Tuesday, 19 January 2010
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THAT Couple
You know which couple I'm talking about: the one where both people clearly don't like each other anymore, but insist on punishing themselves by staying anyway? That couple who makes you increasingly embarrassed in their presence due to their shameless bickering?
I only say this because I happen to know that couple.
Here are a few examples of the ridiculous behavior that I've experienced first hand:
We're in the car, and she decides to make three back-to-back phone calls.
He decides to blast the music in the middle of the third call.
In response, she slams her hand on the stereo power button and shoots him a look of loathing.
Once she's off of the phone, this happens:
Her: (In an incredibly sarcastic tone) I'm sorry, am I bothering you right now?
Him: Hell yeah, you are. Is it THAT crucial that you make all of those calls right now?
Her: I figured since you're driving, it would be a good time for me to do it.
Him: Yes, genius, why not make all of your annoying phone calls when we're all stuck in the car together? Screw doing it on your own time, when we actually have other things to do. Noooo, you HAVE to make us listen to your nonsense. What's that? Of COURSE we care that much, honey. Give me a break.
Her: Well, I figured since I have to look at your stupid face every day, then you could deal with listening to my phone calls. My mistake.
Him: Bitch.
Her: Douche.
Me: Soooo. How 'bout them Lakers?!We're all playing a game of rummy, and she puts down a hand in decreasing order (7, 6, 5, 4)
Him: Why do you always put your hands down that way?
Her: In what way?
Him: Backwards. What, do you think you're cool or something?
Her: No, actually, I do it to annoy you. It's my favorite past time, didn't you know?
Him: Ahhh, so THAT'S why you're so good at it.
Her: Yup. As a matter of fact, you can walk home. That would be pretty annoying, wouldn't it?
She proceeds to leave from the table. I'm stuck driving him home.He's annoyed by her face.
She thinks he breathes too much.Those are just a few examples, but it's never different with those two. They have incredibly short fuses when it comes to each other, and they're not afraid to let each other have it. Things that shouldn't be a big deal, are, and things that should be a big deal are disasters of epic proportions. It's pretty clear that they don't like each other anymore, so why are they even together? They're both my friends, so they're constantly venting about each other to me. Neither one of them is happy, but when I bring up the possibility of maybe breaking up, that's just out of the question for them. They disrespect each other constantly, and have full-blown arguments in public on a usual basis. I've told them both that they either really need to make an effort to work things out, or they need to split up completely- because they can't continue living the way that they're living now. But sadly, my advice always falls onto deaf ears. I want them to be happy, and I know that deep down inside they care about what happens each other, but the truth of the matter is, they're more attached to each other than anything else. I honestly think they've been together for so long, they don't know how to live without each other. And that's sad, because they're both making each other miserable in the process.
Do YOU know this kind of couple? Or are you a part of one? If so, what did you do about it? I'd love to have some insight.
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the make up sex must be awesome.
I wrote a post next to identical to this like two weeks ago... (here)
well not identical. similar, however. oh wells.
I refuse to let myself be a part of one of "those" couples
and I look at those couples and can't really bring myself to feel bad...
they will learn eventually, and they won't listen to anyone else.
it's only a matter of time. (and yes, it can take a VERY, VERY, long time.)
What best makes me realize how shitty my relationship is is definitely looking at it from a third person point of view. For example, my first boyfriend literally lied more than 50 times about what he did with one female friend of his, and when I tried to limit their relationship, he would guilt me into giving him another chance, telling me that I was being selfish and looking out for only my own happiness, not his nor hers. (He also did numerous other shitty things like tell me what I was doing was making him mutilate his arms, but I digress.)
It made it a lot easier for me to realize how bad of a boyfriend he was when I imagined whether I would recommend my friend date him or someone like him. I realized that I would never allow one of my best friends to date someone who had a history of compulsive lying, and it made me realize what a shitty person he was.
I never thought during that relationship that I could live without him, but now that I haven't spoken a word to him since September, it feels SO GOOD. It feels so good to no longer have him in my life. I had no idea how much I was missing out on in life with him holding me down.
These are all really extreme examples, and seems to be a breakdown in communication. I would suggest counseling for these couples, because positive communication CAN make a difference.
Having said that, my husband and I have had similar (but not so extreme) arguments, and that's just the way we communicate. We're both passionate individuals, so our arguments seem more heated than they are. :)
I was part of a couple like that a while ago. My first relationship, actually. We argued in public and broke up multiple times. I eventually saw that it was time to let go. Maybe one of them will too.
Hahah, WOW that's extreme. How long have they been together exactly? They sound like they've been married for a long time...
I hope I never ever get that 'comfortable' with my significant other. Whatever happened to just letting things going or being more gentle or nice about the things you say? Overall, I think stuff like that is really embarressing for them because they make everyone else around them feel awkward.
omg, it's my sister-in-law and her husband! They're terrible to each other. And worse than that, she's terrible to his daughter. She actually told him he had to choose between his wife and his daughter (obviously he chose his daughter). She moved back in with her parents. Again. They've been married 2 years, have 2 children together, and she's moved back to mommy and daddy's at least 3 times. I wonder why they're even still together if they hate each other so much?
@aznsam999@xanga - hahahaha so true, that is why they are still together!
@aznsam999@xanga - hehehe just thinking the same thing!
Good to know what my boyfriend and I do isn't that bad. We just bicker like an old married couple, apparently. :]
No.
Both masochists.
Judging from the dialogues, though, I'd say she is quite a bitch.
@aznsam999@xanga - I was just thinking the same thing. lmao.
you're too funny.
Me: Soooo. How 'bout them Lakers?!
LOL I USE THAT LINE TOO IN AWKWARD SITUATIONS! damn... coincidence made this post hilarious.
wow. i gotta meet one of these couples
I have never been in a relationship like that. Unhappy feelings make me queasy. Literally. When I'm fighting with my boyfriend, I stop eating. This usually causes me to jump (relation)ship.
Ooo, they need to break up... or learn some serious communication skills!
The first comment is the only comment that matters on this post.
My boyfriend's brother and fiance are like that and it drives me nuts. I mean, c'mon, you spent eight years arguing with each other so you're getting married? That makes plenty of sense.
lols i love those couples .. i know a particular couple like that too .. i tell them, it's like i'm watching a sitcom! hhahaha
Nope, but I wouldn't have driven him home.
But I'm just mean that way. Don't worry, they'll either split up after a few more years, or they'll get married, and become the old grumpy couple that ignore eachother or bicker all the time from across the nursing home.
I'd make up a not around me rule... you don't want to hear about their drama, and you don't want to live through it, so make it clear.
@InTheThin@xanga - Urofgh. It doesn't matter how many times you mention this guy it still strikes me personally. My first boyfriend/love was a cheating prick too- he pulled the same manipulative ''getting me back'' bullshit.. I empathizecompletely. :/
OP: I've been around couples like this. I always feel they love each other secretly... my best friend was having this exact relationship on and off for YEARS before it disintegrated into a baby-forced marriage. Wtf idk....
My Fiance and I call each other names all the time.
Asshole, Bitch, Jerk, Cunt.
It's all fun and games though!
:)
i only wonder why they are in it? personally id rather not be bothered