Saturday, 16 January 2010
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Who Knew? Time Really IS The Best Cure
Firstly, I would like to express my embarrassment after reading all of my former entries, because apparently, I was a meltdown-having, emotional mess of a basket case. My break-up definitely felt like the end of the world for me, and I honestly never thought that I would get through it.
Thus being said, my break-up happened almost a year ago (the douche broke up with me on my birthday), and I never could've even FATHOMED that I would feel as happy and secure as I do now. Whenever my friends and family would tell me that "time heals all wounds," I would just cringe and accuse them of saying cliche things to make me feel better. I used to think that nothing could heal the emotional turmoil that I felt, let alone giving myself time to heal. I wanted to feel better right away. So, what did I do? I drank. I gambled. I bar hopped. I needed to find myself another vice, because Heavens knows, I wasn't going to deal with my feelings in a healthy way.
Inevitably, however, I eventually got burnt out. I couldn't do it anymore. Not only was I becoming the ultimate female player of this desert, but I was acquiring stalkers at the same time. If one guy wasn't calling me 15 times a day (literally), then another was stopping by my house unannounced and showering me with constant, pointless text messages. The entire staff knew me at my usual bar spot, and I started to feel overwhelmed with just being myself. I thought that the constant attention would make me feel better during my break-up aftermath, but it just massively stressed me out instead. So, I finally decided to swallow my pride and take everyone else's advice... I gave myself time.
I went a several months with absolutely no testosterone in my life. I needed to be alone. And for the first time in what felt like forever, I wanted to be alone. During those months, I spent quality time with my baby siblings, family, and girl friends. I knew that I had to work on loving myself first and worrying about myself for a change. I needed to take some time to realize that I definitely didn't need a man in my life to be happy. I went to sleep every night, woke up in the morning, and went about my day, knowing that I didn't have a man to hold as a security blanket. And even though I can't deny that it felt a little lonely at first, I felt genuinely empowered after awhile. I was finally doing ME for the first time in three years, and it felt good. I wasn't just "______'s girlfriend," or some random man's play thing, or a crazy creeper's object of obssession. I was just Jocelyn. And honestly, knowing that I had my self-worth back was the best feeling in the world.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is that even though it sounds incredibly cliche, time really DOES heal all wounds. Being alone and taking some time for myself has led me to the happiness that I couldn't even imagine back then. Not only did I find security within myself, but I grew up. I know what I want now, and I won't settle for anything less. And then, to add some icing to the cake, my ex-boyfriend ended up running back to me, claiming that he wanted to get back together. He finally said all of the things that I needed to hear, and he finally showed me all of the affection that I yearned so badly for... one year too late. I used to sit around, wondering whether he would ever realize that he lost a good thing. And somehow, when he finally did, it didn't faze me. As soon as I allowed myself the opportunity to self-reflect and discover the part of myself that I lost while trying to nurse a broken relationship, I found out that not only can I heal... but I can really live again. I guess cliche words of comfort aren't so bad after all.
Have you found time to be the best cure as well?
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Comments (45)
Yes, time is always the best medicine. Nothing heals like it.
I've tried other remedies but time (and removing them from your life in every way you can) is really the one medicine for breakups.
Time isn't the cure, only you can decide when to stand up and walk again, time just gives you the openings to do so.
Glad to hear that you're feeling good again. How awful for him to break up with you on your birthday!!
I most definitely agree on Time being the only cure. After my awful breakup after 4 years, the only that that healed me was time.
story of my life.
right now. i'm loving being alone and having some of my own space,
and spending more time with friends and family.
especially after i feel like i've been neglecting them during the relationship.
time is key to healing a broken heart.
@ThisUserNameIsAvaliable@xanga - agreed
Glad things are looking much brighter for you. There's gotta be some truth if a saying was able to become a cliche.
I'm so glad your story had a happy ending for you . My advice is to be good to yourself & to find someone who will be good to you too .
Yes, I'm beginning to feel the joy of independence.
And now what's best is to find a man who I can marry.. and still have that sense of independence. (:
congrats :)
Just goes to show, clichés are clichés for a reason!
I completely agree with what you said in this post. Time as well as working on yourself is the best cure.
yes, definitely! Glad you got over it and found happiness on your own. =)
Congrats on moving on!!
I'm hoping I will.
it's alright dont feel embarassed i know how u feel about break ups everyone's like that :/
Found it but that guy broke my heart too
wow the exact same thing happened to me in terms of my ex breaking up with me, then i never thought id live then finally i did alone, he came back but it was way late .. and now i just cut off contact with him .. jerk faces
I agree...time really does heal you. For some, it may take months, but for others, it may take years!!!!
As cliche as all love statements are, they do have a truth to them!
Time heals all wounds.
Just let it work it's course...
Time's one of the best company we could ever have... (not all the time though). ;p
Yup, it's amazing what the free things in life can do for you emotionally and physically. I feel a hundred times better and think that I finally found all the things that matter most to me and also what my main priorities in life are. Best medicine I ever took!
I guess I'll know in a year...god i hope it's not more than a year...
I've been learning this myself, actually. Just ten days ago, I posted an entry on dreaming about my ex every night. Now? He's out of my dreams for the most part. He's not on my mind as much as even a week ago! In less than a month's time, I went from an immobile and depressed girl to learning that life goes on without someone who treated me terribly.
needed to hear this. thank you.
I'm still waiting for time to heal me. My ex-boyfriend and I broke up six months ago and I'm still not over it. I don't know if I'll ever be over him. I'm spending time alone, and spending time with friends, but I hate it. I used to love my own company, but now I just piss myself off. I end up sinking into a depression. I guess that I'm still angry with myself about everything that happened. I hope to be where you are at in life, in six months time, because then it will be a year ago. Thank you for sharing your story :).