Saturday, 16 January 2010
I’ve been thinking about my friendships and relationships lately. Currently, I don’t have many of either but I seem to be very selective. I think the bond I have with the person correlates with the degree of criticism I have of them. When you think of the traits you want in an ideal friendship and relationship are they too high? I wonder, am I judgmental? It doesn’t seem like the case because if I have a good bond with someone, I can look past certain flaws but there are certain flaws that I can’t overlook when the bond is poor.
This leads me to wonder is it the bond that blinds their flaws or is it that the bond that binds me to their character? What I know for sure is if I can relate to someone and respect them, there's nothing that would turn me off in our relationship. But when I can't relate to their negativity, it does become an obstacle to accepting them.
If others are reflections of yourself... Notwithstanding, I know I'm not perfect either. I wonder if I'm too lenient with myself or do I have the core traits that make me acceptable in my own eyes.
I am surrounded by people with negative social traits and I can't help but wonder if they affected me in an opposing manner to be so critical? They say 'Judge not lest ye be judged' but I judge others by how (well) they (can) relate to others.