If you are dating a guy or a girl (depends on whatever floats your boat) and they tell you that they are going to hang out with a new friend who happens to be of the opposite sex would you be okay with it?
So that leaves me with the question.....
Is it okay to make new friends of the opposite sex when your in a relationship? Personally, I feel that if you have complete trust in your SO then it shouldn't matter if he or she becomes friends with someone of the opposite sex during your relationship. However I also believe that there is certain circumstances where it is more appropriate to make new friends of the opposite sex than others. I would be more comfortable if my boyfriend made friends with a female at work, church, or school rather than at the Club, a party, or on Xanga or something like that.
So what do you think?
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I think that as long as you don't let the outside relationship become more important that your SO it should be fine.
Even if you trust your SO with all your heart, would you trust the "friend of the opposite sex?" I would probably want to get to know the "friend."
As long as it's friendship. If there is the potential to be anything more - probably not!
We both of friends of opposite sexes. Its easier for me to make guy friends because I've spent too much time with him for the past few years.
I know he's not going to go cheat on me with one of his girl friends, so it's all good :)
I'm naturally not a jealous or prying person, so of course I would let my SO hang out with a friend of the opposite sex. I wouldn't keep him from hanging out with his friends of the same sex, so why would it suddenly become a problem because he was hanging out with a girl instead of a guy?
If he started seeing her more often then he saw me or if she was becoming unusually close to him, then a discussion might have to happen (and I do mean talking, not random screaming and accusations).
Of course it's okay to have friends of the opposite sex! If you don't let your SO or your SO doesn't allow you to have friends who are the opposite sex, then there is a problem. It shows insecurities and efforts to control friends if you aren't allowed to be friends with certain people.
i think its alright to have friends of the opposite sex.. that would be very weird if all you ever had was your bf/gf, then all ur friends were of the same sex! what if you planned some sorta event? it wouldnt be very fun if it was all just girls/guys all the time lol.
You're instead of your!
Anyway.
NO. IT IS ABSOLUTELY NOT OK. In fact, might as well make a contract. He or she owns you and you are on a leash, and that's it. You're not even allowed to look at or think of a girl / boy.
Geez. No one can tell you if it's ok to be a friend of the opposite sex [or same sex - whatever floats your boat] and if they want to tell you, then they're just a tad bit obsessive and that's not good. It's one thing if that certain opposite / same sex friend is trying to seduce and woo you but if they're just a harmless friend regardless of what they have down there, they can be your friend, and your SO can't say anything about it.
The end.
@NadoAngel@xanga - Well yeah, get to know them but not put up rules and all that. That shows lack of trust and how insecure a person is, and it's a slap in the face for the SO because even if you say you don't trust their friend, they'll interpret it as you don't trust them - since it takes two to tango.
i trust my SO i just wouldn't trust the other girl haha.
i'd want to meet the friend or whoever.
plus i wouldn't be comfortable if they were hanging out alone, that would bother me.
Hmm, if they have met this person naturally through some kind of event or out with a group of friends or at work, fine....but if they've met online or something, I'd be suspicious...
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I don't mind
@Cest_LaxVie@xanga - yay for correcting grammar! :)
@Andrea_Vengeance@xanga -
Haha thanks. Incorrect grammar annoys me xD
Not only is it OK, he *should* try to be friends with other females as sort of a test.
If he can be with other females, and not develop feelings for someone else and/or cheat then you know he truly loves you. If he can't, you'll know he wasn't right for you.
Before I get married, I'd tell my fiance to go spend time with guy friends, guy strangers, etc to try to compare myself with them just to make sure we should be together since obviously marriage is a long-term commitment.
"If you let love go and it returns, then you know it's meant to be".
@Bbyphat22@xanga I copied and pasted my comment from you site since you liked it so much.
Um, why wouldn't it be ok? Thats silly.
@xXDC_luyouXx - Aww that's so sweet. "If you let love go and it returns, then you know it's meant to be".
I don't see anything wrong with being friends with the opposite sex. It's very unrealistic & limiting to say my friends will only be this or that.
my boyfriend and i are seriously attached at the hip. to hang out with
anyone without the other would be abnormal for us. that being said, id
like to meet them first and check out the vibes i get.
If I was already friends with the chick and I knew she was a good girl, I wouldn't mind. Unless they hung out alone...I don't think that's cool. Cause my boyfriend definitely wouldn't want me hanging out alone with another guy. So, it's tricky.
i find nothing wrong with it.
yea its fine
Um, last I checked I don't own my boyfriend or control his interactions. He can do whatever the fuck he wants to.
Of course. When I read the title, I was like "...Seriously? /eyeroll."