Monday, 25 January 2010
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Faking a Deadly Disease?
My boyfriend’s crazy ex-girlfriend has not moved on. They broke up in 2007 but have continued to stayed friends with him. I started dating him in January 2009, and we have just celebrated our one year anniversary on the 7th.For one year, I have had to put up with his ex’s antics. She cheated on him and since that day has been latching herself onto him as a friend. I knew of her and how she looked like, and I was fine with them being friends. However, in June 2009, she sent him naked pictures of herself. As if the pictures weren’t enough, she also sent a long letter telling him how much she still thinks of him and will always love him.
That was the last straw for me; I started to resent her completely. She is pretty ugly, and has since gained weight, so this has nothing to do with jealousy. I was rather resentful at the fact that she did not respect me at all. I met with her, and I asked her, “why did you do that when you know he is with me?” Her answer was “I know that he doesn’t love me, but I just needed to tell it to him. It’s a way for me to have some closure”. What kind of answer is that?
My boyfriend did not end the friendship because he still talked to her on the phone and on yahoo chat. He has several mutual friends with her, their family are business partners (her mother buys supplies from my boyfriend’s dad’s company), and that he felt responsible for her condition. He didn’t help her move on and prolonged her obsession with him because he wanted her to pay for cheating on him four different times. He knows that what he did in the past to make her like this was wrong, and feels really bad.
I just learned from my boyfriend that she called him yesterday to tell him that she has been diagnosed with a brain tumour. She has been constantly calling him and wanting support and sympathy.
I am very suspicious about this whole thing. He has been communicating less and less with her for me this past month, and out of the blue, she tells that she has a deadly disease. Now, she is expecting him to help her, and my boyfriend is feeling guilty for everything that has happened to her. He feels that he has been causing her stress and he dares tell me that he feels like “we are responsible for her actions”. She did crazy things to hurt me because I was the one who did not want them to be friends”, so she resorted to these things.
How dare he? I was okay with them being friends, and then she started doing crazy stuff to hurt me, and he expected me to be fine with her. I am thinking that she is faking, because it’s such convenient and good timing. However my boyfriend thinks she might be telling the truth.
Can a crazy ex fake an illness or disease to gain sympathy and attention?
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Have her show her medical record.
Ha, I started reading this wondering if I had unknowingly written this. Sounds like my hubby's ex. She never faked a disease...but did all the above and more, and lied about plenty of serious things. Not in your situation so I can't say for sure, but hell, if she's anything like the ex I had to deal with I wouldn't put it past her.
I also knew a girl who called up the guy who dumped her and lied about being HIV positive.
It's depressing, what some people will do.
But...can't really just call her out, because there's a chance it's real. Have your guy offer to accompany her to the doctor or something? Or even if you really want him to end all contact, just have him say that it's important she spend this time with her family - because that's very true, if she really does have a brain tumor. Sticky situation dude, I'm sorry.
I totally believe she could be faking. There are some psycho bitches out there lol. If you have a way of asking some of her family for the truth - since you say there are some connections - I would take the opportunity asap. better yet, have your man do it he should be the one to find out the truth and when he does, and if she is lying, you can analyze his reaction and then rub it in
god I've had to go through something similar to that. exes will do ANYTHING for attention. never trust them
That's not really a big deal. It's annoying.
Ugh, girls like that are the worst. Like she has any right to still talk to him after cheating on him. Some people just have no respect or morals. Tell her boyfriend to ask her for proof about the tumor. I think if he sees that she's lying, he might finally cut ties with her.
Wow, sounds familiar.....my ex pulled the whole "i'm dying of brain cancer" stunt. I was with him at the time and stuck by him because i thought he was dying. After a year of lies and him not getting any sicker, i finally realized he was lying. That does a crazy thing to you emotionally and i will never forgive him for trying to play off my sympathies like that.
Been there. It is a difficult situation. If you ask for proof then you are the one being unreasonable. The truth always comes out in the end but often it is too late to save your relationship. I don't envy you right now. I hope it works out well for you. She sounds like she needs some serious help.
