Friday, 15 January 2010
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Have You Dated One of These?
I happened to come across this "checklist" and found it very intriguing. As I was reading down the list...I noticed that I was saying yes to nearly all of the items listed. I was thinking, "WTF?! How could I have been so...blind and stupid?! Didn't I know I was being manipulated and lied to?" Of course not!
Unfortunately, these things happen all the time to even the smartest, strongest, and most independent person. It was so hard for me to accept the fact that I had been deceived. I was led to believe that I was the "bad guy" in the relationship. At first I was bitter and very angry. I bitched and complained, but eventually, I learned not to waste my energy anymore. It is what it is.
To know if you're dating a "psychopath"...see if you answer "yes" to the following...
1) He is generally superficially charming and often makes a striking impression as possessed of the noblest of human qualities.
2) He makes friends easily, and is very manipulative, using his ability with words to talk his way out of trouble.
3) The psychopath is unable to feel sorry for others in unfortunate situations or put himself in another's place, whether or not they have been harmed by him.
4) Lying, deceiving, and manipulation are natural talents for psychopaths.The most amazing thing, however, is their selective memory. Most psychopaths are very arrogant and cocky..
5) When charming a potential victim, they say all the "right" things and make her believe they are kind-hearted souls; not always, but often enough.
Have you dated one of these?
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Women are fully capable of being crazy, and manipulative. Anyone could posses the above qualities. I know more than a few people... Hahaha.
I've dated a guy who meets #3... and yes, he was a psychopath... I haven't dated him in 3 years and about a month ago I had a dream he was trying to kill me... I'm still scared of him.
I'm like 4 for 5 on this. Oops.
women are capable. i have had this though. with a guy who tried to talk me out of my virginity. i ended up seeing it just in time though. although it hurt so bad because he actually kicked me out of his house when i wouldn't sleep with him. it was the middle of the night. i think all women can recognixe these types but we don't want to be right or manipulatied by anyone. so we let ourselves believe their lies. it happens to the best of us. all we can do is hope we learn for the future.
It's rare that I say something so cold... But this post is kind of stupid. lol
Nah, not yet.
my mum did. thank goodness that's over :)
This describes a good percentage of women I've dated (and several more that I haven't). I wouldn't call most of them psychopaths, though.
This came from a website, didn't it? LOL. I swear I stumbled across this website a little while ago! Haha. Could you kindly post the name of it?
Rofl, yes.
But honestly, that's human for you so can't really say that you're blind and stupid.
I once went on a date with a girl who turned out to be a psychopath. She told me she had depression an hour after we met and the night ended in a fight on the street. Obviously I documented it in a post: http://plentymorefishoutofwater.blogspot.com/2009/09/date-with-depression.html
whoa! yeah, i have. for 3 years.
good thing its over :) haha.
@Simply_Cynical@xanga - it sounds like whoever wrote this just got dumped.
I've dated crazy people but never a psychopath. As a matter of fact I didn't think psychopath meant lack of empathy at all, shows what I know. Anyway I know a psychopath given the description then, all he does is manipulate everyone around him to get what he wants and he completely ignores everyone elses feelings and responsibilities as he begs for what he desires. He also lies just to hurt people and then says he was joking and that everyone is just being too serious. I've never heard him offer consolations to anyone that wasn't to put himself into a position of power either. Interesting that is the definition... I knew my friend was an ass but I never suspected that he was actually a psychopath.
Most of those are requirements for being a guy.
I wouldn't call him a psychopath...just a player, he was lots of fun, but apparently for lots of women...at the same time.
omg. i dated one guy that possessed almost all those qualities. ha! lasted 7 months and then i finally realized what was going on. glad thats over and far back in my past.
I'm dating one right now. I've recently relised where I am with her. I'm giving it one last chance and actually standing up for myself and trying to change her and how we are but I honestly don't know it it will work out.
Ending the relationship I'm in now will absolutely crush me. I've been hurt so many times, over and over. But letting it go will be the last thing I had dissapearing; hope.
I'm a bit crushed that she applies to most of those points. Thanks for the list.
Nope. I hardly date at all.
no. lol.
I wouldnt exactly call my ex from 3ish years ago a psychopath but he was VERY superficial, manipulative, loved by all but very self absorbed, cocky, literally thought we was God's gift and sadly some people (like one of his teachers agreed). He usually got his way and put me down a lot. It's sad to believe this guy was almost a father to our baby (who didn't make it...sad). I am completely in HATE with this guy.
I know guys think I'm slightly psycho but for different reasons. Guys and girls both have this! It just so happens that ACTUAL clinical psychopaths happen to be males.
No.
Yep, sure have... also had my eye on one too... they are also known as assholes!
In my far distant past yes, they are best avoided.
Related to and friends with a number of these.