Take a long good look at the picture above because if my boyfriend was able to have it his way it would be the last time I was photographed or even walked out the house with that much cleavage. Now let me give you some stats, I'm 5'7 Size 18, 42DD. I'm a big girl indeed but thanks to my momma I have a wonderful curvaceous shape (ask the boyfriend, he loves it.)
No matter how much he loves my appearance he would much rather that I cover up the girls when him and I head out. Now don't get me wrong, the cleavage is never over the top drastic, but when you have a nice set of twins you like to show them off every once in a while. Plus it seems that most trends are made to show off boobage.
When we met, I'm pretty sure the girls were on full display, it was the summer time aka the season of BOOBS. I mention this to him and he said that it was okay back then. We were in the "getting to know you" stage of our relationship. He feels that now that were are in the "boyfriend/girlfriend" stage that he is now concern about my boobs getting unwanted attention when him and I are out in public.
I told him that I would down play the boobs a bit, but at the same time I'm still going to wear clothing that I feel makes me look and feel good. Please he knows that he should be able to trust my judgment.
So what do you think? Should a girl wear less revealing clothing when with their SO, or should it not matter?
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I think you should be able to wear whatever the fuck you want it's your body. It's not like you're going up to some guy and rubbing them against him so what does he care? I dunno if I had a girlfriend that had nice cleavage why not have her show it off. I'd go farther with this but uh..I'll stop so I don't get punched in the face.
...WHAT!?!?!
I think it shows a certain amount of respect towards the SO to wear less revealing clothing when out with them. My boyfriend loves when I wear revealing clothing around him, but when we go out he makes me cover up. They don't want other people oogling THEIR goodies, which is totally understandable. But showing a little of your gifts doesn't seem harmful to me. Not over the top titties-hanging-out-WHOA cleavage, but you shouldn't have to wear three sweaters to cover up either. :]
most guys are into the huge tits. my girlfriend's are smaller, just Bs, but i LOVE them. she gets some attention, not a lot but some, from guys but she is totally oblivious to it. i let her wear what she wants cause no matter what other guys can see, being almost a foot taller than her gives me the perfect down the shirt view if you know what i'm sayin! mmmmmhmmmm!
in all seriousness though, i don't much like when her boobs are out very much. she usually covers herself up on her own but if her bra is hanging out or if something else is somewhere it doesn't belong, i help her put it back! haha. i like to kid around about it and i generally like to do it myself just to be funny :)
My bra size is 38DD and it's hard to 'hide' them. Even if I'm wearing a shirt that completely covers my chest, 'the girls' won't be flattened by it, everyone will still see my huge boobs' shape, so you know. I don't think he can tell you how to dress.
Yeah, Im a size 14 with 38 DDs. I love it sometimes, others I wish I was back to my Cs. If you love your own body though, you should have the right to show it off. Its a confidence builder. Its not like you are trying to seduce other guys for christ sake. He should value your independance and be happy he has a confident woman who is proud of herself. :)
I don't have anything down there, but I still like to dress up. (:
He reminds me of a man who's about to get married. My dad and my uncle had their wives wear unrevealing wedding gowns hahaha.. the poofy sorts or the ones that cover up the arms and cleavage XD
I don't own my girlfriend. Therefore, it would be kind of weird for me to order her not to do something silly like that.
... lucky for me, though, I couldn't care less about what she wears. : )
I always display my 34A cleavage inappropriately.
i want your boobies! i'm only a 34c! booooo! ok anyway i guess i side with both of ya 'cuz you're a woman and you're free to do what you wanna do and show off your "assets" and in most countries women are not allowed to show their assets.. but then for your man i think he wants your "assets" to himself and he'd rather you not show it off to others and that maybe he's just looking out for you at the same time also... but don't think yeah he doesn't like it so you gotta be a prude and just wear a big ass trench coat or something... there are clothes out there that are sexy but not slutty looking good... it's just a matter of where you shop and what you think is sexy in your eyes...
