With the busy schedules of modern people, sometimes it seems hard to find time for sex. I imagine back when we were all farmers and hunters, things were a lot simpler in that regard, but nowadays we work late, come home late, have meetings until late, take night classes, etc. Even when you have the time, sometimes you don't have the energy. A day of running around doing lots of things leaves you drained when you finally crawl into bed.
Even for a couple who wants to make sex a priority, sometimes it can be difficult. Humans are busy creatures. Myself, I can't wait until retirement, when I no longer have to leave my wife before the sun is up. Leisurely breakfasts and morning sex sound like a good retirement to me.
How do you make time for sex? What are some tips or tricks you use to ensure that you have the time and energy for each other?
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make date nights when you know you'll be relaxed, and won't have to go anywhere the next day. even when people have been together forever and ever and have 19 children, it's still a good idea to hire a sitter every week (or every other at least) and have a date, a night just for the two of you. same applies to sex- if you need to schedule it to make it happen, fine. if you feel the need to be spontaneous, then have it randomly in addition to when it's scheduled. problem solved
You should have it if you want it. The moment will be right or it won't.
I will never have sex.
Sex makes a couple.
Couples make babies.
Then the male finds the other undesirable and abandons her and the offspring and uses psychology to try to make a servant out of the offspring later with the word "love" and "it's expected that you love your parents" and "I understand that this is hard for you." Not really, no, I hate you, and I want you out of my life. No amount of brainwashing will get you anywhere. The mother uses it too because it is the evil product of another. Then I get to hear from everyone else how I don't love because I've never been loved and they can heal my wounds. I don't have wounds, scars, or anything else.
Back in the days of living in the brush, I'm certain that the women all protected their offspring and males went around looking for food. The alpha male probably did all the scoring until he was slaughtered by a younger one looking for his place in the world.
This isn't a bad thing. In fact, evolution has been slow during the last 10,000 years, and I'm almost certain this has to do with religion and a gaggle-hierarchy. Buy your way to perfection. Nope.
I think we should take a lesson from wolves. Not everyone needs a baby.
"I imagine back when we were all farmers and hunters, things were a lot
simpler in that regard, but nowadays we work late, come home late, have
meetings until late, take night classes, etc."
Yeah... you mean back when most people used to work on farms from sun up til sun down and the average factory worker spent 72 hours at work as opposed to our current 40 hour work week? Riiiight. If you go all the way back to our hunter gatherer origins I might agree with you though.
@PunkRockCowboy@xanga - that's why you were given a honeymoon, for the first one. The rest of the time you got together, it was to make helpers for the farm. Too tired for much else.
@PunkRockCowboy@xanga - i think people were also more open about it then, though. like, the whole fam slept in the same bed, and the oldest kid still got siblings. SURPRISE!!!
Wow, you got featured on Datingish. wtg ;)
I'm single but I always make time for two man-tugs every day - once after work and once to help me get to sleep.
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@Colorsofthenight@xanga - I love wolves. But unfortunately the law upholds our "evolutionary right" to kill the human alpha male. Laws laws laws... especially Moral laws and civils laws...
Planning for it helps, just asking if the other wants to do it a bit later or is too tired. We generally don't "schedule" it in a planner but we make plans.
@k_Skrap_moua@xanga - civil laws prevent moral laws. Civilizations has been rather awkward.
@Colorsofthenight@xanga -I'm still hoping that was sarcasm.
"I will never have sex.
Sex makes a couple.
Couples make babies."
Seriously? Ever heard of contraception?
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I personally don't schedule sex with my boyfriend. Whenever we get to it, we get to it and it seems to be fine for us. That's also because we don't have to wait too long.
me and my bf dont seem to have this problem. but i understand yes sometimes i am too tired, but thats one way to wake me up surely. And then you have the best sleep ever cuz ur just soo utterly exhausted ;)
haha, yeah I bet you can't wait until retirement and the onset of erectile dysfunction!!
cut out the TV, movie, online time and replace it with sex time?!
You can't really schedule that sort of thing if you want it to be any good. It just happens when the moment is right, and if that's not as often as you hope, well, then it isn't.
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - many have said, but guys will do strange things because the goal is to breed. I've had many friends lose their lives thanks to that.
No, I don't want your number. No, I don't want to give you mine. I'm not tired and going to give in from societal pressure.
Some actually want a relationship because they don't know any better. Then I'll pay later because unless I'm above him, he can mess with me in all sorts of ways.
@Colorsofthenight@xanga - Your comment sounded like a riddle a bit, but ok. What type of things will men do so that they can...breed? Hide my pills? Accidentally run out of condoms? There are so many ways of contraception that guys can't mess with [IUD, birth control shot, Nuva Ring, etc, etc] so I'm not sure what your point exactly is. I don't think guys really want to breed until maybe they're married or financially and emotionally ready and even then - it's not up to them, it's up to the woman.
Schedule sex? Well......might as well schedule bathroom breaks. You need the feeling and want to have sex; you can't just force it or it just becomes a chore.
We used to have to schedule sex when our kids were very small and their schedules were kind of set in stone. If we didn't do at 8:30, we wouldn't get a chance to. It's just the way it works. Now we are spontaneous to an extent. If the kids are asleep or otherwise occupied for a decent period of time, we'll go for it then.
i dont think i could schedule sex with my SO, there are some days that i'm just not in the mood for sex after a long day because i'm drained and i'm not feeling sexy. i want sex when i'm in the mood, unscheduled.
Scheduling takes off the passion. How sexy is "honey, let's do it after we watch King of the Hills at 9pm in our bed?"
i only see my boyfriend once a week and we already know we're going to have sex when we meet up.
totally understand this post. me an my gurl are workhorses of our fam, so beside faceook, xang private post, talkin/textin through out the day an private pics, we see each other weekly. dont really expect to see a change untill we decide to move in 2gether. hey an wen you kno you got that day you put everything into it
I don't have to worry about this at the moment, since I am still single and not in a relationship.
You just can't schedule sex. It's like scheduling when you are going to be horny. Sex to me is a spur of the moment kind of thing and happens when two people are in the mood.
"Saturday night at 9:00: Magic Happens"
Uhhh...that to me is a bit odd.