Thursday, 28 January 2010
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Duh Yer Purdy
DISCLAIMER: For the sake of argument, I have done this before and am so guilty on both ends, this is not a run at chicks it is a run at...well I will let you decide.
She walks in and she is in tears, and even when she is crying she is so beautiful. She vulnerable now...Wow she came her because she cares about me and trust me with this. How special she is and how special she just made me feel, she speaks of the jerk that broke her heart and how she needs to start looking for good guys. It springs to mind that, hey, you are a good guy and that the two of you have so much in common. Maybe...why not I deserve this and I will treat and take care of her better than anyone ever has, EXACTLY. There is no way that she is the B everyone claims she is, she's changed, she's learned she stopped being crazy and witchy all the time in fact she seems to have really settled down. Sound familiar to anyone?
It does to me and I have been their more than once and really don't ever want to be there again. But wait the story isn't over.
3-5 months later: Man she has been acting so strange lately, why is she being so indecisive and rude? I don't get it she never wants to see me anymore. I can't believe she doesn't like (insert preference), I thought that she really liked it? Now she's hanging out with her friends all the time; I thought she hated those people, I mean she always talks crap about them and never wanted to hang with them before, why now?
She doesn't break up with you, she merely displays disinterest so that you are always "on eggshells" she's so distant now, she stopped being the person who appreciated your considerate actions and the tending to her needs. You ask what is wrong, "nothing." Same answer again, of course, you are just acting differently and I am to assume everything is okay. Eventually, with pale-emotion she ends it and you fervently wanting to know why the answer always should have been clear...
The BranGelina or Ry-Scar syndrome. It gets us all at least once, unless we are the chosen few in the category of societally hot. I know, I know it never happens to you, okay. What is more common is that it rarely happens to women because of societal norms, even though it does still happen.
What I am really talking about is perception and more accurately it is self perception. Why is that we feel so...enamored with beauty that it makes us SOOOOOOOOOOOOO f-in stupid. I understand that this may be superficial, but can you ever think back to a point where you did someone because you superimposed their looks onto there value set (English translation, ever thought someone was who they were not because of how they looked). I thought really that this was a little high school (it is easier to spot there for sure) but is it????
Question: Does being societally attractive allow more freedom to act without regard for others, (I know the answer is no, but why does it still happen then?)
Have you ever been bushwhacked (always wanted to blog bushwhacked) by a hottie. How come HOT people make other people dumb?
CREDITS: Utoppia (sp), bluesky, and the girl that wrote Innocence Lost
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I am hot, and all the uglies are mean to me.
bc it's true. ppl give "attractive" people a free pass in many situations.
"Does being societally attractive allow more freedom to act without regard for others, (I know the answer is no, but why does it still happen then?)"
Honestly, I think it does.
Don't get me wrong--someone who does something bitchy is still being bitchy regardless of their appearance. But people deemed attractive get more allowance, because people do value looks, both consciously and subconsciously. Physical attraction gives points in someone's favor, so "attractive people" have more points to begin with than someone who isn't considered as attractive.
Then as time progresses, and personality starts being revealed, bitchy attractive people will lose some of that initial respect, and kinder, "less attractive" people will generally gain it.
Why does it work this way? Well, it likely has to do with what people think others have to offer. An attractive person has their body, which is one of the first things people notice about others (no, really, even the people who claim they look at personality first). Less attractive people have to have time to show what they offer.
-=-=-Dude, I have no idea what you're trying to write about. It does not flow at all. So this is what I think you're going at...
Have you ever been dumb-stricken by physical appearance (and/or infatuation) that you superimpose your ideals onto them? Yes, I have. I'm very prone to doing this all the time, and this does not just go for looks as well but for familiarity. There are countless times where I like someone to the point that I see them as perfect (in my eyes) and any flaws that people may point out are insubstantial in my eyes. In fact, I still carry that problem with me today. When I fall it's into the very depths of hell called love; so blinded that it takes heartbreak for me to break out of.
I like to see both sides, but oh ironic that when in-like, I am blind.
-=-=-"Does being societally attractive allow more freedom to act without regard for others, (I know the answer is no, but why does it still happen then?)"
I agree, if you're good looking you're given a lot more leeway in the beginning. However I believe it all balances out in the end, just sometimes it takes a lot of time if perhaps one is on the end of either spectrum.
Everyone has their moods and issues. Some people cry themselves to sleep at night and no one's the wiser. You could try asking her what's wrong then leave her alone if she doesn't respond. But I would give her some space to be in a better mood/figure it out on her own.
Beauty is tough to overlook but it's good to have this reminder. Not everyone is charming or elegant but kindness shines through and lasts if it's in their true nature. And beautiful people can behave unruly.