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - I know what you mean, I've got the same bra size. I don't wear many shirts that show cleavage, but it's not like hiding cleavage is going to make my boobs invisible.
seriously, if you got them flaunt them. it's YOUR body.. he has no right to tell YOU what to wear. I understand why he would but seriously.. it's not like your boobs are going to make you cheat on him.
It's in his nature to be protective of you, but that isn't your problem (:
I don't think he's trying to be oppressive, but it's surely coming across like that.
Dress how you see appropriate, he needs to work on recognizing your devotion to him on his own time.
i could wear a shirt with a v-neck that stops at my belly button and still show no cleavage.
I think you have a point. If he met you with the, showing then he should not expect them to go away cause you guys are together. Same thing for girls to guys. I wish I had something to flaunt. I guess tho that even if I had some I would not flaunt them, but thats me.
You shouldn't do anything to alter yourself that YOU don't feel would be in your best interest. If the clothes you wear make you feel good about yourself, then you wear those clothes.
Your body is yours, don't let anyone tell you what to do with it or how it should look.
I think what he is very worried about is the fact that the way you drress can affect a guy. Even if you don't mean it that way, showing your boobs feel like bait to some men. The size, the way it applies to your curves, how soft they are, etc, Men like boobs as much as they love a woman's ass. It's like an accidental mating call.
So, I don't think he is trying to rule you and how you dress. He trusts you. But he doesn't trust those who are trying to pursue you because of how you dress. You know? Body language and how you dress sometimes says everything about your availability or your tactics on catching a man, and as Mancouch proves, showing big breastices or even have them will never stop being stimulating.
So, while he probably shouldn't rule how you dress, at the same time, it helps to be conscious about his worries on other people. You know?
It's not about the boobs or the butt, but the legs!
And I've got miles of legs.
;]
i would think he cared more about what you wear when he's not around. but regardless, i kind of see it as a sign of insecurity on his part, and you should do what you want. if you care about him, i think you should consider his level of comfort. just don't let it dictate your life.
From an outsider looking in, it's simple to say to do what makes you happy. I think it's great for a woman to wear clothes that accentuate (not flaunt) her assets. Curves are a feminine feature and it's a part of being a woman, so why not show 'em off?! But at the same time, it's hard to do all of that when it affects how your man feels and perceives you.
If a guy asks a woman to cover up or change her style of dress to suit hime, he's insecure & is afraid that someone else may compete. As long as you know I'm with you & I know that, no one else matters. It goes both ways in fact. Now if someone flirts with your SO regardless of their style of dress & they're responding to it, then you dont need them.
With today's clothing it's sometimes hard to cover them up! I shop at AE and with how all of their shirts/cammi's are I can't seem to keep my girls covered and they're only C's!
But if your SO wants you to cover them up I would try and find clothing that does so.. I mean its not often you find a guy thats telling you to cover your boobies up instead of showing more of them! He must be a catch! lol!
I know everyone's going to say that he can't tell you what to wear, but you should see it from his perspective too. he's only saying it because he obviously really likes and/or loves you, and he just wants you and your beautiful self all to himself! I mean when you think about it that way, can you really blame him? (:
I think you should just reassure him, possibly seductively (hahaha), that you're all his, and he doesn't need to worry about other guys getting to look at your boobs because he's the only one that gets so much more than just looks. just reassure him, and I'm sure he'll be fine =)
it depends on the guy. some prefer modest. some prefer sexy. some are flattered by the attention. some are annoyed and jealous. guys I know prefer the sexier the better when with him. I think as long as it is the "just look, no touch" rule then it is okay to show some subtle cleavage to feel sexy.
compromise with him
Well, I think that's kinda a double standard. You should either cover them or be able to show them off, not one or the other depending on the situation. Sure, there are some times when it's not appropriate to show off your girlies, but in general, you should be able to flaunt them as you please (or don't please).
In my experience (being a D-cup), it's hard to NOT show your boobs. When I wear anything other than a plain t-shirt, they tend to peak out AT LEAST a little (usually more than a little). It's not like I'm trying to dress like a slut... it just so happens that most girls fashion likes to showcase our finest features (aka, our curves).