit B: We went to the same extra-curricular club. She was athletic, a really nice person. I didn't really know her, but I would have like to. I soon found out, she was married. FML.
Just the other day, I found out that yet another girl, I thought of asking out was already in a relationship. I don't know what it is about me. Bad luck? A chronic neurological disorder?
Help, I need somebody, Help, not just anybody, Help, you know I need someone, help.The Beatles
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you fall for nice girls who also happen to be attractive, and somehow are surprised that they're taken?
Don't let attraction cloud your feelings before you've asked the crucial question: are you available?
Maybe you should ask upfront.....?
Haha just steal them away. If you guys were meant for each other, it shouldn't be to hard.
Maybe you should start asking girls whether or not they're single and then keep looking elsewhere if they're not.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Ha, my thoughts exactly.
Let's not jump into extreme conclusions and think you may have a neurological disorder, because it's slightly offensive to me for personal reasons.
But in any case, as I'm sure you hear a million times, there are plenty more fish in the sea. A crazy plenty. Eventually, you'll find someone who you really like and is also available. Patience!
And instead of implicitly finding out (which I'm assuming is how you've discovered the relationship statuses of your past crushes) whether or not she is in a relationship, try to be more upfront and ask her directly. It saves you a lot of time.
you want what you can't have. thats normal. it's part of being human. but look at it this way, for every girl you find that's not the one, you're one step closer to finding your true love.
Well at least you don't have terrible taste if they're taken.
speed dating
Haha, story of my lifeeee.
Well at least in falling for the wrong people and every one being taken.
It makes me wonder if there's something wrong with me that I'm single but then i realized that everything will happen when it's meant to. I notice the less you worry about finding someone, the more you actually end up meeting people because when you focus on yourself, you are bettering yourself and you have more to offer. Hang in there!
Simple: Take some time to get to know someone that will appreciate you. When you get to know someone, you will eventually find out about their values and principles.
Also, be more direct if you want a relationship.
Just coincidence I believe. You have to be kind of upfront about wanting a relationship with them though, so that if they are already in one, then you'll be less heart broken.
it...happens
it's just 3 people, though. you'll eventually find the right someone :]
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - the most logical reply.
Seriously, some have stated that it might be because you "want what you can't have," but it just doesn't seem like it, since it sounds like you wanted these people before you found out they were unavailable. And is it really that surprising that the appealing, attractive, nice people are already taken?
3 gay guys.
1 engaged guy.
1 married guy.
countless guys already in relationships.
sister i feel ya.
most of the guys that I fall for are players. then again someone that hot is bound to play with peoples' hearts
not necessarily all of the hot guys, but a lot that I've met. I should go for the super geeks
Why would you think this is a neurological disorder? It's not like you know up front that they're dating someone - do you?
You fall for those who you're attracted to - if they're attractive people, of course most of them will be taken!
Ive had similar problems in the past. When I was a teenager I fell for the worst guys you could think of. If they had a rap sheet a mile long, sold drugs, had 3 different baby mamas, and was robbing the corner store...that was my Boo. A lot of that had to do with lack of self esteem and feeling like I probably didnt deserve better. In your case however, it sounds like you just fail to ask the important question of whether or not they are single before you let your emotions get involved.
oh noooo! you met 3 girls you barely even knew, and found out they were in relationships! you must have had like an entire 1/64th of your heart broken by that. WHY GOD WHY! I'm gonna ask for my Haiti donation back and give it to you cuz you've had it so rough.
@wizexel22@xanga - hahahah
Sneak it into a conversation about relationships to find out. It's very easy... just mention things a few times and ask. Or, you could take a cliched approach and say "Well you must have a boyfriend.." etc, etc... It sounds cheesy buuut it would work better than falling for people who are with someone else.
I have the same problem except that I seem to get attracted to gays! T_T Oh well, about your problem, maybe you should first ask the girl about her current status...but, you should ask it in a discreet and not obvious way. :D
@icesoul_09@xanga - No clue why but the way you put your...misfortune of falling for gay guys just cracked me up. :]