Everyone knows first impressions on first dates are super important and nerve wrecking. But what's even more important and nerve wrecking is meeting the parents for the first time.
My older girl friend finally met the younger guy's parents for the first time over the weekend. She was really nervous because she knew they knew she was older and she really wanted them to like her. During dinner, a loud rippling noise sounded while his dad was saying grace. Everyone just kind of looked up, wide-eyed around the table, then her boyfriend said out loud "do you want to excuse yourself and use the bathroom?"
My friend wanted to die especially when it wasn't her! It was HIM!!!
The rest of the dinner was a blur afterwards. During the car ride home, he just laughed and said he was just playing around and trying to lighten the mood because he saw how nervous she was. She told him that what he did was immature and NOT the way to make things more comfortable. In fact, it made her so uncomfortable she wish she could just disappear on the spot. He thinks she's being too serious when it's just a joke. She thinks he's being an ass.
Should she forgive him or make him squirm a little?
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oh man, id be petrified id honestly get pissed too since she was already extremely nervous, but ive noticed guys humor always tends to hurt someone elses feelings even if "its just a joke"
Um, he was kind of an ass... and she needs to make sure he knows how she felt about it. However, everyone is held under pressure when meeting the parents, but she needs to know that relaxing and not making a huge thing about it will make the impression even better. If she had laughed at him and teased him for what he did instead of being offended, she might have felt a little better. Both had good intentions, but both need to listen to what the other is saying.
Uncalled for, but it's usually a good way to get a chuckle out of people.. But in this case, wasn't the right time for it. Forgive him, but tell him never to do that again.
She needs to break up with him.
That is fucking priceless.
Frankly, it depends on the family. If someone did that at my table, my family has a decent enough sense of humor to laugh it off. Besides, as long as he told the people around the table later that it was him and he was just messing with her, I don't see any harm done.
Also, first impressions, while important, almost never really stick in the long run.
He was an ass, but she needs to lighten up a bit.
I'd laugh
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I agree though, being too tense just sets you up to small mistakes that you wouldn't make otherwise. First impression is whatever when meeting family, unless for some reason you give out a realllyyyy negative one.hahahahha it was a jerk move, but i would've laughed. i hope he owned up to it afterwards in front of the parents.
Honestly, I would still be pissed.
Trying to lighten the mood by embarassing the person who is in an awkward situation isn't a good idea to me.
I probably wouldn't mind that much if the guy laughed and admitted it was him soon after, but if he left his parents thinking it was me? No thanks, then they'd think I was crude lol, not exactly a good first impression.
Sounds a bit douchebaggy. However, she shouldn't get too uptight about it.
as long as he confessed it was him later.. i think it's funny.. GAH
I'd tell him seriously that I didn't appreciate that but joke about it later (as long as he understands it wasn't cool).
What a meanie!
what a jerk! i would have went off at him in front of his parents!!
I would be so embarrassed, and turn bright red.
I really hope he let his parents know what REALLY happened, later. Poor girl! Time to break up or have a serious conversation.
I'd be embarrassed and kinda angry, too. Hopefully his parents know that it wasn't her!
uhm..... jerk face...?
He was waaaaay immmature
MAKE HIM SQUIRM. What a childish thing to do.
I think he is under the impression that he didn't do anything wrong, so there nothing to forgive. Still a jerk in my book, though, she should have said something like "does he always do this in when the family is eating?" Still, age is but a number in this day and age. She should have been more confident, b/c it definitely seems like he totally emusculated her in front of his whole family, better find a new guy because this one isn't a keeper.
Haha! She should forgive him. But he should've at least admitted to the family that it was him.
Sounds like Peter Griffin on Family Guy. I definitely wouldn't want to date a guy like that. I'd be so pissed off over that.
Looking at the guy, obviously he likes to joke around. If his parents aren't all strict and mean, I'd have made a joke back like "I think you need a bathroom break, make sure you wipe this time!". If they aren't very groovy parents, then the boy should know and shouldn't have made the joke or at least said it was him after seeing how she reacted. I can get a joke is a joke but first impressions to parents (to male or female) is important.
wow.. I would just break up with him because that's a totally inappropriate thing to do at the table. Otherwise, it was kind of stupid but still funny.
he's an ass. if he acts that way now, he'll act like that later. dump him and find a better gentleman.
sure she should lighten up, but on something like that, which was really embarrassing. he didn't even apologize.