Wednesday, 27 January 2010
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80/20 - Almost But Never Perfect
If you're dating someone for a while and it's become serious, I'd say you know a good amount about them.
But in the words of my mother; "No matter what you tell a person, NEVER tell them everything. Keep at least 10% to yourself".
But the question is: The things you don't know about... do they matter?
Now about that 80/20. It doesn't matter if a person has what you want, it's never everything. Everyone has this fantasy of having a person that fits all our criteria, but in reality that just won't happen. "Ain't... gonna... happen.."
As much as I would love someone to have everything I'm asking for. Thinks the same way, acts the same way as me. Does stuff in the same way I would? I would be lying to myself thinking that could ever happen.
It's not my world, I just live in it.
And that's what all of you should do (if you haven't already)
In fact, most people have the 80% (majority) of what we desire and there's always that 20% that we just can't stand. A relationship is never perfect, it just happened to be a good day for it. Arguments come out of nowhere, and they end just as quick. Relationships start as fast as they end.
Just because you don't dislike a person, doesn't mean they'll put a ring on it (uh uh ohh)
It's more to it, then just having a good rap sheet. there is actual work involved in making one work.
Just be happy someone likes your ass that much to even like you 80%... it's a pretty big number.
Do you agree?
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nobody's perfect
Not everyone will be 100% perfect ,but 80% percent works, despite how much that sounds like settling. Plu,s sometimes its all about what the 20% is, and whether it is such a big thing.
that's true, sometimes even 80% is a lot of ask for.
Hahaha, agreed! Most definitely.
Agree with the not telling someone everything, or them not having everything you want?
eh, I'd go crazy if there was ever someone I thought was 100% what I wanted. They'd be too perfect. I'd have to kill myself out of jealousy, or inadequacy, or something. Much better that I fucking hate them for a thing or two... since god knows they'll have plenty to complain about.
@milkplus_synthemesc@xanga - how major a thing?
i don't see what the first part of your post has to do with the second.
when I really like someone, I like them 100% to begin with, sometimes beyond 100 and maybe it feels like 150% but they do or say things that make me like them less, so their percentage subtracts until I become depressed and the relationship is over. then later a new relationship begins and I'm excited and happy again, back to 100% and the cycle continues. they aren't perfect but perfect in my eyes in the beginning. I hope to see someone perfectly everyday and by that, I mean someone who makes me more happy than sad.
Hmm, I don't really keep anything to myself, ever, for anyone. I find it keeps the real friends close, and the fake ones just leave after like an hour.
Lucky for me, my boyfriend is 100% what I want :D
how can I tell if the % has reach 80/20? because when in arguement, it's like 50/50
no one is 100%
there is always someone else who can make up for the bad in the current guy and another who will make up the bad in the next and so on. there is no such thing as the perfect!
he may look good but be an ass
he might make a ton of money but beats his gf
so.. choose wisely!
you are not perfect so dont expect the guy to be either!
Some people find the 100 per cent, some people stay lonely because they'll only accept 100 per cent. Most people settle for 80 per cent. To be honest, I'd settle for 35 per cent right now, as long as that 35 per cent was below the waist...
http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com
Uh, the 20% is needed to spice things up!
80/20 sounds fair to me. Wanting someone a full 100% is when love turns into an obsession. Then again, I'm the girl who needs my own space and free time so maybe other girls will disagree with me.
Yeah no one is ever perfect or 100%, but as long as you two are perfect together, then that's all that matters
"Just be happy someone likes your ass that much to even like you 80%... it's a pretty big number."
-You're right,cause if I was a guy , I might not deal so well with my bitchiness like my bf does
agreed.
There's no such thing as being 100% the same as someone else. Even if there was, I wouldn't want that. I can annoy myself enough as it is, why would I want two of me around? I think it more depends on the actual issues that are agreed/disagreed upon. You can click 99% with someone, but dump them because you find out they're racist, don't want kids, or have an addiction problem. You could click 20% with someone but agree on the right issues. I personally wouldn't mind disagreeing with someone on a decent amount of things, because it means my time with them will be interesting and they can show me another world view.
But in response to what you said at the end, I agree that a big factor in whether relationships work is whether the people in them are willing to make it work. Of course, it also has to be worth making it work, since some people make it work when they really shouldn't. Love is just complicated.
if you can deal without that little 20% then your set. That 80% is probably the more important factors your looking for anyways. Plus I rather have an 80/20 instead of a 20/80.
Agreed. But the funny part is usually when its all over the 20% that you could not stand before...is what you miss
agree
@bluemoonlunareyes@xanga - also agree
Too often and too many people merely want to find all that they're looking for in a person ("the right one") instead of trying to be the right one themselves.
you can't say that no one will ever find their 100% it happens. yes on rare occasions considering there are thousands of potential suitors out there. but you have to keep your hopes up and your head held high. I haven't been in many serious relationships but the ones I have been in I have always tried to give that 100% and only hoped to receive it from them. Love is a beautiful and splendid thing and I wish that everyone gets to experience it.
Oh, Daniel has a lot of flaws.
He's a total klutz, messy, and he has a carefree attitude, that is sometimes so frustrating, I can't stand it...
But on the flip side, he has a lot of funny stories because of his clumsiness, and he helps me put things in perspective with his carefree attitude.
It just depends on how you look at it, and how well their flaws mesh with yours. =]
sure