This confused the shit out of me. 0_o What are you trying to say?
hahahahahahahaha bushwhacked.
hot people get away with anythin, fact. but they wont always have there looks. others will always have their personality/talent/intelligence/whatever. fact
:)
Question: Does being societally attractive allow more freedom to act without regard for others, (I know the answer is no, but why does it still happen then?)
Well actually, the answer is yes...clearly your bad experience is clear evidence of that. Perhaps you meant that it shouldn't be that way, and in that I agree with you. It shouldn't be, but it is so.
That doesn't make it right however!
lololololol what were you on when you wrote this? the only part i could comprehend was the last question... and no, pretty people shouldn't have more leeway but it just so happens to work that way
Wow, I am totally confused. You made no sense, you have grammar and spelling problems, yet you try to use big words and then explain it to us like WE are the dumb ones. Were you drunk when you wrote this? Did datingish proofread this before they decided it is worth posting? This is a piece of crap.
nice guys tend to fall for the stuck up hot chicks again and again. I think it is called being pussy whipped. crude term but that is the summary that I got for this blog. hot people know that they're hot and can have multiple men/women tied around their fingertips, so they keep these people, who are sprung for them, on "eggshells" because they have the sexy power*manic laughter*
1. Bush whacked, huh?
2. RyScar Syndrome?
3. Are you saying that those who do try and hel pthem out months down the line will experience why guys were jerks to her in the first place? I can see that. Reminds me of a certain someone back in the day.
i'm glad to know i wasn't the only one who couldn't figure out what the op was trying to say...
i generally give people 3 chances to "fuck up" with me in some sense or another before i decide they're out of luck. however, i only give attractive girls one chance. that's cause they're used to being treated better, and are more likely to expect that people will tolerate their bullshit. i refuse to feed into such a system.
As much as I'd hate to say it, with beauty and charms, attractive people easily get out of trouble! It sucks!
Extremely Attractive people take and take, they are the consumers. The Brains (usually less attractive) create and produce. "I'm pretty, i dont have to do anything constructive." But speaking from a male stand point, the Brains make the most money, making the attractive accessible. To find and tame a beautiful woman whose successful and does something constructive is very rare and special. Good luck to you.
@proudsmartypants@xanga - @SexcapadesAnonymous@xanga- I'm not even able to answer the question. The grammatical errors are making me dizzy.
@need_more_thinspiration@xanga - well if thats the case then you might as well use it while you have it, and theres no telling if that pretty person has personality or brains.
&&& i have to say that if youre a girl chances of getting your way are even higher
I was thinking about this earlier.. yeah, pretty people definitely have an easier life. DGAF what you say, it's the truth. :/
Speaking as a girl that didn't used to be very attractive, I would say that becoming prettier has made my life easier. I definitely get away with more things. This is a multifaceted question though. On one hand, I get away with more because I have more self-confidence, ergo I am willing to push more because I feel like there is a smaller chance that I will face disapproval. Also, I think people automatically like prettier people more (of the opposite gender, that is). Girls are not always nice to each other :/
So I guess I can't really pinpoint what the cause of my getting away with more is. Is it because I'm willing to push or is it because people actually let me have what I want/do what I want?
I listen to my very attractive boyfriend (I'm not saying this out of pride or whatnot, it's basically a general consensus ^^) talk about some of the things that he's been able to get away with and...*Sigh* If he weren't so cute, his charm just wouldn't have the same effect.
It's not fair, is it. It's true though. I'm pretty sure I do it too sometimes, but I'm not as good at it as he is.
Yh cause pretty people like will always be the ones on appearance people r gonna wanna be friends with, so they have ongoing people like wanting to be ffriends with them, or be them. im ugly btw =/
@rxc2009y@xanga - God I hate so f-ing hate you!
:P
Actually I read an article in Psychology Today about how the more beautiful a girl feels, the more entitled she feels. She feels like she deserves the best, the richest, the handsomest, the sweetest. Depending on how hot she feels, she might not be able to settle for anyone. Just give it some time. Most hotties are like vehicles, their value depreciates over time. So they'll try to lock some man into a relationship, and since a man's value usually relies more on his wallet than appearance, and he realizes his value is greater than her diminishing appearance, he'll leave her. Because the more you value you think you are, the more entitled you feel. There's a good chance she'll be ready to re-evaluate her self worth in twenty years, give it time. Until that time, go for for a girl that's actually worth it, beautiful on the inside and out.
fuck yeah ;) i believe that completely...yup . I agree with you x)
Great post. I totally understand you."gramaticla issues" were no problem ,some of these dumbfucks on here need to put one in their mouths.I understood every part of what you were saying .
Yes, these beautiful people get away with things more so than us averagies...lol
I have no idea why this is! But the ones who get passed up need to find each other so that they can be happy together and treat each other the right way.