Wednesday, 20 January 2010
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Listen Up: I LIKE YOU!
"Hello. I know that we don't know each other that well (or perhaps we do), but I just want to tell you something. I like you.
I don't know if it is your cute voice, the things you like and stand for, or your interesting personality, or how beautiful I think you are, there is just something about you that I would really love to have around me for as long as I can bare.
Now, I know you must look at me, and know that I'm not quite what you imagined your love to be, but if you were to give me a chance, I'll prove how capable I am of giving you what you need in a man. I have love, kisses and hugs sweet enough to fill you with plenty of energy. As long as you are with me, you will be reminded of how beautiful you truly are to me, how lucky I am to have found you, and that I am very interested to see where all of this might go. That is, if you are into listening.
You won't ever have to feel down about anything again.
If by chance it doesn't last between us, you can count on me to at least be your best friend anytime you need (another) one. Anytime you need me, you know where I can be found or how you can get to me.
Basically what I am trying to tell you is that I like you. I really like you. Would you like to be mine?"
I know my interpretation of asking someone else gives off a timid feeling, but nevermind that.
I hear that it takes confidence just so say that you like someone and girls like confidence. If so, how is it that after having enough confidence to admit to all of the girls in my lifetime of three simple words ("I like them") and would like them to be my date, I still get rejected the majority of the time?
Why is it such a chore or how did it turn to a chore to get someone to date?
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I hope whomever you wrote that to responds with a yes.
I thought someone I knew wrote this. Sadly, not everyone has your point of view. "Like me or I'll hate you!" is the kind of attitude I encounter...
I know just how you feel, sadly :/
In some cases it depends on the person... Maybe you're looking in the wrong places. It's very good that you do tell them you like them, because I know that guys and girls both like that.
It seems so hard to find someone... anyone... who will take you as you are, who will give you a chance. The guy I like likes me back, but he won't literally "be with me" because he's been hurt, and probably other reasons too, but he claims to not be ready. This is understandable, we're both young.. but it still hurts. I start feeling like I'm not good enough, feeling like I'm being used.
Either way, some people don't like quick starts. They want to know the person well before they date them, even if the point of dating is getting to know them romantically. It's best to start slow and hint for a while, but don't straight-out tell them until you both have an idea of who the other person is. Try that :) it's almost always worked for me.
I know how you feel. sigh.
Two things. One, I can relate. There is an increasing number of people who overlook things like that but is in due in part to the whole concept that people don't know what they want. Second and possibly more important. Being romantic is great and all, but ultimately that's never the most appealing aspect of any person. You can be charming or whatev, but ultimately you have to have personality. Be interesting. Have many things you like to do and don't try to force anything with people. When you force something people push away. Be playful and fun, and especially be yourself. If you think you have a major flaw that pushes people away then they will focus on that because you are. Draw the attention towards why your an awesome person and right for them. Don't worry about the flaws and such. I assure you if you like yourself, have fun and don't worry about it, not just a relationship, but a great one will find you.
It's great that you are so honest, but I cannot help but think that sounds like an interview answer. It's heroic but it also sounds like you are saying "this is how it is so you take it or not". Takes the romance out of it a bit.
Why not consider something that is a bit less harsh and allows for both your hearts to develop feelings for each other? http://bit.ly/6k6zVG
It doesn't give either of you the obligation to make it work, but lets it happen naturally, if it were to happen.
Ah, this was sweet. I can relate, and it's unfortunate that people are often too hung up on social conventions and "expectations" to realize the potential in others. Really, now -- where's the love?
:sigh sigh sigh::
i really liked what you wrote. i'm sure whoever it's for...they will just smile while reading it =). like is nice, but having to explain to them why in an a shy awkward manner is hard.
For a woman to understand and respect the confidence it takes
for you to tell her that , she must've had to ask someone out.
Honestly how many women here have asked out a man?
And upon being regected , continue to ask them out?
aaaaw!!!!!!! i'd ask you to marry me, but someone equally this sweet (yes sweet wins the girl sometimes) has already got my heart!
I'm sure your lady appreciates the promises. Just make sure you keep them!
I think that is very sweet what you wrote to your female friend .You told her what she can expect from you & what would happen if it didn't work out so it's win/ win either way cause she will still have another best friend .Very good letter .I wish you good luck with it !
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - The opposite applies as well, I've met some girls that liked me and after I expressed intents of only being friends they lash back at me with sharpened verbal blades. :[
/sigh I really want a close girl friend that's in college with me.
When I saw this on my homepage I knew you wrote it Chris haha.
I'm thinking that the girls you tend to ask may not 1) be looking for the sweet guy at that time in their life or 2) are scared of good guys because all they hear about from their female peers is how shitty guys are.
Just my 0.02$. (:
Know the feeling well, good writing also.
Because mystery is more seductive?
@boilingicicle@xanga - Hardly. Mystery feels like wasting time. I grew up knowing that if you try to add mystery or anything except honesty, then you will quickly lose her. This is example #1 to the fact that not all men are hip to mind games when it comes to asking out somebody.
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - What's your idea of mystery? Why does it sound like it can't go along with honesty? I think it's simply honesty - little bits of the truth handed over slowly, piece by piece, subtly - but not too subtly that you become forgotten or "just a friend"...
But yeah, most people aren't good at mind games. It takes a lot of work. And creativity. And a complete understanding of others' psychology...
@boilingicicle@xanga - I'm debating about whether or not to add this because I can't name credible sources for this, and my mind just made a connection between ideas that aren't usually thought of as being related to each other. I'm doubtful about this myself but...
Have you ever heard of the idea that... seduction is like waging a war... or hunting...? (I have, I can't remember where I got it from.)
Last night, I read this line in someone's blog: "Think of sex. How many times have you seen somebody you thought was
hot, and said or thought, "Goddamn, I just want to jump on him/her and
screw them right now!" That is not just a figure of speech. At that
moment you are listening to your animal instinct. You are the
predator, and they are the prey."
Is this possibly the reason why most of us prefer subtle strategies (often seen as "natural development") over direct approaches ( often seen as "desperate")?
I know, it would be nice to just tell everyone your feelings outright and they'd understand and accept, and be happy to reciprocate... But this approach has failed us so many times, hasn't it... And this is one of the reasons why life sucks...
@mynameisblueskye@xanga - Not necessarily. Different women like to be pursued in different ways. I think maybe you're just using the wrong method on the wrong girl. Although if you don't want to compromise on being clear about your intention from the start, then maybe it's not a bad thing you get rejected either. Because if, for example, she likes to play mind games and you don't, the two of you aren't that compatible after all, are you?
1) I'll come straight out and say that I don't think people are as courageous as they used to be. There's the whole fear of rejection and what society will think factor too.
2) People are pickier than they used to be because there's more on offer these days. (Or there's said to be more on offer.)
3) Sometimes situations like this can be intimidating or creepy, especially if you don't know the person who's asking you out.
4) People don't know what they want. Or what they need.
And I guess, honestly, unless the person is physically attractive the "risk" factor of starting a potential relationship doesn't seem like it's worth it, so you don't end up knowing what's standing in front of you. And you miss out completely.
uugghhh i hate this...this feeling is too close to home.
Higher standards of people these days? I guess? I don't know, I wish it was just easier to get those words out, and not to fear that awkward no feeling if it falls.
because people make it harder than it really is. Trust me, I'm the MASTER of making things harder than they should be.