Kat
Actually, a surefire way to find out: Call her parents to offer your sympathy (or have him do it). They will either kindly thank you/him, or they will say, "Um, WTF?!" and there's your answer :P
How does he feel responsible? She was the one that cheated on him. It was her fault and she needs to have reality slapped into her. The timing of the brain tumor does seem suspicious, so like @BlehhItsTu@xanga said, have her show a real medical report of it.
tell your boyfriend to volunteer to take her to her appointments and stuff.
get proof first ~_~
OMG... yes... well, my friends ex- faked a brain tumor... no lie.. churazy -_-
At least she's not pregnant with his baby?
yeah, i know that feeling. its a sore subject in my relationship and nearly destroyed it countless times.
my boyfriends last ex (who he apparently was in love with) was sneaking around with his best friend and they broke up. she latched on to his best friend for a while, then started going out with "her fiance" but still snuck around with my boyfriend's best friend. after we started going out, she started texting him nonstop about how she wanted him back, etc. and he said no. she would randomly text him and think theyre best friends and all that. she asked him one night over text while i was still there if he still had feelings for her. he said no, but he doesnt seem to care about letting her go, despite how much he claims he dislikes her.one night, i had enough, and did a childish thing in retrospect, but it was just building up so much, i had to explode. i grabbed his phone and told her to get lost.so she had a random friend text his phone 24/7. then the ex still continued to call/text/IM him. and he began to text and talk to her in secret. and i would find out, or he would let it slip... a decent period of time later. which i resented, because if an ex or someone who showed interest in me contacted me, he would flip out. and one day, i had it.i told him that if he is interested in continuing our relationship, he would let her go, as i have let my exes go for his sake. needless to say, i was successful in that argument. even though she is a sore subject, i try to put it behind me as best as i can. needless to say, she's nuts, and she is more drama than she's worth, therefore, not worth your time. the ex seems like the ex in my situation, as in wanting only attention no matter what, and maybe it'd be a good idea for your boy to block her and get a new number.if i were you, id confront your boyfriend about this issue as diplomatically as possible with a well-rounded case before things get out of hand and you lose control of your actions. if he is not willing to listen, even after multiple times, then i suggest that you find someone else.I suggest finding out for sure.
I mean 100% for sure.
Because if she actually IS sick,
you're going to feel like a total bitch.
Finding out shouldn't be hard. I agree with @whitetrashpoet@xanga - call her parents. It's not like they have a reason to lie to you.
Sure, she's crazy.. But brain tumors don't discriminate against the crazy. She could very well be telling the truth.
Just get proof.. easy as that :D
don't stay friends with exes or else things like this happens. once it is over, it is officially over, no friends, no nothing, bye for good.
this story is unfortunately all too familiar. some people are so insane. i'd get proof before accusing her though.
she sounds bipolar/crazy
@BlehhItsTu@xanga - LMAO i like this idea.
unfortunately crazy exes do exist, and even more, crazy bitches exist. this happened to me too, except the girl never went out with my SO. it was highly ridiculous, and she was a major pain in the ass.
sounds like a plot out of an asian drama series. XD!
RAID HER MED DRAWERS. if she had a brain tumor she would be on a crap load of meds. Or just ask her mother. Be like "I heard about you're daughter brain tumor i wanted to send my condolences"*give the mother flowers*and if she has a WTF look on her face, you know something's up..
(this is not a serious plot BTW)
@ordinary_gir1@xanga - wow. that is perfect! I need to keep that in mind for any future situations...never woulda thought of that. dang. (about going to the mother) then it's not like you're poking or prodding at anything that would appear to be a bitch move. you're just being thoughtful.
forget about the crazy ex. i think you need to have a long talk with your boy friend. he's acting like a douche, as well.
Yes... if they're crazy enough. Brain tumors CAN last along time, they can also be removed. Most men aren't fond of ultimatums, but it sounds like it's time. She might be faking, or might not. Does he love her enough, still, to want to take care of her and to tell you that she isn't responsible for the things she's done, but it's your fault?
No. It's not. He's not over her. I'd get over him, though.